New Group: Overweight and Unattractive single men only
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hahahaha..+1 for using scrivener's errors. I think even Shouryu might put you in the running for interwebs award of the day on that one.
BTW..I'd rather be called "fat" than "fluffy". I hate all that politically correctness. Since when did the word "fat" become wrong to say? lol it's like if I knew someone who was blind,I'd never call them ocularly challenged. lol
In some way, I think the overweight and ugly are fortunate.
I'm a pretty good looking guy. I've made (and noticed) girls heads turn and stare. I've gotten glances and what I call "googly eyes." I've had girls hit on me and "chase" me.... they've even waited and ambushed me. Actually some of the most attractive girls I've ever seen with my eyes have shown signs if liking me... or I suspected. I'm sure in part I've been paranoid so maybe not all of them are like that. Anyways, I'm a pretty dam attractive guy.
And its not all looks. I think make really good impressions when I talk about things I'm passionate about.
AND... IT SUCKS! It sucks to know that girls out there like you for what you look like instead of who you are. And then there's the mixers... partly because of looks and partly because of who I am. I don't like that. Like me only for who I am. That's all.
Today, I purposely try to make myself look less appealing to the eye. I don't comb my hair. I've been struggling about whether I should comb it or not... back and forth. I'd comb it for a while and then not. It makes a big difference.
Ugly people will be liked and loved for who they are. Attractive people will either never know or always wonder whether it was them or what they look like. It sucks. I hate it. I just want honesty. End Rant (Sigh)
I'm a pretty good looking guy. I've made (and noticed) girls heads turn and stare. I've gotten glances and what I call "googly eyes." I've had girls hit on me and "chase" me.... they've even waited and ambushed me. Actually some of the most attractive girls I've ever seen with my eyes have shown signs if liking me... or I suspected. I'm sure in part I've been paranoid so maybe not all of them are like that. Anyways, I'm a pretty dam attractive guy.
And its not all looks. I think make really good impressions when I talk about things I'm passionate about.
AND... IT SUCKS! It sucks to know that girls out there like you for what you look like instead of who you are. And then there's the mixers... partly because of looks and partly because of who I am. I don't like that. Like me only for who I am. That's all.
Today, I purposely try to make myself look less appealing to the eye. I don't comb my hair. I've been struggling about whether I should comb it or not... back and forth. I'd comb it for a while and then not. It makes a big difference.
Ugly people will be liked and loved for who they are. Attractive people will either never know or always wonder whether it was them or what they look like. It sucks. I hate it. I just want honesty. End Rant (Sigh)
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I am sorry if this sounds rude, but reading that you seem full of yourself maybe a tad vain. I am really not trying to be rude. If i ever heard a man say that i would 100% not be attracted to him. Great rant though! But when men know they are attractive and brag or flaunt it it becomes ugly. There was a man in walmart tonight that knew he was cute and actually did a hair flip when he walked by me! Seriously i laughed. Yea he was cute and all but when you have a pound of gell in your hair and still do the flip and expect me to drop at your feet yeaaaaaa NO! dont think so. I know my advice doesnt really matter but you might want to tone it down a bit. Looks arent everything. Brcause ya know they eventually fade, but your heart doesnt. Again im not tryin to be rude but speakin like that will warn a great lady away! Seen it quite a bit. Sorry dude.
Your perfectly fine, no problem what so ever. And your right too. I think I did feel a bit vain. And you know that is yet another reason why I don't like it, being attractive. I struggle with vanity. I'm sorry. Its something I have to deal with.
Your advise or opinion matters, its good to hear other people give it. And I think you misunderstood me or something because you said "Looks aren't everything" while I was implying that point very strongly. I said, I hate it when girls care about what I look like. Why? Because I KNOW that "Looks aren't everything." I understand that and thats where I'm coming from. So, yeah...
And apology accepted
Your advise or opinion matters, its good to hear other people give it. And I think you misunderstood me or something because you said "Looks aren't everything" while I was implying that point very strongly. I said, I hate it when girls care about what I look like. Why? Because I KNOW that "Looks aren't everything." I understand that and thats where I'm coming from. So, yeah...
And apology accepted
Well, it depends... are we talking about physical beauty? I'd say its people. And I imagine it'd would be a spectrum. But, if your talking about beauty in truth. I'd easily say it depends on God. And I pretty sure he judges character as beautiful. That's one thing. And I guess nature is beautiful aswell in his eyes so I imagine he judges by first character/purpose and then physical. I remember in revelations it says that the bride is adorned beautifully. So, God definitely seems to have a taste in beauty in physical things as-well. However, maybe beauty doesn't count when people are evil?... That or that beauty is there but its wise to avoid those people.
This may be quite possibly the most important contribution to this thread.
If your testimony is true, then maybe, just maybe, the twinge of aching you feel when you know you will never be appreciated for the deep down within you, and that no one will ever be able to see that past your vanity
It might be enough that others will never have your vanity, which they think they need, to attain what you seem to disdain.
Do you believe you will live with this thorn for the rest of your life?
Like the Elizabeth Taylor falling in love with the Elephant Man, is the fulfillment of your longing just as likely?
You may be doing the poor more of a service than you will ever realize.
You may experience a drug like rush when you fall in love, but do you always ache knowing that you will never be truly known and accepted for who you are?
Does it make you ache inside, as much as the people who think they will never have the love that you experience ache?
If your testimony is true, then maybe, just maybe, the twinge of aching you feel when you know you will never be appreciated for the deep down within you, and that no one will ever be able to see that past your vanity
It might be enough that others will never have your vanity, which they think they need, to attain what you seem to disdain.
Do you believe you will live with this thorn for the rest of your life?
Like the Elizabeth Taylor falling in love with the Elephant Man, is the fulfillment of your longing just as likely?
You may be doing the poor more of a service than you will ever realize.
You may experience a drug like rush when you fall in love, but do you always ache knowing that you will never be truly known and accepted for who you are?
Does it make you ache inside, as much as the people who think they will never have the love that you experience ache?
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