So here is my question on the broad "friendzone" topics.

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colalella2891

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leelee said:
Also on a side not, he is about 2 1/2 years younger than me and this causes me concern however the few friends I have told about my liking him tell me not to be so silly, am I being silly? It is more than the age thing because I am a graduate working in my chosen field (nursing) and he is still a student.
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Age differences aren't a big deal in my opinion... But yeah i'm not entirely sure. I don't want to steer you wrong. If you're concerned about it, maybe ask him in a casual manner how he feels about dating older women??? I dunno, lol.

You already mentioned you were gonna pray about this whole situation, so you can pray about this as well. :)
 
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This is based on the theory that you can't have a relationship following the friendzone.
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Flawed theory.

Just make a move when the timing seems right is my recommendation.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I don't think age matters at all to be honest.

Well

unless he's underage....
 
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I don't like the flirting concept, because men and women do it and sometimes never mean a thing by it. You can never tell if it is genuine or not.
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I think it's always a sign of attraction but not necessarily a sign that they are wanting a relationship, as is the case with all of this stuff, it can be used for good or evil. More so in the secular world, people will just flirt and such to reel people in so that they will feel admired. They generally want the admiration of people they find attractive, but that doesn't mean it's not all just a way of feeding their egos.
 
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Ok, for now I have been sent to bed by AlaynaJ (Something to do with the fact I have been up for 22 hours and done a 13 hr shift and also that I can't seem to string a coherent sentence together) but before I go I wanted to share this little thing that amused me.

CC provides you with similar threads that you may be interested in, I am just not certain this one falls into the similar bracket....
http://christianchat.com/miscellane...fruit-force-christian-based-super-heroes.html


Anyway, thanks for all your advice, specially the guys as it is great to know what guys think about this. I guess I might need to "man-up" and not be so scared which is what the whole situation boils down to in the end. Also I am super impressed with some of the wisdom from some of the younger members, go you lot! :p xxx
 
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leelee said:
Also on a side not, he is about 2 1/2 years younger than me and this causes me concern however the few friends I have told about my liking him tell me not to be so silly, am I being silly? It is more than the age thing because I am a graduate working in my chosen field (nursing) and he is still a student.
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silly.

so what if he is 2.5 years younger.

as long as the age difference is LEGAL it don't really matter
 
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If I don't want to be someone's friend only, I simply make myself unavailable for that. Sooner or later they usually catch on. :)

There's a reason sayings like this are sayings:

You don't know what you've got til it's gone.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Bottom line though, if they aren't interested, they aren't interested and you may very well have dodged a very lonely, miserable bullet. Move on. Please don't look at it as always being a negative, though difficult. Those who dwell on it from that perspective tend to have very bitter attitudes, as you've seen in abundance around here lately.
 
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leelee said:
Anyway, thanks for all your advice, specially the guys as it is great to know what guys think about this.
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Ohhhh, I was teasing. :(

I'm a guy, you could try this:

(1) tell him you think he's cool (smile at him)
(2) that you want to have coffee with him soon
(3) give him your phone number

Go do other things, like Bible study! Try not to think about him, he'll call if he's interested.



James 4:14-15 Whereas ye know not what [shall be] on the morrow. For what [is] your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. For that ye [ought] to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that.
 
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I had been friend zoned once. It was cruel, and I never felt much pain before. :( Soon enough, I realized that whether, it’s fair or not, I should stay not too close to that guy if I wanted to save my self-respect. I made a bold decision to distance myself. What did I gain after? I was able to reflect what God thought is my genuine worth.
What I thought was a horrible friend zone experience, was actually not horrible at all. It was a blessing-coming-through-pain that launched my relationship with God. It was my first time to experience a genuine mutual intimacy. As His mercy was so attracted to my brokenness that time, so I was personally captured and engrossed by His character: being a genuine Father and a Friend. He was the only person I gave my heart to who didn’t (or will not) fail or break me. :)
To finish this off, I must say..that in God, you will never get rejected or friend zoned. And, if you feel close to a guy right now, it’s a good sign that you must stay a lot closer to God. ;)
 
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So you want to know how to avoid the friendzone and go directly to the romantic interest zone?

You don't really have to worry about that because usually as soon as a guy meets a girl he's already decided if she will be in his friendzone or his romantic interest zone.

If he's not already interested in you romantically you can maybe try to find interests that you have in common or have deep meaningful conversations with him, other than that maybe ask him to join you for coffee or lunch and see how he reacts.
 
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zeroturbulence said:
So you want to know how to avoid the friendzone and go directly to the romantic interest zone?

You don't really have to worry about that because usually as soon as a guy meets a girl he's already decided if she will be in his friendzone or his romantic interest zone.

If he's not already interested in you romantically you can maybe try to find interests that you have in common or have deep meaningful conversations with him, other than that maybe ask him to join you for coffee or lunch and see how he reacts.
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so what you are really saying is that by this point I have already been categorised and just have to hope it was not in the friendzone?
 
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