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In my opinion, he is simply saying if you find yourself desiring companionship(I think the physical aspect is in view here for the most part) then it is best to get married, rather than deal with the burning desires and longing that many struggle with, and the temptations that come with that desire.
As we know though, some people may not have a problem with being single and Paul recommends(commands?) that if you are able to remain single, do so.
As we know though, some people may not have a problem with being single and Paul recommends(commands?) that if you are able to remain single, do so.
Jesus often used 'burning' as a metaphor for 'desire'. And desires kind of lead people. We desire for the future which we don't know. It gives us anxiety. We desire for the lusts we have; for money, success, comfort.
We desire for the more simple things; food, water, shelter.
Paul is saying that to burn in any desire is not a beneficial thing. For it to 'burn you up', or 'overcome you'. People can 'burn in anger', or they can 'burn in sexual desire'. Paul, in this particular instance, chooses to focus, in my opinion, on sexual desire.
It's better to become married than to burn up with sexual desire.
We desire for the more simple things; food, water, shelter.
Paul is saying that to burn in any desire is not a beneficial thing. For it to 'burn you up', or 'overcome you'. People can 'burn in anger', or they can 'burn in sexual desire'. Paul, in this particular instance, chooses to focus, in my opinion, on sexual desire.
It's better to become married than to burn up with sexual desire.
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It is better to get married and fulfill your sexual desires or needs if that is how you want to put it, then to live a life of fornication or sex out of wedlock. That desire will eat at you over and over, but there is a proper way to handle it. And as for being single it is not wrong to be so, but remember when Paul recommended (commanded ) it as you say JDecree he also follows it up by saying that the command is not from God but from Him.
K
We must remember one thing that may be skeptical by some, but in the text it says to obey mans laws as to give glory to Him unless they contradict His. And the way i look at it man made the marriage certificate, and the divorce certificate. Marriage is done by God. But when you take in affect back from Adam and Eve to the time of Abraham. Was there a certificate ( piece of paper ), or were they man and wife in their eyes and Gods?
Well, for me, doctrine is only a matter of interpretation and opinion.
A fundamentalist harliner holds a picket sign saying 'God hates fags' at a funeral. A compassionate christian says 'they are blind'. A fundamnetalist hardline Thai buddhist throws a Tibetan buddhist out of their monastery into the freezing snow to die, and a compassionate buddhist says 'they are blind'.
What are the principles for marriage, really? Say you're a methodist and you marry a calvinist, does that mean you're in sin? I wouldn't think so, but it means you aren't gonna see eye to eye.
Personally, I could marry a Hindu woman and still find common ground. If she believes in the 'one', then she already believes in inherently the same complete 'one' as me. If she believes in selflessness and compassion then she already believes in following Jesus' most important commandment of human interaction 'love others as though yourself'.
It all depends on you, brother. What's important in a wife?
A fundamentalist harliner holds a picket sign saying 'God hates fags' at a funeral. A compassionate christian says 'they are blind'. A fundamnetalist hardline Thai buddhist throws a Tibetan buddhist out of their monastery into the freezing snow to die, and a compassionate buddhist says 'they are blind'.
What are the principles for marriage, really? Say you're a methodist and you marry a calvinist, does that mean you're in sin? I wouldn't think so, but it means you aren't gonna see eye to eye.
Personally, I could marry a Hindu woman and still find common ground. If she believes in the 'one', then she already believes in inherently the same complete 'one' as me. If she believes in selflessness and compassion then she already believes in following Jesus' most important commandment of human interaction 'love others as though yourself'.
It all depends on you, brother. What's important in a wife?
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AmmiAmmiel here is the thing though you do believe in what you do and you can give what you know to her. How is one to learn if not taught. No one would ever be able to learn about God and Jesus if they never knew of them first if that was the case. We are instructed to pass along our knowledge to others, and depending on the extent of what she doesn't accept is up to you share in a loving manner to try to convince her. But if you both believe in God, Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, repentance, and baptism then your good.
For me it's someone who is going to bond with me, whom I can love, who can love me. It's someone with whom I can find peace, with whom I can understand. Someone with whom I can go forwards in the same direction; leading a compassionate and self-sacrificing life, full of purpose, full of love and insight. It's someone who will treat our children with compassion and affection, for whom this person would willingly give up her life, as would I.
It's someone for whom God is a God of love, a God is peace, a God of compassion, a God of forgiveness. Thus, a person who stands in line with those qualities.
Doctrinal belief means nothing if there is no compassion. For me the latter, in her heart, means infinitely more than the post-it note on her forehead.
It's someone for whom God is a God of love, a God is peace, a God of compassion, a God of forgiveness. Thus, a person who stands in line with those qualities.
Doctrinal belief means nothing if there is no compassion. For me the latter, in her heart, means infinitely more than the post-it note on her forehead.
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The basic idea Paul is getting at is that to unmarried single person, if you find yourself to both have a strong sexual drive, and equally find it difficult to control yourself in the face of sexual temptation then it is both beneficial and the easier path to take by seeking to get married, and to get married fairly soon (if possible). However this is not a outright command, but it is advice for the best and easiest path one who struggles strongly in this area to find both the safe outlet and true fulfilment (in every way) for what temptation would wish to damage or pervert, and allow it to be taken up into the full context of the loving relationship and union of marriage. However this doesn't mean it's either an excuse to sin if currently are unable to find a partner 
clearly, and more importantly Paul doesn't intend that it be taken in isolating away from other advice concerning marriage (or for that matter common sense ), it is important that your future spouse is someone you really love and respect, are good friends with and are compatible as well as attracted to, and of course it is important for the shared and secure future of your lives they are Christians.
Remember if you are struggling with this (and trust me, I do sympathise ) God is faithful and will not leave you without a means of escape, and also remember you can come and lean on other Christians to support and pray with you through it, you don't need to fear hiding. And in it all remember God is always with you, and He is ready By His Spirit to support and uphold you, and give you strength in the hardest storms of tempation to carry on and bring you through, never listen to the lies of temptation that try to say you can't resist, or it's futile, or that it won't cause any damage, they are lies, rather believe Him, the One who is the Truth, and trust in His faithfulness, that He is faithful and He will deliver you as He has promised, and just follow Him and ignore them. They are just loud noise, they have no power over you, or claim to hold you, only Lord Jesus has that, so just trust and hold onto Him in the worst of the storm, and step by step walk out with Him, and know no matter how often you stumble He is there to always forgive, indeed you are forgiven already and He will keep holding you up as you stumble and walk out.
Still I hope if there is such a lady in your life you may consider the path of marriage seriously, but that said, don't just rush but also make sure that she is a good future partner, otherwise you will set yourself up for much potential heartache.
clearly, and more importantly Paul doesn't intend that it be taken in isolating away from other advice concerning marriage (or for that matter common sense ), it is important that your future spouse is someone you really love and respect, are good friends with and are compatible as well as attracted to, and of course it is important for the shared and secure future of your lives they are Christians.Remember if you are struggling with this (and trust me, I do sympathise
) God is faithful and will not leave you without a means of escape, and also remember you can come and lean on other Christians to support and pray with you through it, you don't need to fear hiding. And in it all remember God is always with you, and He is ready By His Spirit to support and uphold you, and give you strength in the hardest storms of tempation to carry on and bring you through, never listen to the lies of temptation that try to say you can't resist, or it's futile, or that it won't cause any damage, they are lies, rather believe Him, the One who is the Truth, and trust in His faithfulness, that He is faithful and He will deliver you as He has promised, and just follow Him and ignore them. They are just loud noise, they have no power over you, or claim to hold you, only Lord Jesus has that, so just trust and hold onto Him in the worst of the storm, and step by step walk out with Him, and know no matter how often you stumble He is there to always forgive, indeed you are forgiven already and He will keep holding you up as you stumble and walk out.Still I hope if there is such a lady in your life you may consider the path of marriage seriously, but that said, don't just rush but also make sure that she is a good future partner, otherwise you will set yourself up for much potential heartache.
