Single Women interest with A Married Man Not Sure If Going To Divorce ? (Must Read)

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Jan 14, 2014
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hey everyone god bless you

Dealing with a married man.
Most Married man will play a friendly Submissive role with you. he will take the time out to get to know you as a person for who you are treat you really nice and friendly. he has the patience to do this ( because he has a lover in bed) he will do anything for you be there for you when you need him spend time with you. But this is not always good but its a form of trying to get you to forget that fact that he is a married man. Some married man will do anything to have two lives they will try all the power to manipulate you into they trap when you fall inlove with him.

1.If the divorce taking too long there must be a problem some divorces do take long but if its too long it because the other person is not aware of this.
2.some married man will do the "im just here for my kids trick" you have to pay attention to that is it really about his kids?
3.try to have a talk with the wife to actual see if this divorce is actually happening the man wouldnt be so protective over his wife if he is getting a divorce so why not talk things out ? if this is a man who actually trying to get a divorce he will not have a problem with letting her know that he is seeing someone else

Some Married man play the separated role.
be careful with these... because you never know what expect. !

god bless you !
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CatHerder

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Rather than identify all these conditions, it's better not to get involved with a married man in the first place.
 
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ServantStrike

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Or, you know, don't pursue anyone who doesn't have a divorce finalized. You really shouldn't be pursuing someone who is either married or in the process of being divorced any ways.



Matthew 19
[SUP]7 [/SUP]They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
[SUP]8 [/SUP]He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
[SUP]9 [/SUP]And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.


Some include domestic abuse in that category. But it's pretty clear you can't just remarry because you "weren't happy."
 
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Sponge_Bob

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yea you should stay away from married women. And women you should stay away from married men. Nothing good can come from trying to come in between marriage. It's silly and very dangerous and just downright wrong.
 
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Or, you know, don't pursue anyone who doesn't have a divorce finalized. You really shouldn't be pursuing someone who is either married or in the process of being divorced any ways.



Matthew 19
[SUP]7 [/SUP]They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
[SUP]8 [/SUP]He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
[SUP]9 [/SUP]And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.


Some include domestic abuse in that category. But it's pretty clear you can't just remarry because you "weren't happy."

as me not having this problem anyway if you was in reality its more harder then what you think when it comes to someone who feels alone and no love and someone sweep you off your feet the only person at their moment their life can make them happy selling them a dream
 
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yea you should stay away from married women. And women you should stay away from married men. Nothing good can come from trying to come in between marriage. It's silly and very dangerous and just downright wrong.
my personal opinion i feel its wrong to a certain extent i feel if u being lied to then i feel it should be some slack...
 

Liamson

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my personal opinion i feel its wrong to a certain extent i feel if u being lied to then i feel it should be some slack...
To what extent is it not wrong?
 
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because many are stuck with the process of divorcing... i feel that it shouldnt be a piece of paper to determine rather u are divorce or not but thats my opinion i feel rather it should be to the heart and mind.. a piece of paper do not mean anything to me.
why should it take so long to divorce ? you commit to that person but dont mean the gov has to control it leave it up to god to control.
if a divorce process wouldnt take some long maybe things like this wouldnt happen
 
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GaryA

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my personal opinion i feel its wrong to a certain extent i feel if u being lied to then i feel it should be some slack...
To what extent is it not wrong?
Does 'to a certain extent' go with 'i feel its wrong' or 'i feel if u being lied to then i feel it should be some slack'?

It is not my intent to insult you, DennyMack - rather, it is my intent to help you realize the importance of using punctuation.

A well-placed comma can make all the difference in the world... ;)

:)
 
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because many are stuck with the process of divorcing... i feel that it shouldnt be a piece of paper to determine rather u are divorce or not but thats my opinion i feel rather it should be to the heart and mind.. a piece of paper do not mean anything to me.
why should it take so long to divorce ? you commit to that person but dont mean the gov has to control it leave it up to god to control.
if a divorce process wouldnt take some long maybe things like this wouldnt happen
Aren't there bigger issues here than one's heart and mind?

Gal 5:19-21 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are [these]; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told [you] in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
 
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because many are stuck with the process of divorcing... i feel that it shouldnt be a piece of paper to determine rather u are divorce or not but thats my opinion i feel rather it should be to the heart and mind.. a piece of paper do not mean anything to me.
why should it take so long to divorce ? you commit to that person but dont mean the gov has to control it leave it up to god to control.
if a divorce process wouldnt take some long maybe things like this wouldnt happen
If a divorce takes a long time, just think how long a marriage is supposed to last!

Divorce is nearly 100 percent preventible - simply don't get married if it's not going to work out. People need to hash their differences out ahead of time, not afterwards. Divorce shouldn't be considered a plan B option, it should only be the option you go to when someone truly violates the marriage covenant (like say domestic abuse, or an affair).
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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If a divorce takes a long time, just think how long a marriage is supposed to last!

Divorce is nearly 100 percent preventible - simply don't get married if it's not going to work out. People need to hash their differences out ahead of time, not afterwards. Divorce shouldn't be considered a plan B option, it should only be the option you go to when someone truly violates the marriage covenant (like say domestic abuse, or an affair).
You are forgetting to factor into the equation of a believer (me) not waiting on God...getting discouraged,and marrying a non-believer. SHE wanted the divorce. Not ME. There are a ton of factors when divorce rears it's ugly head. I'm not trying to attack anyone here for their opinions...but you have no idea what is involved in it unless you have had to go through it.
When my ex asked for the divorce,believe me..I did all I knew to try & salvage the marriage. She didn't want to. I let her go.
I didn't beg her or plead...I didn't try to manipulate the situation,I just decided...ok,I said I had loved her...I promised..made a vow to spend all of my days with her. Now she doesn't want this. She doesn't want me. Doesn't love me any longer.
If I truly care about her happiness,regardless of if she is a christian or not...I just need to let her go.
That's what I did. If i was wrong,then God will judge me & I will stand accountable before HIM & HIM alone.

Yeah...ummm...ok..sorry I rambled..carry on.

Oh...umm...btw..P.S. I'm kinda pretty glad that even though it didn't work out because now God can do what he always wanted to do & I'm no longer in the way!
 
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You are forgetting to factor into the equation of a believer (me) not waiting on God...getting discouraged,and marrying a non-believer. SHE wanted the divorce. Not ME. There are a ton of factors when divorce rears it's ugly head. I'm not trying to attack anyone here for their opinions...but you have no idea what is involved in it unless you have had to go through it.
When my ex asked for the divorce,believe me..I did all I knew to try & salvage the marriage. She didn't want to. I let her go.
I didn't beg her or plead...I didn't try to manipulate the situation,I just decided...ok,I said I had loved her...I promised..made a vow to spend all of my days with her. Now she doesn't want this. She doesn't want me. Doesn't love me any longer.
If I truly care about her happiness,regardless of if she is a christian or not...I just need to let her go.
That's what I did. If i was wrong,then God will judge me & I will stand accountable before HIM & HIM alone.

Yeah...ummm...ok..sorry I rambled..carry on.
this is a decent answer !
 
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ServantStrike

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You are forgetting to factor into the equation of a believer (me) not waiting on God...getting discouraged,and marrying a non-believer. SHE wanted the divorce. Not ME. There are a ton of factors when divorce rears it's ugly head. I'm not trying to attack anyone here for their opinions...but you have no idea what is involved in it unless you have had to go through it.
When my ex asked for the divorce,believe me..I did all I knew to try & salvage the marriage. She didn't want to. I let her go.
I didn't beg her or plead...I didn't try to manipulate the situation,I just decided...ok,I said I had loved her...I promised..made a vow to spend all of my days with her. Now she doesn't want this. She doesn't want me. Doesn't love me any longer.
If I truly care about her happiness,regardless of if she is a christian or not...I just need to let her go.
That's what I did. If i was wrong,then God will judge me & I will stand accountable before HIM & HIM alone.

Yeah...ummm...ok..sorry I rambled..carry on.

Oh...umm...btw..P.S. I'm kinda pretty glad that even though it didn't work out because now God can do what he always wanted to do & I'm no longer in the way!
Well, that is a special case, one would hope.

Although yeah it does seem as though it happens quite a lot. I've seen that go either way. Either the couple is happy, but the believer is always stressed waking up every morning next to someone who they know isn't going to share paradise with Christ with them, or it eventually dissolves.

But that was one party dissolving the covenant, you did what you could. But you're, right there can be other factors.
 
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Sponge_Bob

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Divorce is just wrong plain and simple. No matter how we justify it...it remains wrong.
 
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You are forgetting to factor into the equation of a believer (me) not waiting on God...getting discouraged,and marrying a non-believer. SHE wanted the divorce. Not ME.
This falls under abandonment of the covenant in my opinion. The Bible says that if an unbelieving spouse leaves, let them go. I agree that God uses these tragedies for our own good sometimes.

Divorce is just wrong plain and simple. No matter how we justify it...it remains wrong.
What are your thoughts on premarital sex, Sponge_Bob? Is that also wrong?
 
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as me not having this problem anyway if you was in reality its more harder then what you think when it comes to someone who feels alone and no love and someone sweep you off your feet the only person at their moment their life can make them happy selling them a dream
I feel like a lack of punctuation is wrong.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Remember sponge_bob is a 23 year old kid, with not much real life experience under his belt.

I only point that out to say don't get upset he says divorce is wrong no matter what. He doesn't know what marriage is like. No one does unless they've been in one
Don't defend your divorce to him.