Breaking IT off. Are there good reasons to halt a relationship with a 'ring' to it?

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ilavjesus

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3 ex boyfriends proposed to me before but i said no.. and last year i was about to be engage,, but again i postponed it because theres a lot of things going on in my mind...i have this fear of settling down maybe because i have seen a lot of broken families here, my girlfriends got pregnant without a responsible father,,and maybe because i have witness how my sister suffered of her ex husband he left her with 3 children...i think thats the main factors..im praying to God to take this fear in me... and big factor also that my ex boyfriend was not a genuine christian.. but if he is then maybe id go for it.
 
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GreenNnice

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ilavjesus said:
3 ex boyfriends proposed to me before but i said no.. and last year i was about to be engage,, but again i postponed it because theres a lot of things going on in my mind...i have this fear of settling down maybe because i have seen a lot of broken families here, my girlfriends got pregnant without a responsible father,,and maybe because i have witness how my sister suffered of her ex husband he left her with 3 children...i think thats the main factors..im praying to God to take this fear in me... and big factor also that my ex boyfriend was not a genuine christian.. but if he is then maybe id go for it.
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Said 'no' three times. or, four.

And, your reasons to me, iloveJesus, make me think you really need to give a guy a chance , go through with the engagement unless God gives you a reason not to.

Seeing others of broken families, girl friend seen pregnant w/o responsible father, and, sister's stuff are not good reasons in my opinion to not have given ONE of those guys, at least, a chance to be engaged to you.

There you go, maybe, with you saying you're praying to God, OK, maybe, one of those FOUR guys you now need to consider going back to and re-fresh the relationship.

You say 3 ex b/f and then say one at the end. I'm not sure which it is, if the other three were not serious but if they all three got to the state of proposing to you then that tells me they liked you an awful lot.

I agree, ANY b/f that is not a Christian is not someone you want to become engaged to.
 
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IloveyouGod

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Hello there, I think our names are related a bit ;)
I hope it's not just a name for you as mine is more than a name and a statement for me!

Anyway, I'd like to start by saying that I admire how you can clearly see you have a problem and that is the problem of fear. And not only that, but also you are admitting your problem. And you are working on solving your problem. Congratulations, you are on the right track!! :)

Do not get into a relationship unless you are ready. It has to be both parties ready, not only your b/f but also you too. If I were you, I'd start by friendship only for things to be less pressured and then let everything go through God, if God wants it to happen it'll go so smoothly. If He doesn't want to, you will still have this fear and discomfort.

God bless you. Praying for you all the way from Canada!! :eek:


ilavjesus said:
3 ex boyfriends proposed to me before but i said no.. and last year i was about to be engage,, but again i postponed it because theres a lot of things going on in my mind...i have this fear of settling down maybe because i have seen a lot of broken families here, my girlfriends got pregnant without a responsible father,,and maybe because i have witness how my sister suffered of her ex husband he left her with 3 children...i think thats the main factors..im praying to God to take this fear in me... and big factor also that my ex boyfriend was not a genuine christian.. but if he is then maybe id go for it.
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Missachu

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I was engaged not that long ago (as some might remember) and it took a new person in my life to make me look at my life from the outside in and realize that it was not to my standards of living and that I needed to take action. Luckily God gave me a way out because for the longest time I was stuck. The reasons why I left him are the following;

1) We had started physically fighting and it evolved from verbal fighting
2) He was manipulative and too dependent on me(in an unhealthy way)
3) His family didn't care about me and treated me like proporty
4) Couldn't make him happy no matter how hard I tried
5) Stopped being affectionate, both verbally and physically
6) Hated going to church (this should be number one because it REALLY REALLY bugged me)
7) Wouldn't buy me a ring (And never kept his promises)
8) He was fake.

Ladies, any ONE of these reasons are enough to break it off. I was just stupid and blinded by "love" to take a step back and realize what he was doing to me. It's amazing how good evil people are at brain-washing. Don't be like me, there IS a Prince Charming for every princess so don't settle for anything less :3
 
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IloveyouGod

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Missachu,

If I ask you now, who is your Prince Charming, what would be your answer?

Take your time to answer cuz my questions are usually deep ;) I'm guiding you towards something! :) hint hint.



Missachu said:
I was engaged not that long ago (as some might remember) and it took a new person in my life to make me look at my life from the outside in and realize that it was not to my standards of living and that I needed to take action. Luckily God gave me a way out because for the longest time I was stuck. The reasons why I left him are the following;

1) We had started physically fighting and it evolved from verbal fighting
2) He was manipulative and too dependent on me(in an unhealthy way)
3) His family didn't care about me and treated me like proporty
4) Couldn't make him happy no matter how hard I tried
5) Stopped being affectionate, both verbally and physically
6) Hated going to church (this should be number one because it REALLY REALLY bugged me)
7) Wouldn't buy me a ring (And never kept his promises)
8) He was fake.

Ladies, any ONE of these reasons are enough to break it off. I was just stupid and blinded by "love" to take a step back and realize what he was doing to me. It's amazing how good evil people are at brain-washing. Don't be like me, there IS a Prince Charming for every princess so don't settle for anything less :3
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Sponge_Bob

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i dont believe in divorce
 
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IloveyouGod

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Yup, it's Annulment not divorce. The marriage is annulled because something happened that was against the rules of the marriage covenant. And this thing has to be REALLY serious and you are able to prove it.


Sponge_Bob said:
i dont believe in divorce
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GreenNnice

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Missachu said:
I was engaged not that long ago (as some might remember) and it took a new person in my life to make me look at my life from the outside in and realize that it was not to my standards of living and that I needed to take action. Luckily God gave me a way out because for the longest time I was stuck. The reasons why I left him are the following;

1) We had started physically fighting and it evolved from verbal fighting
2) He was manipulative and too dependent on me(in an unhealthy way)
3) His family didn't care about me and treated me like proporty
4) Couldn't make him happy no matter how hard I tried
5) Stopped being affectionate, both verbally and physically
6) Hated going to church (this should be number one because it REALLY REALLY bugged me)
7) Wouldn't buy me a ring (And never kept his promises)
8) He was fake.

Ladies, any ONE of these reasons are enough to break it off. I was just stupid and blinded by "love" to take a step back and realize what he was doing to me. It's amazing how good evil people are at brain-washing. Don't be like me, there IS a Prince Charming for every princess so don't settle for anything less :3
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Pikamisschu speaks the wisest of words here.

Remember them well . Because if you think your life is hell with a wrong girl before marriage, you have no idea, that is, you have no idea of what it will become after you are married. "Hell in a box" phrase comes to mind. :(

That little bit of hell with her before vows will turn into a swellering of hell so cellaring and tellaring and bellering and will become a killering that it will be sooo swollen and bottoming and telling and ringing that the sound will be so deadening to your life that while alive on Earth you will feel dead, hot, closed-in, suffocating, with nowhere to go, because you are in a box....

Of course, Christ is life, "abundant life," :)

And ,those who've made this kind of relationship and marital mistake know, too, that God's grace abounds more than sin, as, where there's sin, His grace abounds more. Paul. Romans 6,7

Of course, the 'wrong guy before marriage' is just the same hell. Gotta be politically correct, don't we :D

The Lord leads. He will lead you to just the right guy, miladies, a guy who will be wholehearted for God, wholeheartedly after God's will for His life, and, thus, your life will be in God's will, too. Don't settle for anything less than a guy who's so chasing after God--and, wants to run that race with you--that you are keeping up with that guy, running for God, knowing the guy will pick you up when you fall, get exhausted, because he knows that He will give him the strength to do so. :)

That makes sense, doesn't it. Pray about all that's said if not make sense, the Lord will tell you, His Spirit brings all your knowledge into understanding, and, thus, wisdom from Him becomes yours :)
 
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