To Men Who Ignore Valentine's Day
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lol I'm not big on valentines day simply because I don't think that there should be one day to show your love, it should be everyday. Sure it would be cute and romantic to do all the fun valentines activities with your significant other BUT it really shouldn't be that important.. what matters is that the relationship is filled with love and you're both happy together etc, and as long as you are there will be love everyday and no need to stress over one single day.
MY boyfriend told me last valentines day(which was our first valentines together) "I have never bought a woman flowers or anything on this day, and I am not about to start now." He still doesn't understand why I cried all day that day.
It wasn't that I didn't get anything(I am used to that). IT was the heartless comment.
It wasn't that I didn't get anything(I am used to that). IT was the heartless comment.
*hugs Elizabeth* I'm sorry. 
I know what you mean. Your boyfriend sounds a lot like my dad. My mama has a very romantic heart but my dad is stubborn in his non-romantic ways. She doesn't want to be demanding though, and would rather any valentines gift truly come from his heart and not from her nagging, which is why she never specifically says "I want you to get me _____ for valentines day" (Tintin. I hope this somewhat answers your question about why women don't say what they mean)
last Valentine's day, my boyfriend remembered all the stories I had told him about my dad not being romantic, so without ANY suggestion from me, he bought an extra bouquet of flowers for my mama. She was so happy that she nearly cried. He won major points that day and mama told me he was a keeper.
I totally understand the argument about how we should show love year-round instead of just one day. Being raised by my dad, I used to think the same way. But when I entered a relationship and valentines day came around, I was prepared to "skip" it, until I realized something. If I truly believed in showing love every day, why would I intentionally skip valentines day? Out of spite for the candy and greeting card companies? What good does that do? I still believe valentines day isn't worth huge amounts of stress, but it can be done simply. I made cupcakes myself and hand-crafted a cute card. (No money spent! Maybe that was my rebellion against the companies? Haha) He was happy. I had successfully made him feel loved. It was just another day, but at the same time it was a little extra sweet.
I know what you mean. Your boyfriend sounds a lot like my dad. My mama has a very romantic heart but my dad is stubborn in his non-romantic ways. She doesn't want to be demanding though, and would rather any valentines gift truly come from his heart and not from her nagging, which is why she never specifically says "I want you to get me _____ for valentines day" (Tintin. I hope this somewhat answers your question about why women don't say what they mean) last Valentine's day, my boyfriend remembered all the stories I had told him about my dad not being romantic, so without ANY suggestion from me, he bought an extra bouquet of flowers for my mama. She was so happy that she nearly cried. He won major points that day and mama told me he was a keeper.
I totally understand the argument about how we should show love year-round instead of just one day. Being raised by my dad, I used to think the same way. But when I entered a relationship and valentines day came around, I was prepared to "skip" it, until I realized something. If I truly believed in showing love every day, why would I intentionally skip valentines day? Out of spite for the candy and greeting card companies? What good does that do? I still believe valentines day isn't worth huge amounts of stress, but it can be done simply. I made cupcakes myself and hand-crafted a cute card. (No money spent! Maybe that was my rebellion against the companies? Haha) He was happy. I had successfully made him feel loved. It was just another day, but at the same time it was a little extra sweet.
Haha! We didn't really do white day. He told me about it a few days before Valentine's day last year though and I thought it sounded sorta fun. He didn't need to return the favor, though. He surprised me on valentine's day. We shared a locker, and when I opened it there were flowers and chocolates and a card practically spilling out of it. (It's a small locker, mind you, designed for holding a violin)
I always thought I wouldn't be into valentine's day, until that very moment. I was blushing like a school girl for the rest of the day. ^_^
I always thought I wouldn't be into valentine's day, until that very moment. I was blushing like a school girl for the rest of the day. ^_^