Letting myself daydream about being with someone

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cyphercat

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Sometimes I will daydream about falling in love with a girl. I will imagine what it's like to go out with them, to be around them and so forth. I will imagine that I'm with a girl that is as into me as I am into her. This makes me happy and it feels like I can rely on this when I need something to look forward to in this life.
But I get the feeling that this is not a manly thing to do. That I'm in danger of becoming feminine if I entertain these sorts of thoughts. I desire romantic love, but do not worship it.
What does everyone here think?
 
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cyphercat said:
Sometimes I will daydream about falling in love with a girl. I will imagine what it's like to go out with them, to be around them and so forth. I will imagine that I'm with a girl that is as into me as I am into her. This makes me happy and it feels like I can rely on this when I need something to look forward to in this life.
But I get the feeling that this is not a manly thing to do. That I'm in danger of becoming feminine if I entertain these sorts of thoughts. I desire romantic love, but do not worship it.
What does everyone here think?
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Indulged in falling like this?

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AQUARUIS

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cyberchat, hello
when i was browsing the topics, i never expected that anyone esp.a guy would do that . to be honest with u, i was like that before although now, i daydream less. i would day dream a lot before eversince i was in elementary days to law school!!
i would imagine i am being courted by a guy, fell in love, have children, the names are included. everyday, i would imagine too the day to day activities that i would like to do. it made me happy and i would always sleep haha.
when i had my first bf at 29, i stopped day dreaming and slowly, i rarely day dream maybe because my mind is busy now with work .
its okay what you are doing because we are all different. i think, we do that because we feel lonely. i do feel that until now but i have made it this far so, its not so bad after all.
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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cyphercat said:
Sometimes I will daydream about falling in love with a girl. I will imagine what it's like to go out with them, to be around them and so forth. I will imagine that I'm with a girl that is as into me as I am into her. This makes me happy and it feels like I can rely on this when I need something to look forward to in this life.
But I get the feeling that this is not a manly thing to do. That I'm in danger of becoming feminine if I entertain these sorts of thoughts. I desire romantic love, but do not worship it.
What does everyone here think?
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Having dreams and thinking about them shouldn't endanger your manliness. Lots of men are romantic. Solomon was definitely a romantic, and I don't think anyone could accuse him of being feminine for his daydreams. :)
 
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cyphercat said:
Sometimes I will daydream about falling in love with a girl. I will imagine what it's like to go out with them, to be around them and so forth. I will imagine that I'm with a girl that is as into me as I am into her. This makes me happy and it feels like I can rely on this when I need something to look forward to in this life.
But I get the feeling that this is not a manly thing to do. That I'm in danger of becoming feminine if I entertain these sorts of thoughts. I desire romantic love, but do not worship it.
What does everyone here think?
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You can be manly and long and dream for a mate. It's quite normal. Men's hearts aren't made from stone :)
 
LightningClap0002

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I have spent plenty of time thinking about it... her...
 
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persNickety said:
You can be manly and long and dream for a mate. It's quite normal. Men's hearts aren't made from stone :)
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True. *thumps sternum with a flicking middle finger* Mine is made from bacon fat and the crushed dreams and tears of children.
 
Shawn2516

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Sure you love her now.. then out comes 3 kids, your stressed and tired working the 70 hour work week job to support your wife. She nags and whines that you can't play video games when you should be spending time with the kids. Then you try to go to sleep, but she wakes you up with a list of things to do and how she works harder than you, blah blah blah.

Stay single my friend!
 
secularhermit

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AQUARUIS said:
cyberchat, hello
when i was browsing the topics, i never expected that anyone esp.a guy would do that . to be honest with u, i was like that before although now, i daydream less. i would day dream a lot before eversince i was in elementary days to law school!!
i would imagine i am being courted by a guy, fell in love, have children, the names are included. everyday, i would imagine too the day to day activities that i would like to do. it made me happy and i would always sleep haha.
when i had my first bf at 29, i stopped day dreaming and slowly, i rarely day dream maybe because my mind is busy now with work .
its okay what you are doing because we are all different. i think, we do that because we feel lonely. i do feel that until now but i have made it this far so, its not so bad after all.
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Who said it is bad?

Bad it would be when a person is married or actually engaged with a person and she/he starts "daydreaming" with another, but not the person loving him/her (thinking he/she is loved too)... In fact, that would be an emotional CHEATING.

I have heard that some people close their eyes when kissing "to daydream"... ("Falling" with the one being kissed or anoher´s person kiss?).

I don´t know, I don´t care. But daydreaming could be healthy up to the moment YOU FIND the person you have now.

That´s why I am like this: kiss.jpg

There are some persons we better keep an eye on... Ja! Ja! :cool:



, but
 
Searching4Truth

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You're not the only one who spends time thinking of such things. I got a weakness for committing such a crime as well. :p
 
secularhermit

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@ Cypher cat.

Grace-Like-Rain said:
Having dreams and thinking about them shouldn't endanger your manliness. Lots of men are romantic. Solomon was definitely a romantic, and I don't think anyone could accuse him of being feminine for his daydreams. :)
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My opinion is countless but, considering David and Salomon, you are more manly than those two mentioned. They had more women ONE man can afford one night, and this are view as "romantic", when the Bible shows both FELL in selfindulgency.

I see you as a man, not because of your picture or name, just because of your HONESTY.

Perhaps you have heard "a man never shows his tears when he cries"... I hope you never see my blogs, my daughter´s insight or childsish poems.

You just don´t FALL in love endangering a woman´s heart and, if one looks at you (for the man you are), dont daydream about another person.

My foolish advice, and KEEP an eye on those you think are so "romantic" (like king David was when cheating with Betsabeth)

:cool:
 
cyphercat

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Oh yes the next woman I let myself fall in love with will hopefully become my wife. Although I won't stalk, press her, push her, get mad at her, or do anything negative in light of the possibility that she might not feel the same way. But if she does, and we do, then we'll have at least 3 months of romantic love ahead. After that, the gap is filled by raising children as our romantic love is a vain thing spent for a time. I'm looking forward to meeting a girl that likes me, and that I like, and that we both meet each other occasionally, and hope to end up with each other.
 
secularhermit

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cyphercat said:
Oh yes the next woman I let myself fall in love with will hopefully become my wife. Although I won't stalk, press her, push her, get mad at her, or do anything negative in light of the possibility that she might not feel the same way. But if she does, and we do, then we'll have at least 3 months of romantic love ahead. After that, the gap is filled by raising children as our romantic love is a vain thing spent for a time. I'm looking forward to meeting a girl that likes me, and that I like, and that we both meet each other occasionally, and hope to end up with each other.
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Romantic love for 3 month ahead? Do you risk to be kicked off?

Enduring love is romantic all the way around, to the last day.

Don´t let your childrfen fill that "gap", BECAUSE YOUR CHILDREN WILL BE IN BETWEEN YOU AND HER LOVE. She is so well programed to love them that she will loved you the way you are (no one in between)
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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secularhermit said:


My foolish advice, and KEEP an eye on those you think are so "romantic" (like king David was when cheating with Betsabeth)

:cool:
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Well, my comment on Solomon was in reference to Song of Solomon, and all of the daydreaming contained in that book. Definitely not on his many wives/concubines, which did not raise him in my regard at all. :eek:
 
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Of course I know and believe that, but selfindulgence blind poetry, any song and music sung by the heart.

You were not misunderstood. But I have learned from those Bibllical characters and I admire king David MORE that you could imagine in my sharp comment.

That´s way I addressed my post @Mr Cat (bypassing and using your post).

If I made a mistake, I ask you to forgive me, please. But the comment "on the eye to be kept on" is for those any man (any woman) could think of those romantic CASANOVAS found in life, IT NEVER WAS FOR YOU (because I don´t know you, sister).
 
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If your daydream includes physical emotions, kissing, sex or anything leading to any sexual feelings, then definitly this whole thing is so wrong. Your body is not yours, it belongs to God. You have to keep it Holy from all bad or inappropriate thoughts or visions. You wanna work on your spiritual life. When you see a woman and you start daydreaming about her, then you've sinned. It is lust. This woman is not yours. Even if you're not daydreaming of a specific woman, then you are still sinning against your own body that belongs to God.


cyphercat said:
Sometimes I will daydream about falling in love with a girl. I will imagine what it's like to go out with them, to be around them and so forth. I will imagine that I'm with a girl that is as into me as I am into her. This makes me happy and it feels like I can rely on this when I need something to look forward to in this life.
But I get the feeling that this is not a manly thing to do. That I'm in danger of becoming feminine if I entertain these sorts of thoughts. I desire romantic love, but do not worship it.
What does everyone here think?
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cyphercat

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IloveyouGod said:
If your daydream includes physical emotions, kissing, sex or anything leading to any sexual feelings, then definitly this whole thing is so wrong. Your body is not yours, it belongs to God. You have to keep it Holy from all bad or inappropriate thoughts or visions. You wanna work on your spiritual life. When you see a woman and you start daydreaming about her, then you've sinned. It is lust. This woman is not yours. Even if you're not daydreaming of a specific woman, then you are still sinning against your own body that belongs to God.
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I've noted this advice, and I thank you.
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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secularhermit said:
Of course I know and believe that, but selfindulgence blind poetry, any song and music sung by the heart.

You were not misunderstood. But I have learned from those Bibllical characters and I admire king David MORE that you could imagine in my sharp comment.

That´s way I addressed my post @Mr Cat (bypassing and using your post).

If I made a mistake, I ask you to forgive me, please. But the comment "on the eye to be kept on" is for those any man (any woman) could think of those romantic CASANOVAS found in life, IT NEVER WAS FOR YOU (because I don´t know you, sister).
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No mistake, and I agree with your point. Thanks!
 
secularhermit

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That´s why I asked him with a "comic" picture to see what you clearly wrote. I said FALLING to let him see what you taught us well.
 
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