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I love easily, and there are many that I love, but I've never been in love, no.
I think being "in love" is a bit more superficial than love itself. Typically, "in love" refers to the puppy-love, gushy type that doesn't last forever. Love itself...now that's what's strong and lasting.
I'm not saying those feelings are wrong. I very much look forward to feeling those things for another person. But, in the end, I don't think that's the type of love that relationships should rely on.
I think being "in love" is a bit more superficial than love itself. Typically, "in love" refers to the puppy-love, gushy type that doesn't last forever. Love itself...now that's what's strong and lasting.
I'm not saying those feelings are wrong. I very much look forward to feeling those things for another person. But, in the end, I don't think that's the type of love that relationships should rely on.
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Like Rachel I love pretty easy
The romantic sense of love nopers though I don't plan to do that though it sounds cool
I have given my life to Christ
if the good sheperd leads me to be a wife and mommy I will follow
it is not my life but his whatever he wants that's what I'll do
as a lamb I will grow to be a sheep as a good sheep I can only go where the good sheperd leads
The romantic sense of love nopers
though I don't plan to do that though it sounds cool I have given my life to Christ
if the good sheperd leads me to be a wife and mommy I will follow
it is not my life but his
whatever he wants that's what I'll doas a lamb I will grow to be a sheep as a good sheep I can only go where the good sheperd leads
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Once.
I had to break it off after several months. She was not the woman in Christ I needed, and she was emotionally unavailable. One was a deal breaker, the other was a red flag that this is not the type of person I should share my life with - communication is vitally important.
Very few times have I heard God speak to me directly. But there was one point where I asked and I heard a resounding no moments after the thought occurred to ask.
It was a 20 year dry spell before that time, and it's been over 8 years since that time, but once.
I had to break it off after several months. She was not the woman in Christ I needed, and she was emotionally unavailable. One was a deal breaker, the other was a red flag that this is not the type of person I should share my life with - communication is vitally important.
Very few times have I heard God speak to me directly. But there was one point where I asked and I heard a resounding no moments after the thought occurred to ask.
It was a 20 year dry spell before that time, and it's been over 8 years since that time, but once.
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Yes, once. I will nvr forget it...
I buried th thought of lov yrs ago. I know that i'm just not th woman any guy would want or look for. So I learned and God help me to put all those feelings away. Before they were totally gone though, God let me experience falling in love. I told God if that's th only time I would know what it's lik that I'd b happy to hold that one moment in my heart forever.
That moment not only showed me what being in love is lik, but that I already knew what it was lik, because I know how my heart is toward my God who cares and loves me lik no man evr could
I buried th thought of lov yrs ago. I know that i'm just not th woman any guy would want or look for. So I learned and God help me to put all those feelings away. Before they were totally gone though, God let me experience falling in love. I told God if that's th only time I would know what it's lik that I'd b happy to hold that one moment in my heart forever.
That moment not only showed me what being in love is lik, but that I already knew what it was lik, because I know how my heart is toward my God who cares and loves me lik no man evr could
I was in love once with a woman who never gave love back. I pray no one goes through what I went through. You can't control your emotions, even if you wanted to. I never want to give anyone, except who the Lord gives me, to have that level of control over my emotions again. It was almost like a curse.
Yep. One time.
You think you've built a strong foundation for your identity in all of the previous years of your life, but nothing tests it like falling in love. It hits like the force of a wrecking ball. It cracks the foundation of who you think you are. Then your emotions begin trickling out, eroding it until the hole is so large that a river of emotions sweeps you away to places you'd never though your mind would go. Your personal identity gets fuzzy as you start losing yourself. Feels like the rug has been pull from under you. I never understood the phrase "falling in love" until it happened to me.
[lol in the beginning I would ask her "how did this happen??" And she would say "I have no idea".]
But yeah, if the root of "true love" (that only Christ *in* BOTH people can bring) isn't feeding it, the feeling of being "in love" soon fades...then if you break up it leaves the gigantic hole it's made. Not a good feeling...not at all. And it can become next to impossible to repair, as well as an addiction for many to feel that feeling again...100 times worse than desiring to be in love for once.
I learned my lesson very quickly; make sure both people are securely grafted to the root of true love [and we're not just talking about calling oneself Christian, but truly having Christ clearly evident *in* BOTH people] before making myself available to that kind of love again because falling in love without true love to feed it can be very damaging.
You think you've built a strong foundation for your identity in all of the previous years of your life, but nothing tests it like falling in love. It hits like the force of a wrecking ball. It cracks the foundation of who you think you are. Then your emotions begin trickling out, eroding it until the hole is so large that a river of emotions sweeps you away to places you'd never though your mind would go. Your personal identity gets fuzzy as you start losing yourself. Feels like the rug has been pull from under you. I never understood the phrase "falling in love" until it happened to me.
[lol in the beginning I would ask her "how did this happen??" And she would say "I have no idea".]
But yeah, if the root of "true love" (that only Christ *in* BOTH people can bring) isn't feeding it, the feeling of being "in love" soon fades...then if you break up it leaves the gigantic hole it's made. Not a good feeling...not at all. And it can become next to impossible to repair, as well as an addiction for many to feel that feeling again...100 times worse than desiring to be in love for once.
I learned my lesson very quickly; make sure both people are securely grafted to the root of true love [and we're not just talking about calling oneself Christian, but truly having Christ clearly evident *in* BOTH people] before making myself available to that kind of love again because falling in love without true love to feed it can be very damaging.
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Being in love means you are also vulnerable to being hurt. If you are not falling in love then it maybe because you were abused as a child and you seek to protect yourself from ever being hurt again. The feelings of love can be powerful and one can be powerfully hurt by love.
We can't protect ourselves from harm or hurt. Only God can do that for us.
We can't protect ourselves from harm or hurt. Only God can do that for us.
