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Dec 16, 2013
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I don't peruse this section of the forums too often, but I read the first few initial posts on the topic so I figured I'd go ahead and toss a couple pennies in the wishing well on this one. AKA Give my .02$, kind of a lame way to put it but it was unique.

Haha in all seriousness though, I think I understand what cyphercat may be saying. Though it has been misconstrued somewhat by a few of the people responding here.

When it comes to having a significant other, I think the Apostle Paul got it right. There are enough people at this point in time that not everyone needs to get married and have children. It's a great idea, and most people do it. But if you're one of the few who feels that it isn't right for you and marriage just is not your thing, then so be it. Don't get married, how can that spoil the relationship you have with God? Nowhere in the bible does it say any man or woman who is unmarried can't receive the eternal Kingdom of Heaven just like the rest who had faith in Christ can. God wants us to love one another above all else, but he didn't say that we NEED to be married to go to Heaven. If that were the case then Paul was wrong all along, and he should have found himself a wife.

But in any case... I think cyphercat aims this post more so at the hurt people experience in the wake of not finding a significant other. People feel disappointment, dejection, hurt, and turmoil when they have trouble finding someone to love and care about, a companion to share everything with.

But in the avarice we have and in the patience we sometimes lack, our zest for finding a long lasting relationship can get us into more trouble often than it can do good for us. Ever hear the expression fools rush in? Well, it's true. And I could be wrong but I think this is kind of what cyphercat is trying to say.

Just let God's plan work and glorify God so I say, and the rest will work out in time. God works in his own time, and his will shall be fulfilled no matter what. If a wife or husband is part of his plan for us, then it will come in due time. If not, then oh well. Our lives aren't defined by the relationships we have with other humans here with us, it is defined by the relationship we have with our redeemer. Plain and simple.
 

SparkleEyes

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Theres nothing wrong with wanting to be loved and have someone else close to you be a witness to your existence. How else can we know were alive? I don't feel loved, but im also not sure that I give love correctly or not how to receive it correctly or even when and if Iam receiving love in a relationship.
I completely agree.
 

SparkleEyes

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Your existance does not depend on a spouse who loves you!!!!
God loves you MORE than anything and anyone in this whole world!!.....google the word love and see how many times it came up in the bible. See how romantic God's love is to His children.

I'm so sorry you can't feel it, I'll pray for you about that :)
No, my existence doesn't depend on having a spouse who loves me, but for most people, having people who love you in your life brings it more meaning and purpose. OF COURSE God is our main purpose and meaning. For most of us, life is more meaningful if you have people who are close enough to you to check in on you, to see how you are, to reach out and want to spend time with you. The physical presence of others is important ...and then an intimacy (not just sexual) with others is, I think the pinnacle. NOTE - I am including in the definition of intimacy a deep relationship or connection with a person in a non-sexual way.
 

rachelsedge

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Hey Zaoman, it's your sister who promised not to get upset about your opinion. But I thought we've talked about this before Zaoman! I really don't understand why do you believe that God can test us more than we can endure? Where do you see this in the bible?

Can you please read 1 Corinthians 10:13 and tell me what does it mean to you?

Do you think it make sense to say that the bible lies or that God is not faithful Zaoman? No, it does not make sense :)
Being tempted and things happening in life outside of our control are two different things.

We aren't tempted beyond what we can bear because we always have the choice to not sin, to not act on that temptation, no matter how strongly it pulls.

But, sometimes the hand we get dealt, the life we are given, both by God and by this sin-cursed world, IS more than we can handle. If we could handle it all on our own, we wouldn't need to run to God. I can think of five things off the top of my head, outside of my control and not at all related to temptation, that I know I wouldn't be able to handle, as a human being. Even Job, a very strong, godly man, eventually broke under all that had happened to him. I'm not saying that it was right, that he didn't sin. But sometimes, there's only so much we can take before we have a breakdown. Then God is able to pull us back to Himself, if we let Him, and we learn from it. Maybe not right away, but I think eventually we do if we allow God to work in us through it.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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#45
Being tempted and things happening in life outside of our control are two different things.

We aren't tempted beyond what we can bear because we always have the choice to not sin, to not act on that temptation, no matter how strongly it pulls.

But, sometimes the hand we get dealt, the life we are given, both by God and by this sin-cursed world, IS more than we can handle. If we could handle it all on our own, we wouldn't need to run to God. I can think of five things off the top of my head, outside of my control and not at all related to temptation, that I know I wouldn't be able to handle, as a human being. Even Job, a very strong, godly man, eventually broke under all that had happened to him. I'm not saying that it was right, that he didn't sin. But sometimes, there's only so much we can take before we have a breakdown. Then God is able to pull us back to Himself, if we let Him, and we learn from it. Maybe not right away, but I think eventually we do if we allow God to work in us through it.
Amen Rachel!
 
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Haha in all seriousness though, I think I understand what cyphercat may be saying. Though it has been misconstrued somewhat by a few of the people responding here.
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But in any case... I think cyphercat aims this post more so at the hurt people experience in the wake of not finding a significant other. People feel disappointment, dejection, hurt, and turmoil when they have trouble finding someone to love and care about, a companion to share everything with.

But in the avarice we have and in the patience we sometimes lack, our zest for finding a long lasting relationship can get us into more trouble often than it can do good for us. Ever hear the expression fools rush in? Well, it's true. And I could be wrong but I think this is kind of what cyphercat is trying to say.
That's pretty much it.
It was a thread meant for specific people for a specific period of time.
I was experiencing one of those aches in my body, physical aches that is pretty much crippling with respect to being able to socialize and communicate with people in a good way.
I wanted to remind others who feel that way that our best defense is to sit through it without being like "God, where is my spouse?" or "How could God be with me in this?"

I think the thread reached a few people!
I think a few people were helped in a real way!
Praise the Lord!
I was used to do something decent in this life!
 
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Being tempted and things happening in life outside of our control are two different things.

We aren't tempted beyond what we can bear because we always have the choice to not sin, to not act on that temptation, no matter how strongly it pulls.

But, sometimes the hand we get dealt, the life we are given, both by God and by this sin-cursed world, IS more than we can handle. If we could handle it all on our own, we wouldn't need to run to God. I can think of five things off the top of my head, outside of my control and not at all related to temptation, that I know I wouldn't be able to handle, as a human being. Even Job, a very strong, godly man, eventually broke under all that had happened to him. I'm not saying that it was right, that he didn't sin. But sometimes, there's only so much we can take before we have a breakdown. Then God is able to pull us back to Himself, if we let Him, and we learn from it. Maybe not right away, but I think eventually we do if we allow God to work in us through it.
Amen, Rachel! Love the book of Job. Get into it, people!
 
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Berbo

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It's not that I don't feel God's love because I do. I talk to God and know Jesus as my friend and savior. But , im not a nun and I don't want to be.
 
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Berbo

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Wow, are you really only 19.... I need to ask God for wisdom because I have never been that wise.
 
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IloveyouGod

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Let me explain the verse first. It simply says that God will not tempt you/test you with a trial or tribulation that is bigger than you can handle or bigger than you. NOT only this, but also God will give you a way out of your trial or tribulation.

Now, when we are tempted or tested with a trial or a tribulation, even though it's not bigger than us, still with our weakness as human beings we will have hardship handling it. It's not going to be like magic and has no effect on us whether emotionally or physically. BUT while we are dealing with it, while we are going through the hardship, God takes care of us and helps us and protects us from sinning during the hardship cuz we are His children. If we are experiencing a tribulation and we are acting as if it's all good and life is rosy, then there's something wrong with us. We are not mentally stable. BUT IF we are acknowledging our feelings, yet having peace because we know God is taking care of us, then that's the right approach.

Job sums up what I said here. He was not tempted or tested more that he could endure. He had to deal with his tribulations as a weak human being, BUT never sinned against God. Job had the GREATEST faith in the whole bible because he was the only one who went through tribulations and died without knowing why God allowed this to happen to him, yet, never lost his faith in God. Unlike Joseph for example. Joseph kept his faith till the end, but God showed him the reason for his tribulations at the end. Same thing for David.
So for as big as Job's faith, as hard as his tribulations. Also God did not allow Satan to touch Job's heart cuz that would be way bigger than what Job can endure.

Now off the topic, if you are interested to know, Job died without knowing the reason for his tribulations because God wanted to show Satan that Job will NOT loose his faith in God no matter what because Job had the greatest faith as I said. That was the main purpose for Job's unclear tribulations.

God bless! :)



Being tempted and things happening in life outside of our control are two different things.

We aren't tempted beyond what we can bear because we always have the choice to not sin, to not act on that temptation, no matter how strongly it pulls.

But, sometimes the hand we get dealt, the life we are given, both by God and by this sin-cursed world, IS more than we can handle. If we could handle it all on our own, we wouldn't need to run to God. I can think of five things off the top of my head, outside of my control and not at all related to temptation, that I know I wouldn't be able to handle, as a human being. Even Job, a very strong, godly man, eventually broke under all that had happened to him. I'm not saying that it was right, that he didn't sin. But sometimes, there's only so much we can take before we have a breakdown. Then God is able to pull us back to Himself, if we let Him, and we learn from it. Maybe not right away, but I think eventually we do if we allow God to work in us through it.
 
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I am pretty much content with being single, and contentment and Godliness is great gain - my hands are open with the desire to be married, but I'd rather be Found in Christ and His Joy and Peace, then discontentedness with singleness
 
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What just happened... Jesus loves you both, edify each other my brother and sister , GOD is LOVE and so are we now :) love you guys
 
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OK, I get it. You are talking about the feelings God created in you towards other human beings.
I've been there before. And what I did, I kept praying for a long time sometimes with tears asking God to whether fulfill this feelings OR take them away from me. And you won't believe what happened?!!!! God worked the best thing for me :) which is directing this feelings towards Him!! Now I came to a point that God is my cake and the husband is the icing on the cake. A bonus that is nice to be there, but not necessary to be there if God doesn't want me to have it right now. See the change? It just needs persistence in prayers! :)
I realize God is not this human being still. BUT what He did miraculously that He made me feel His presence, He constantly talks to me and fulfilled my feelings in a different way.

Believe it or not, God Himself is the closest one to me, He checks on me, reveals things to me that a human being cannot reveal them, He's always there for me. We are not suppose to ask our spouses to fulfill any of these requirements. What if they fail to fulfill them for whatever reason?? then a problem will arise, correct? BUT if we are already fulfilled by God and our spouse failed to fulfill our needs, we will be able to adopt or cope without a problem.


No, my existence doesn't depend on having a spouse who loves me, but for most people, having people who love you in your life brings it more meaning and purpose. OF COURSE God is our main purpose and meaning. For most of us, life is more meaningful if you have people who are close enough to you to check in on you, to see how you are, to reach out and want to spend time with you. The physical presence of others is important ...and then an intimacy (not just sexual) with others is, I think the pinnacle. NOTE - I am including in the definition of intimacy a deep relationship or connection with a person in a non-sexual way.