Single Women interest with A Married Man Not Sure If Going To Divorce ? (Must Read)

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I don't believe anyone would dispute the fact that God hates divorce. I believe the issue here is that sometimes there isn't anything humanly possible that we can do to prevent it, if the other person is not on-board.
I am still scratching my head at why someone would leave a Godly wife, and two daughters, that need a good father
 
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This thread. Just wow.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Its actually threads like this that make me never want to have children.

What if my son becomes a murder or a Rapist or is murdered or dies in a Car accident or whatever. The only sure way to see that none of this happens is simply to not have children.

The only sure way to dodge divorce, is simply to not get married.

And if divorce is this heinous evil that you say it is, then marriage is never worth the risk.
Concubines, problem solved :p
 
Dec 21, 2012
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This thread. Just wow.
Hi Seraphic. CC threads can get kind of crazy--cling to God and your Bible.

Isaiah 41:10 fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
 
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Well, I´m not sure what´s the intention of the thread. A warn? It could be, but no one knows the hearts, but God.

Married or single could do their play and make-believe roles. If you are "singled", with children, I can tell people here that I have seen those tricks to be lured away or accepted in a combo with their children "because they were left and abandoned". I have seen men (and woman) who stablesh relationship for flat conveniences (money) and not genuine love.

Of course, you are sharing what you have learned. It is painful and you´ve done right giving the world such a warn (it is) but very few poeple learn from another´s experiences (pitifully, but you tried to spare them some suffering you know the hard way).

I´m convinced IT IS NOT THE GENDER, but the sin spoiling people´s life. no matter it be from Christians or mundane, it hurts, same way.
 
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You cannot have one without the other, and if there is absolutely no justification for divorce under any circumstance, then there is no reason for marriage. Marriage leads to divorce, to eliminate divorce, eliminate marriage.
This may seem logical according to the human verification machine of wisdom and I've said it myself, if you don't want to be divorced then don't get married. However, God has a different plan and that is marriage. The problem these days is that people are hardened and this is why God allowed divorce in the days of Moses.

We really need to be wise when considering marriage and this can only come from God.

James 1:5
New American Standard Bible

But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
 

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This may seem logical according to the human verification machine of wisdom and I've said it myself, if you don't want to be divorced then don't get married. However, God has a different plan and that is marriage. The problem these days is that people are hardened and this is why God allowed divorce in the days of Moses.

We really need to be wise when considering marriage and this can only come from God.

James 1:5
New American Standard Bible

But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
This is just Logic.

"Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won't you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it?" Luke 14:28

You could also make a Pascal's Wager type Diagram about whether its best to stay single or get married.


1. I stay single and its fine.
2. I stay single and its not okay.
3. I get married and its fine.
4. I get married and its not okay.



1. If I stay single and its fine, I'm still productive with my life, everything goes as it ought to and God and I are better for it. Carpe Diem.

2. If I stay single and its not okay, I mope around for years in depression thinking about how my life sucks and how lonely I am and cool it would have been to have children etc etc Miserable.

3. If I get married, fall in love, have kids, its everything I thought it was going to be. God, my wife, my family, all good, kids are possible good, not really apart of the long term equation.

4. If I get married and it sucks. say we have kids, get divorced, messy battle, fighting for kids, she probably get them, I get them on the weekends, and I have to deal with the New Guy or they have to deal with my new girlfriend or however it works, judgemental church family, losing friends, life sucks etc.


Simply put, if we are Americans its a 50/50 proposition and being "Christian" doesn't equate to immunity in this equation.


Simply put, if you fall in love with someone and they are not worth losing it all, then they are not worth marrying. Its High Stakes Big Boy Table games, and before you ante up, you better realize what the stakes are.



Personally, I'm going to date someone for years before I drop the M word on the table. We will cross that bridge when we get there, IF we get there. Its not the goal, its not sitting on some ivory pedestal, there is no race, I'm in no rush and if its worth doing its worth doing right. No Volvo Settlers, no arranged marriages, no skipped steps, from here its slow and safe.
 

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You cannot have one without the other, and if there is absolutely no justification for divorce under any circumstance, then there is no reason for marriage. Marriage leads to divorce, to eliminate divorce, eliminate marriage.
Imagine what the human race population would be like were we to apply your logic ^^ with birth and death: Birth leads to death, to eliminate death, eliminate birth :(
 

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Imagine what the human race population would be like were we to apply your logic ^^ with birth and death: Birth leads to death, to eliminate death, eliminate birth :(
Making babies and getting married is not my sacred cow.
 
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There is absolutely nothing that would make me be open to dating married man. Divorce in progress or not, you are still married and I will keep away.
 

sanglina

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Making babies and getting married is not my sacred cow.
My concerned was more to do with the principle of your logic (when applied in different aspects of life), not with your own personal choice.
 
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Liamson

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My concerned was more to do with the principle of your logic (when applied in different aspects of life), not with your own personal choice.
The Ironic thing is that, I was using the logic to demonstrate the extremism found in Sponge_Bob's post.
 

Fenner

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The Ironic thing is that, I was using the logic to demonstrate the extremism found in Sponge_Bob's post.

For a second I thought you were talking about Sponge Bob Square Pants, the show. I thought, They talk about this stuff on Sponge Bob? Then I snapped out of it. :)
 
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The advice is very good, many men are just trying to stroke there ego, just like the little boys they are, wait until the divorce is final and then perceed your relationship. To many woman are getting hurt my married men. Don't just take anything out there you are worth more.