How do I become good and close friends with girls.

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well for me....
im extra friendly... if the person comes at me right.... if i sense that the motives are wrong the i withdraw and then youll see the a less friendly person lolz...
sooo i guess what im saying is... as long as your heart is in the right place then you should be fine... make sure there are no side angles ... i mean if something develope then cool... but just dont let a romantic motive be your begining motive...

ps: most girls like to feel like they have some one in their corner and sometimes its a plus if its a guy because it gives us a diffrent way of looking at things...
proverbs 3:4-5 says to bind truth and loyalty around your neck so that you will have favor with God and man... i figure its unisex... lolz
so try praying for favor and ask God to send you female friends... he knows where you heart is
 
Stop worrying about finding a girl, you will not find one. Seek first the kingdom of Heaven and everything else will fall into place. Seek God, seek his face he will birng the right girl at the right time. Trust him and trust him fully
 
You know you are in the same boat as many of us, I would like more relationships with women but it's hard for me as well, some people find it easier to connect with the opposite sex than others.

The fact is you do seem a little bit obsessed with having a girl in your life and I understand why, imagine how you'll feel if nothing has changed in 5 years and you'll get an idea how I feel, but you know it's not healthy to be always thinking about what you don't have, you come across as a glass half empty kind of person and seeing life that way means you are always focusing on what's missing instead of what's already there.

I know it doesn't really help but you should try and focus on something else and stop putting so much emphasis on this one thing, you are only 21 and it's not like time is running out for you, ideally everything would happen when we want but it doesn't, embrace what's good in your life and hopefully the rest will follow.

In the meantime just keep trying to develop your social skills and try not to go for a quick fix.
 
as said in other thread... Its all about mateing calls... but it has to sound like some kinda animal no ones ever heard before.
 
Matthew said:
The fact is you do seem a little bit obsessed with having a girl in your life and I understand why, imagine how you'll feel if nothing has changed in 5 years and you'll get an idea how I feel
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It's been 6 years that I can actually remember. Btw, I started liking girls when I was in 1st grade.
 
Could you guys give me any more tips for making friends with girls. I'm really tired of being like I am... :(
 
Im glad you asked, because i have lots of tips for you!

-Hang out at maternity wards
- Womes restrooms.. Lots of um go there.
- Go to a public place and start crying hysterically. Either one of two things will happen, women will flock to you asking whats wrong, or they will call a criris hotline and get you some help

-Get a motorcycle and pretend your tom cruise from top gun

Now if all of these fail then you need to pull out the big guns! Get a baby.. any baby will do, buy a stroller and walk around with it. Women love men with babys
 
Honestly unless g-d is posting on here no one has the miracle advice for you how to make friends. I think you really need to put forth the same effort that you use to worry, and the same effort you use in your faith in finding friends if it wut is truly gunna make you more happy. The thing is constantly asking over and over and obsessing about it wont get you anywhere but back to square one. Sometimes simplicity is best, and in this case if you want friends go out and start meeting people.
 
Sharp said:
I think you should join the army. Think about it.
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maybe not to army lol there prob going to be going to Afghanistan in not to long. There is always however the cost guard or something like tht
 
tennisguy2010 said:
maybe not to army lol there prob going to be going to Afghanistan in not to long. There is always however the cost guard or something like tht
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Already in Afghanistan, in fact. I'm leaving THIS Sunday, and i'm in the Air Force.

Anyway, NEVER (if your in the service) use that to your advantage when meeting women...Tends to attract the wrong sort.
Gotta agree with the people that say relax and just be yourself.
 
PenguChuck said:
Already in Afghanistan, in fact. I'm leaving THIS Sunday, and i'm in the Air Force.

Anyway, NEVER (if your in the service) use that to your advantage when meeting women...Tends to attract the wrong sort.
Gotta agree with the people that say relax and just be yourself.
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or be chuck norris.
 
I say if you really want girls.. be someone else.. forget all that be yourself business.. if you want a woman BE MR T! HE PITTIES THE FOOL THAT AINT GOT NO WOMAN!
 
your gonna be fine....
you can look at this from a couple of angles...

#1
God knows your not ready for female friends becouse you would always be thinking in the back of your mind "what if shes the one" and He knows your not ready to take that step....

# 2
maby there are female friends that are just side lined... by that i mean girls who are around you who you maby dont pay any attention to or something along that line....

idk but like i said b4... if your motives for wanting fenale friend are pure then it will come....

just be careful... i was always one to chill with boys because i never liked how girls are catty and stuff....
there was one boy... he was my best friend... best friend ever...
we were always there for each other and all tthat all that...
and i fell for him... which made everything cmplicated... and lead to us not being friends because i hated seeing him with other girls.... and i started to withdraw from him...


sooo idk if its diffrent for guys but its a sticky situation when your close to the opp. sex...
 
your gonna be fine....
you can look at this from a couple of angles...

#1
God knows your not ready for female friends becouse you would always be thinking in the back of your mind "what if shes the one" and He knows your not ready to take that step....

# 2
maby there are female friends that are just side lined... by that i mean girls who are around you who you maby dont pay any attention to or something along that line....

idk but like i said b4... if your motives for wanting fenale friend are pure then it will come....

just be careful... i was always one to chill with boys because i never liked how girls are catty and stuff....
there was one boy... he was my best friend... best friend ever...
we were always there for each other and all tthat all that...
and i fell for him... which made everything cmplicated... and lead to us not being friends because i hated seeing him with other girls.... and i started to withdraw from him...


sooo idk if its diffrent for guys but its a sticky situation when your close to the opp. sex...
 
your gonna be fine....
you can look at this from a couple of angles...

#1
God knows your not ready for female friends becouse you would always be thinking in the back of your mind "what if shes the one" and He knows your not ready to take that step....

# 2
maby there are female friends that are just side lined... by that i mean girls who are around you who you maby dont pay any attention to or something along that line....

idk but like i said b4... if your motives for wanting fenale friend are pure then it will come....

just be careful... i was always one to chill with boys because i never liked how girls are catty and stuff....
there was one boy... he was my best friend... best friend ever...
we were always there for each other and all tthat all that...
and i fell for him... which made everything cmplicated... and lead to us not being friends because i hated seeing him with other girls.... and i started to withdraw from him...


sooo idk if its diffrent for guys but its a sticky situation when your close to the opp. sex...
 
dothackzero said:
Wow, I wish the edit button would last long. I noticed so many stupid mistakes that make me look like a moron...
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Here is good proof that you need self confidence and self respect. Seriously listen to me man. I am or was in a very similar situation as you. Here are some things I notice that you need to work on.

Self confidence

Self respect

Stop caring what others think of you

If you do these things your life will become much better. Trust me. I speak from experience.
 
Yeah---- just be yourself and discover yourself. that's the best way to be a friend and to have a friend. Discover what you want out of life and what interests you have-- and just explore those. Good friends will come along the way-- girls or boys.
 
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