Would you be willing to date an atheist?

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storrmie

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it isnt just because I am supposed to, but I really want to believe, and I try, and I cannot figure out why I dont feel like I connect with God at all and its driving me crazy. I hear people say they are going to "pray about something" like say you were looking for work and got offered 2 separate jobs, sometimes I will hear someone say "I have to pray about it" how do they know the answer, I mean I pray about things all the time because I want to do God's will, and I know he doesnt answer in a big loud voice, but how do people know what he wants. I mean he wants us to follow the bible, yeah, but not all answers are there, such as which job to take??? How do they know he is guiding them on what to do. I wish it didnt confuse me so much. What did you do when you were in this spot?
 
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storrmie

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doseofreality said:
How do you know you are supposed to believe?
What reasons do you have that led to this knowledge of God in your head?
Belief should be based on reasons not fear and/or obligation.

I feel for you, you are in a tough spot that many, many people are in. As was I at one point.
My advice, think for yourself, come to your own conclusions. Don't accept things just because it is what you are supposed to do.
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it isnt just because I am supposed to, but I really want to believe, and I try, and I cannot figure out why I dont feel like I connect with God at all and its driving me crazy. I hear people say they are going to "pray about something" like say you were looking for work and got offered 2 separate jobs, sometimes I will hear someone say "I have to pray about it" how do they know the answer, I mean I pray about things all the time because I want to do God's will, and I know he doesnt answer in a big loud voice, but how do people know what he wants. I mean he wants us to follow the bible, yeah, but not all answers are there, such as which job to take??? How do they know he is guiding them on what to do. I wish it didnt confuse me so much. What did you do when you were in this spot?
 
Desdichado

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I have not really answered the OP. I would elect not to. Experience has shown me there is no need to be that desperate.
 
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storrmie said:
it isnt just because I am supposed to, but I really want to believe, and I try, and I cannot figure out why I dont feel like I connect with God at all and its driving me crazy. I hear people say they are going to "pray about something" like say you were looking for work and got offered 2 separate jobs, sometimes I will hear someone say "I have to pray about it" how do they know the answer, I mean I pray about things all the time because I want to do God's will, and I know he doesnt answer in a big loud voice, but how do people know what he wants. I mean he wants us to follow the bible, yeah, but not all answers are there, such as which job to take??? How do they know he is guiding them on what to do. I wish it didnt confuse me so much. What did you do when you were in this spot?
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Why do you want to believe?
It seems you definitely believe its just you want to have the personal experiences that reinforce one's belief. Obviously if you are not getting the same feedback from God that others claim it will cause doubt.
I think people are different, some are more acute to hearing voices or having emotional experiences than others.
Here is an example:
Both my sister and I were raised Christian, I shared in many experiences like prayer, talking with God, hearing from God, feeling the Holy spirit etc. However, my sister says she never felt this, though she believed and did all the right things as a christian and really tried as you are. Was my belief greater than hers? I dont know, probably not. We are different.
Maybe that helps.

With regards to answered prayer, all I will say is I think its in their head. The subconscious mind will remind a person of a verse or a sermon that applies to their situation and they will interpret that as the answer.
 
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kayem77

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Nope. I wouldn't even consider it. I don't know how I would handle knowing that my husband isn't saved through the entirety of my life.
 
Descyple

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I would date an atheist woman, but only if she had the delightful charm of Richard Dawkins, the soothing monotone personality of Sam Harris, and the hypnotizing British accent of the late Christopher Hitchens.

If there are any atheist women here that possess those descriptions, please contact me at the following phone number: 1-800-GOT-FAITH?
 
secularhermit

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I don´t! Not even they say they are Catholic... Although I know they´re NOT missing a great chance.
 
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IloveyouGod

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You made me laugh my head off!! :D
So I'm a believer, does that mean the 1-800 number you gave me was BE AN ATHEIST?? :rolleyes: ;)


Descyple said:
I would date an atheist woman, but only if she had the delightful charm of Richard Dawkins, the soothing monotone personality of Sam Harris, and the hypnotizing British accent of the late Christopher Hitchens.

If there are any atheist women here that possess those descriptions, please contact me at the following phone number: 1-800-GOT-FAITH?
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adekruif

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I would never date an atheist, I just couldn't bring myself to go there. I feel like I would be throwing away my whole life for a relationship.
 
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Thorsson

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Pandas said:
What if you found a person who was really smart, loving, fun, honest, caring, etc. (Basically all of the qualities you would like in a person) But the only thing is that, that person had strong atheist views and made it clear to you that he/she didn't believe in God. Would you still date that person in the hopes of maybe changing his/her mind on God one day, or would you just respect his/her views and deal with it?
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Almost all Nordics are atheist, I don't have a choice and it's not important.
 
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jeremyPJ

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I absolutely can't and won't date an atheist. Like my pastor said recently in church, it just won't work. If we are Christian, we should marry Christian, end of story. Especially in the world today...

I don't mean to offend anyone who feels otherwise, just speaking from experience.
 
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Thorsson

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jeremyPJ said:
I absolutely can't and won't date an atheist. Like my pastor said recently in church, it just won't work. If we are Christian, we should marry Christian, end of story. Especially in the world today...

I don't mean to offend anyone who feels otherwise, just speaking from experience.
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[h=3]1 Corinthians 7:13-14[/h]If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

It also applies to men and unbelieving women too, I guess.
 
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Hello Thorsson I'm unclear as to why you have referenced 1 Cor. 7: 13-14 as this applies to Christians who are already married to unbeleivers.

Concerning dating and marriage of Christian and non Christians the Bible is very clear as previously posted (not by me).

I guess it's up to us to choose to obey God or ignore Him at our peril.
 
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Thorsson

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GregoryC said:
Hello Thorsson I'm unclear as to why you have referenced 1 Cor. 7: 13-14 as this applies to Christians who are already married to unbeleivers.

Concerning dating and marriage of Christian and non Christians the Bible is very clear as previously posted (not by me).

I guess it's up to us to choose to obey God or ignore Him at our peril.
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The bible shouldn't decide who you marry, people who take it word-by-word are simpleminded.
 
GregoryC

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Seems you have that opinion of everyone who obeys the Bible. If that makes me a simpleton super! By the way are you smarter than God?
 
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Thorsson said:
The bible shouldn't decide who you marry, people who take it word-by-word are simpleminded.
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The direction not to marry unequally as regards to religion is all throughout the Bible, and can't be misunderstood unless you are deliberately trying to justify marrying someone of another religion. It's all through the Old Testament, and then spoken of in the New Testament as well.

I can understand your problem of not having many believers in your area Thorsson. This happened to Isaac in Genesis 24. Abraham did not want Isaac to marry an unbeliever from Canaan where they were living, so he sent a servant back to his homeland to choose a bride for his son. Modern day translation - perhaps look for your wife where there are more believers. The internet helps a lot with this. Much better than in Isaac's day when they had to resort to blindly choosing a wife just so she would be a believer.

Don't deceive yourself. It's in the Bible, and it's very important to God to protect your faith in this way.
 
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GregoryC

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I think one of the problems here is we are trying to convince someone who doesn't believe.
 
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ramshorn

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The only thing I'd like to add is I would not go out with an atheist but I would be friendly with them but would monitor carefully how they are affecting my faith. Having rests long enough to gather strength, verses revealed by the Lord so I could stand peacefully in their presence. Also they could actually be putting evil presence on you so I would go home and check out with the Lord on that.
I wonder however if a person who hadn't decided came along as I know a few couples who became Christians after marriage and some when one was backslidden the other came to faith and now they later both served the Lord. But if you follow the Lord strongly I wouldn't touch this scenario and totally agree with FERRAU.
 
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ramshorn

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Wow that is such a good question. For me I just know. Time is a factor. As you tell Him, spend time in His presence, He just drops the answer into your spirit. Journalling for me is good to I write my questions and wait until something pops in my head, write it down and check if its God later. You can't force God and sometimes on a prayer point He wants to deal with our attitudes. The main thing is keep systematically reading the Word of God, go to church and pray and worship, fast. Then God has lots of chance to speak to you. Some things are clear like thou shalt not ... but in less clear things God drops things in my spirit. His voice is different to other voices, it is not condemning, it does not create fear. It may be very challenging but eventually you will get it and how it works. His voice that is.
 
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storrmie said:
it isnt just because I am supposed to, but I really want to believe, and I try, and I cannot figure out why I dont feel like I connect with God at all and its driving me crazy. I hear people say they are going to "pray about something" like say you were looking for work and got offered 2 separate jobs, sometimes I will hear someone say "I have to pray about it" how do they know the answer, I mean I pray about things all the time because I want to do God's will, and I know he doesnt answer in a big loud voice, but how do people know what he wants. I mean he wants us to follow the bible, yeah, but not all answers are there, such as which job to take??? How do they know he is guiding them on what to do. I wish it didnt confuse me so much. What did you do when you were in this spot?
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Wow that is such a good question. For me I just know. Time is a factor. As you tell Him, spend time in His presence, He just drops the answer into your spirit. Journalling for me is good to I write my questions and wait until something pops in my head, write it down and check if its God later. You can't force God and sometimes on a prayer point He wants to deal with our attitudes. The main thing is keep systematically reading the Word of God, go to church and pray and worship, fast. Then God has lots of chance to speak to you. Some things are clear like thou shalt not ... but in less clear things God drops things in my spirit. His voice is different to other voices, it is not condemning, it does not create fear. It may be very challenging but eventually you will get it and how it works. His voice that is.
 
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