"My husband/wife is the prettiest/most handsome person in the world!"

[PopClick]

People say this a lot, and it never got my attention until recently, when someone said it about his new girl... right in front of his ex. I was like "Wow, how did that make her feel?", because he was essentially saying that his new girl was prettier than his old one. But really, aren't they saying to all the other women in the room "Hey, my wife is prettier than all of you!" (Or saying to all the other men in the room, "Hey, my husband is more handsome than all of you!")

I realize that nobody wants their spouse to feel second-best. I'm not suggesting that people say something like "Hey honey, Ellie Mae is prettier than you, but she wouldn't go out with me. You're a pretty close second, though!" I'm only asking what everyone thinks about saying this in front of other people. Is it rude? Poetic license? Tacky? Perfectly acceptable? And can it really be truthful, since nobody has met every man or woman on the planet?

 

[phil36]

MMMm good question lol.

I wouldn't say it as described above if it was going to hurt someones feelings...I would wait till later to say it.

Is it a cheesy thing to say? I don't think it is..beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

 

[rachelsedge]

It depends on the motive and situation, in my opinion. For example, I think elderly couples who say that about each other are just so sweet, but I have never gotten a "I gotta one-up everyone" or prideful/possessive vibe from them. They say it because they adore their spouse and they light up their life.

But, when you have people like the person you mentioned, it seems like it's a put-down to the other girls in the room or trying to show off (I see the latter a TON on Facebook). I think it's good to think of your spouse as attractive to you, but I don't think comparing them is a good idea. Comparison rarely is. A simple, "She's just so beautiful to me/He's just so handsome to me" is a more tactful approach.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

I've always thought it was sweet, too. But then again, I've never had an ex say it to his new woman in front of me. If that happens... all bets are off. -_-

 

[PopClick]

But, when you have people like the person you mentioned, it seems like it's a put-down to the other girls in the room or trying to show off (I see the latter a TON on Facebook). I think it's good to think of your spouse as attractive to you, but I don't think comparing them is a good idea. Comparison rarely is. A simple, "She's just so beautiful to me/He's just so handsome to me" is a more tactful approach.

^^That's probably why it bothered me. Maybe even beyond the fact that the ex was there, if he was saying it just to be a braggart, it's possible that his motives were showing through.

I like your more tactful approach, too.

I've always thought it was sweet, too. But then again, I've never had an ex say it to his new woman in front of me. If that happens... all bets are off. -_-

Just to be clear, I was not the ex in this situation. But that was the first time it had ever bothered me, so I thought I'd see what y'all thought.

 

[wisebeardman]

meh it is what it is.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I think its fine as long as they include the words "To me" or "I think."
As in, "To me, my wife is the prettiest girl in the world." or, "I think my husband is the most handsome man in the world"
This acknowledges the fact that it is the sole opinion of the one saying it.

 

[Fenner]

Like Rachel and elderly couple saying it is very sweet. Or someone saying, I think my wife is the prettiest, smart on the man's behalf and sweet. Saying it in front of your ex, with a new mate, not very nice and awkward.

 

[lil_christian]

People say this a lot, and it never got my attention until recently, when someone said it about his new girl... right in front of his ex. I was like "Wow, how did that make her feel?", because he was essentially saying that his new girl was prettier than his old one. But really, aren't they saying to all the other women in the room "Hey, my wife is prettier than all of you!" (Or saying to all the other men in the room, "Hey, my husband is more handsome than all of you!")

I realize that nobody wants their spouse to feel second-best. I'm not suggesting that people say something like "Hey honey, Ellie Mae is prettier than you, but she wouldn't go out with me. You're a pretty close second, though!" I'm only asking what everyone thinks about saying this in front of other people. Is it rude? Poetic license? Tacky? Perfectly acceptable? And can it really be truthful, since nobody has met every man or woman on the planet?

Yeah, it seems like EVERYONE has the best spouse in the world. Well, I'm glad they're happy and stuff....but I'm pretty sure not everyone can hold the title for "World's best spouse." I guess to me it's just not logical....it's weird. I don't mind when they talk about how much they love or appreciate one another.

I especially think it's sweet when older couples talk about how much they love each other. I love seeing that even though they drive each other nuts, at the end of the day, they love each other. They won't go to bed angry with one another or unresolved issues. That's how my grandparent's (on my mom's side) marriage was like. When my grandpa was alive, whenever my grandma had a surgery, as soon as she got out, he'd always go into her room, hold her hand and tell her, "I love you." and almost never left her side. (Warning - may or may not be a tear jerker) When he died, when my grandma saw him at the visiting hours, through watery eyes, she said to my sisters and I, "He was my prince."

So I guess I think it's kinda tacky to hear "I have THE MOST HANDSOME or THE MOST BEAUTIFUL spouse."

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

Well I realize no one will ever think I'm the most handsome man in the world as long as Descyple still has breath in his lungs!
lolz

 

[Fenner]

I hate to tell you this Lil Christian, but I won this award last year.









I knew my Husband felt left out, so I bought him this.

 

[lil_christian]

I hate to tell you this Lil Christian, but I won this award last year.

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I knew my Husband felt left out, so I bought him this.




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Congrats to you and your husband on winning those awards!

 

[just_monicat]

honestly this kind of stuff doesn't bother me. if you're with somebody. you clearly have an allegiance to them that is above anyone else, and i would hope that you prefer them to others. i genuinely believe that beauty (or attraction) is in the eye of the beholder and is also somewhat fluid as well. for the most part, i find declarations of such, at the right time and place very sweet.

is it the most diplomatic? no.

but if i'm with someone, he'd better think i'm the hottest chick in the room/planet. : )

 

[Shouryu]

I FB-unfriended The Ex as soon as she took up with the new man. Two weeks in, she started posting "best boyfriend ever" type statuses, and it actually ticked off a lot of our friends who had seen all the stuff our 6+ year relationship endured. I never saw the statuses since I'd unfriended her, but several buddies had confided what she'd been doing, which...upset me...WHICH IS WHY I UNFRIENDED HER.

Stupid friends. Ugh.

(I laugh about it now. But those were days of a LOT of fervent prayer.)

 

[David_1]

My wife has a Bachelor's in Computer Science and looks like Kate Upton (with a more Roman like nose).

Chances are my wife is smarter and prettier than a lot of girls.

But it's irrelevant, because 'sparkage' or chemistry is not dependent on looks.

Someone could be a Brad Pitt look alike and you simply can't connect.

Someone could be a very average girl, and you end up having 12 babies with her. Because ... the sparkage is there.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Your wife could have a limb missing, a large birth mark on her faith, and her front teeth missing from a bar fight.... but she could be the most beautiful woman in the world to you. There is no other woman in the world that has her soul, and that holds you same way at night when the lights are out and you talk about your dreams and future.

That spark stuff comes form the soul.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

People say this a lot, and it never got my attention until recently, when someone said it about his new girl... right in front of his ex. I was like "Wow, how did that make her feel?", because he was essentially saying that his new girl was prettier than his old one. But really, aren't they saying to all the other women in the room "Hey, my wife is prettier than all of you!" (Or saying to all the other men in the room, "Hey, my husband is more handsome than all of you!")

I realize that nobody wants their spouse to feel second-best. I'm not suggesting that people say something like "Hey honey, Ellie Mae is prettier than you, but she wouldn't go out with me. You're a pretty close second, though!" I'm only asking what everyone thinks about saying this in front of other people. Is it rude? Poetic license? Tacky? Perfectly acceptable? And can it really be truthful, since nobody has met every man or woman on the planet?

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

Not (e.g. in no way; to no degree) is simply not true. Looks matter to some extent (that is the extent they do). They may not matter much at all to you but to some extent they do even if it is the smallest measure.

Sorry Charlie, if your wife was a 3,000 lb. absolutely repelling hairy monster with mucus streaming out of glands that smelled worse than a sewer processing plant... well... looks matter to the extent they do. Not is an incorrect word usage.

No offense, and not taking away from all of your other delightfully valid points. And, of course, she's a prize in every sense of the word in reality exactly as you stated. Duly noted.

'sparkage' or chemistry is not dependent on looks.

 

[kayem77]

The way I see it, it depends on the tone. A friend used to occasionally say that about 2 of her boyfriends in front of me or other friends (two separate relationships at different times, don't worry) and I never thought she had prideful motives. She didn't say it in a jerkish way either, it was just a way for her to express her admiration and love. Granted, it was a little awkward for me, and maybe too cheesy haha but I didn't think anything beyond that. In the OP's example though, I think it was rather foolish and maybe even vengeful of him, but I don't know his heart. It is rude to say something like that in front of your ex, or in front of your ex's friends or family, in my opinion.

Also, I think it's annoying when people say those commentaries too often. Especially on social media! I see those all the time on Facebook, and don't get me wrong, it IS sweet to an extent....but when all of your posts say ''Isn't my wife/husband the cutest in the world?!!!'' or, '' I can't believe how hot my husband/wife is [insert awkward picture of husband/wife here]'' is just...well, AWKWARD.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Not (e.g. in no way; to no degree) is simply not true. Looks matter to some extent (that is the extent they do). They may not matter much at all to you but to some extent they do even if it is the smallest measure.

Sorry Charlie, if your wife was a 3,000 lb. absolutely repelling hairy monster with mucus streaming out of glands that smelled worse than a sewer processing plant... well... looks matter to the extent they do. Not is an incorrect word usage.

No offense, and not taking away from all of your other delightfully valid points. And, of course, she's a prize in every sense of the word in reality exactly as you stated. Duly noted.

Well, I believe his point was just that different people find different qualities/features attractive.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

I was being myopic I know.

Well, I believe his point was just that different people find different qualities/features attractive.