Biggest disadvantage to being single...

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Misty77

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My love language is acts of service, so for me, it's mostly practical things: having no help with daily life, living on one income, no one to be that daily positive male influence for my son. There's no one to go on the boys scout campouts with my son, no one to physically kick me out of bed when I oversleep, no one to be the responsible adult because I just need to freak out for 5 minutes. I have to make every big decision all on my own. There's a lot of pressure at work because I'm the only one providing income for my family. I'm so very exhausted of trying to be both parents to my son.

Then of course, I miss having a reason to go to bed at night. Nothing makes me feel happier or more at peace than being enveloped by strong arms. I love having someone to be silly with and tell kinda dirty jokes to. The right person can make the most mundane activity become a precious memory or an evening of hilarity. I want to have someone who delve into the deep theological issues right along with me, to hold onto the Lord during the times when my grip is slipping, to take my hand when we take bold steps of faith, and to battle beside me for whatever cause the Lord has called us to. As long as I have that one person on my side, I am fearless.
 
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NightRevan

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Hmm, it's probably those moments when something happens and you wish you had someone to share that moment, or insight, joke or whatever with, and those times that are starting to happen as I get a little older and feel that loneliness when you are on your own coming home from work or going to bed quite keenly. And though I have always been an strong introvert, and quite happy in my own company, however there is as I get older the realisation that this might be the way it will be, and learning to adjust to that possibly reality. I know (and I say it often enough here) that God is with me, and that is a great relief and assistance, and I know that marriage is not forever and will not be the case the majority of our existence after the resurrection, but still there times when now, that thought being alone can be a bit painful. Anyway, that is the hardest for me.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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TaylorTG said:
Seoulsearch is right. What is so bad about being single? Having to care take of another human being is a nightmare.
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Perhaps, but thanks to feminism....we no longer "have" to do that :p. Get you a strong independent business woman, problem solved. Viva La Women's Rights!
 
Misty77

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Donkeyfish07 said:
Perhaps, but thanks to feminism....we no longer "have" to do that :p. Get you a strong independent business woman, problem solved. Viva La Women's Rights!
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Really? You want to sully this thread with misogynous crap?
 
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abbiejean

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TaylorTG said:
Seoulsearch is right. What is so bad about being single? Having to care take of another human being is a nightmare.
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I don't need a babysitter and I ain't going to be a babysitter.

A good relationship when it works, it works. Two mature, capable adults sharing their life giving and taking, going through the good and the bad together. Companionship coupled with friendship.

Granted I am single now and I am okay with that. Singleness has it own positives, but in the light of what the OP wanted with this thread (if I'm not mistaken) people have shared, I believe, from their hearts. :)

Hugs to those that just might have a longing or two right now. :)
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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I think Donkey was just joking. If not..I'm heading for the fall out shelter I built underground in case of a zombie apocalypse or possible CC bible thread discussion outbreak/overspill. lol
 
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abbiejean

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iTOREtheSKY said:
I dunno if "disadvantaged" would be an accurate way to describe being single.

It sort of implys that you are unable to do what needs to be done or be fulfilled due to being single,which in that case if one truly believe's that,then perhaps they need more time in singleness.

I'm still of the old school thinking of you are 100% complete as a person in your singleness and that being with someone,wether dating or married does not complete you,but compliments you,and you to them.

Perhaps the title of this thread should be "What are the benefits to being married or in a dating relationship?"

I understand what the OP was asking,and what many people answered.

I suppose if I had to give an answer that would be a "disadvantage" of being single,it would be that I find I miss kissing for hours on end,and I'm certainly not going to, or am interested in walking up to just anyone and asking them to make out with me. LOL (now I'm just being silly):p
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Yup, exactly.
 
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Misty77 said:
Really? You want to sully this thread with misogynous crap?
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lol, I was just joking Misty......even so, how is supporting women's rights misogynist? :p
 
Misty77

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Donkeyfish07 said:
lol, I was just joking Misty......even so, how is supporting women's rights misogynist? :p
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Sorry! I just read that with a sardonic tone in mind, having just left two "Death to Feminist" threads. Carry on!
 
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just_monicat

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initially, i read the same thing you did.

i've been spending too much time reading over in the deep end. almost anything flies over there... : )
 
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GaryA

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Misty77 said:
If no one is around to hear my brilliant observations of the world, did I still make a sound? =)
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Only if it is a joyful noise unto the LORD...! :p

;)

:)
 
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abbiejean

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iTOREtheSKY said:
I think Donkey was just joking. If not..I'm heading for the fall out shelter I built underground in case of a zombie apocalypse or possible CC bible thread discussion outbreak/overspill. lol
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Perhaps he was on the other hand how is the reader to know that on this side of the screen?

I've shared before in my posts, I'm a literal reader. Someone writes something, posts it and I read it and if they don't say, "well folks, I was just joking...how am I to know that?"

I don't say that with a overtone of being mean, but sometimes things are said and it is NOT taken the way it was intended. Do I "let it go" and move on or share my thoughts on it? Just asking here.

I am not stupid. I am not. On the other hand I may have a moment or two when I truly don't get implied jokes or undertones of statements.

I will also share have read three comments on the forums the past two days where the poster posted a comment and a picture or two and it hurt. I guess I'm different. I try very hard to consider how my words will be received and consider the one or ones reading them. But most of all, I try to think if I'm reflecting Christ in my thoughts and actions.

Again, I'm not lashing out. I guess I am just trying to share my heart and feelings on this. Thank you for letting me do that.

Abbie Jean
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I don't have anyone to get me Taco Bell or Pizza hut at midnight.

Who am i going to yell at when i'm mad?? That's right.... nobody... cause i'm SINGLE.

Don't even get me started on Dance Central.


This could have been us Cyphercat!!
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Misty77 said:
Sorry! I just read that with a sardonic tone in mind, having just left two "Death to Feminist" threads. Carry on!
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There wasn't anything sardonic about that remark. No worries :p

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Donkeyfish07

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
I don't have anyone to get me Taco Bell or Pizza hut at midnight.

Who am i going to yell at when i'm mad?? That's right.... nobody... cause i'm SINGLE.

Don't even get me started on Dance Central.


This could have been us Cyphercat!!
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You can yell at me Nod.....I'll even pretend I'm upset and make you force me to agree with you after several hours to make it feel authentic :p
 
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GaryA

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SparkleEyes said:
...is not having someone to scratch my back. OK there may be bigger disadvantages, but that one comes up regularly for me. A back scratcher just doesn't satisfy me. I WANT SOMEONE TO SCRATCH MY BACK EVERY NIGHT!! Should I put that in my dating profile? Ha ha! :cool:
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"I know just exactly what you mean..." :D

Back scratches --- along with head / neck / shoulder / back / body massages...

Part of my requirements for my future wife --- she must enjoy giving and receiving all-of-the-above... ;) :cool:

:)
 
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Donkeyfish07

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abbiejean said:
Perhaps he was on the other hand how is the reader to know that on this side of the screen?

I've shared before in my posts, I'm a literal reader. Someone writes something, posts it and I read it and if they don't say, "well folks, I was just joking...how am I to know that?"

I don't say that with a overtone of being mean, but sometimes things are said and it is NOT taken the way it was intended. Do I "let it go" and move on or share my thoughts on it? Just asking here.
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Personally I'm still shocked anyone got offended at that. What's wrong with a strong independant woman that prefers to support herself? I only thought it was funny because, hey guys....we found a way to get out of paying for dinner! lol.
 
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GaryA

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abbiejean said:
Perhaps he was on the other hand how is the reader to know that on this side of the screen?

I've shared before in my posts, I'm a literal reader. Someone writes something, posts it and I read it and if they don't say, "well folks, I was just joking...how am I to know that?"

I don't say that with a overtone of being mean, but sometimes things are said and it is NOT taken the way it was intended. Do I "let it go" and move on or share my thoughts on it? Just asking here.

I am not stupid. I am not. On the other hand I may have a moment or two when I truly don't get implied jokes or undertones of statements.

I will also share have read three comments on the forums the past two days where the poster posted a comment and a picture or two and it hurt. I guess I'm different. I try very hard to consider how my words will be received and consider the one or ones reading them. But most of all, I try to think if I'm reflecting Christ in my thoughts and actions.

Again, I'm not lashing out. I guess I am just trying to share my heart and feelings on this. Thank you for letting me do that.

Abbie Jean
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Abbie,

In truth, I believe that it is 1) a combination of good interpretation in "reading out" of what is written and 2) getting to know the personalities of the people on here...

I also realize that - because of the "normality" of #2 above - sometimes, people write stuff with the assumption that others will understand what they are thinking by virtue of the fact that they are already well-known by certain other "regulars" that they converse with often.

So then - it is something we should all try to keep in mind. People should always try to remember to think about how what they write might be interpreted by those who do not know them well enough yet. And, people should always try to not react too quickly to what someone has written until they have given themselves a sufficient opportunity to understand as accurately as possible the intent of the writer.

:)
 
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abbiejean

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GaryA said:
Abbie,

In truth, I believe that it is 1) a combination of good interpretation in "reading out" of what is written and 2) getting to know the personalities of the people on here...

I also realize that - because of the "normality" of #2 above - sometimes, people write stuff with the assumption that others will understand what they are thinking by virtue of the fact that they are already well-known by certain other "regulars" that they converse with often.

So then - it is something we should all try to keep in mind. People should always try to remember to think about how what they write might be interpreted by those who do not know them well enough yet. And, people should always try to not react too quickly to what someone has written until they have given themselves a sufficient opportunity to understand as accurately as possible the intent of the writer.

:)
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Thank you for taking the time to write what you did. Sincerely appreciate it. :) Good points and well taken. :)

God bless you.
 
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