"I've Never Been In Love"

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leelee

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ChosenbyHim said:
Well Leelee, I think I see where you are coming from.

Dating though can involve intimacy before marriage with no commitment.

That's the main difference.

The scenario I gave in my last post, is what may be considered an ideal situation.

To further help you to understand the difference between Biblical Betrothal and worldly dating, I am going to share a link here in this post that further explains the difference between the two.


Betrothal vs. Dating
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I would say dating is whatever you make it tbh.
 
ChosenbyHim

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leelee said:
I would say dating is whatever you make it tbh.
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Well Leelee at least you now have an understanding of what the difference is between betrothal and dating.
 
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Aaaand there's the proof that it is nothing more than a semantic insistence. *smirk*
 
ChosenbyHim

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Shouryu said:
Aaaand there's the proof that it is nothing more than a semantic insistence. *smirk*
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Well Shouryu, there is definitely a difference and a distinction, that is for sure. If someone wants to call it dating without intimacy and any physical relations, well then obviously, they are free to do that.

But "dating" is not a Bible word.
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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A date is a date. During a date, you go out to dinner or a movie. You talk and get to know one another. This is what most people think of when they hear that someone went on a "date". I have never heard that someone went on a date, and assumed that sex was involved. O_O
 
ChosenbyHim

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
A date is a date. During a date, you go out to dinner or a movie. You talk and get to know one another. This is what most people think of when they hear that someone went on a "date". I have never heard that someone went on a date, and assumed that sex was involved. O_O
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G-L-R, I see your point there.

Now of course sex is not automatically assumed on a date. That's common sense. But the kissing before marriage vs. Kissing only after marriage is one of the main issues of the betrothal vs. dating issue.

And I am not necessarily against the term "dating" because I understand that it is just a very common word used in our society that denotes when two people are in the so called process of "getting to know one another."

What I am against though is the worldly aspects and characteristics of "dating."

And there will be those who will want to argue that the issue is simply one of semantics, but when studied more thoroughly, it should become obvious that there is a huge distinction between what the world sees and defines as a healthy relationship and what a healthy relationship looks like through the Scriptural lens of God's word, the Holy Bible.
 
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ChosenbyHim said:
Well Shouryu, there is definitely a difference and a distinction, that is for sure. If someone wants to call it dating without intimacy and any physical relations, well then obviously, they are free to do that.

But "dating" is not a Bible word.
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For that matter, courtship and courting aren't in the KVJ Bible, either. Neither are trinity and rapture.
 
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Misty77 said:
For that matter, courtship and courting aren't in the KVJ Bible, either. Neither are trinity and rapture.
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Well courtship may not be in the King James Bible, but betrothed is.

And what people need to understand is that there are wordly aspects in dating.

But Betrothal is based on the Scriptures.
 
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ChosenbyHim said:
Well courtship may not be in the King James Bible, but betrothed is.

And what people need to understand is that there are wordly aspects in dating.

But Betrothal is based on the Scriptures.
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People who date get betrothed, too. And there are a lot of examples of gaining spouses in scripture that are ill-advised or even illegal today.
 
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Misty77 said:
People who date get betrothed, too. And there are a lot of examples of gaining spouses in scripture that are ill-advised or even illegal today.
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Agreed, even something as Biblical as a Dowry, we would shocked at.
 
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So once you are betrothed it is as ironclad as marriage? Also the friendship stage can last several years?
 
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OGM said:
So once you are betrothed it is as ironclad as marriage? Also the friendship stage can last several years?
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Yep that is correct OGM, Betrothal cannot be broken off. It is a promise between God and the couple.

On the contrary, a regular engagement can be broken off at anytime. But not a betrothal.

And yes, the friendship stage can be anywhere from 6 months to several years.
 
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ChosenbyHim said:
Yep that is correct OGM, Betrothal cannot be broken off. It is a promise between God and the couple.

On the contrary, a regular engagement can be broken off at anytime. But not a betrothal.

And yes, the friendship stage can be anywhere from 6 months to several years.
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So, you are saying that it is literally 100% impossible for the couple to break their promise to God?
 
leelee

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ChosenbyHim said:
Yep that is correct OGM, Betrothal cannot be broken off. It is a promise between God and the couple.

On the contrary, a regular engagement can be broken off at anytime. But not a betrothal.

And yes, the friendship stage can be anywhere from 6 months to several years.
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Betrothal can be broken off in cases of infidelity.
 
surprisingrose

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I loved someone but wasn't love back... looking forward to loving someone and being loved back. Hang in there is worth the wait for the one who will love you back.
 
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blueorchidjd

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In a serious note
I have loved people in different ways,
I guess I just have never been head over heels love before like they show in the movies.
I have been in 'rational' love, where we loved each other for who we were what we believed at the time, then I fell out of it as my faith grew on and the person wasn't playing their role and did not want to grow closer to God. I did not love him as a man of God, because he wasn't one.
The other person I loved to love them, but was not in love.

I guess that means that I have to wait a century or two before it's made right. haha.
 
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