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here's the thing about people telling you what to do with your life/wife and the relationship with cars.
Some may tell you to buy a Honda because they think it is best.
Others may tell you to buy a Ford because they're American made
Others may say hey ya know get yourself a Ferrari and you'll never get tired of driving it.
The thing is, you may try out a Honda and a Ford and a Ferrari based upon someone elses assertions and then 2 years later
You find the Ferrari needs routine high maintenance
The Ford may be old reliable but find she doesn't really like to get started in the morning
And the Honda may be economic but a little too dainty for your own personal taste.
Then you later may say,
"ya know, I really wish I would have just done my own research and made my own decision and bought a Toyota."
It's easy on the eyes, doesn't cause many problems, and is nice to spend time with.
And find what no one else said bore any relevance to you.
Point being, do your research, know what you want and will be content with before
making a lifelong decision to be available to someone as well as them to you.
Know what you want first, as opposed to deciding after.
Some may tell you to buy a Honda because they think it is best.
Others may tell you to buy a Ford because they're American made
Others may say hey ya know get yourself a Ferrari and you'll never get tired of driving it.
The thing is, you may try out a Honda and a Ford and a Ferrari based upon someone elses assertions and then 2 years later
You find the Ferrari needs routine high maintenance
The Ford may be old reliable but find she doesn't really like to get started in the morning
And the Honda may be economic but a little too dainty for your own personal taste.
Then you later may say,
"ya know, I really wish I would have just done my own research and made my own decision and bought a Toyota."
It's easy on the eyes, doesn't cause many problems, and is nice to spend time with.
And find what no one else said bore any relevance to you.
Point being, do your research, know what you want and will be content with before
making a lifelong decision to be available to someone as well as them to you.
Know what you want first, as opposed to deciding after.
If both partners both have the appropriate "equipment," then they are physically compatible.
If the couple can talk about sex openly beforehand (once serious), and the kind of relationship one has with one's partner is pure, loving and giving, barring medical issues, there is no reason to be concerned that these things won't transfer over to the bedroom after marriage.
If the couple can talk about sex openly beforehand (once serious), and the kind of relationship one has with one's partner is pure, loving and giving, barring medical issues, there is no reason to be concerned that these things won't transfer over to the bedroom after marriage.
M
Your welcome my friend, great advice here from everyone
I should also add though, to leave room for God to surprise you.
Because he may just say "that's what you Thought you wanted, so I guess you don't want this one then right?"
Like any gift the Lord gives, He often can have something greater in store than we anticipated.
So don't rush and be sure to wait upon his call and timing for you.
I should also add though, to leave room for God to surprise you.
Because he may just say "that's what you Thought you wanted, so I guess you don't want this one then right?"
Like any gift the Lord gives, He often can have something greater in store than we anticipated.
So don't rush and be sure to wait upon his call and timing for you.
I have to chime in here and say sexual compatibility is vitally important.
Here's the deal though: it involves factors outside the bedroom. I can almost guarantee if you are the sort of people who can understand one another at a glance and share conversations from dawn to dusk, then you will have a pretty awesome sex life.
That and good sex involves understanding someone else's wants and desires and accommodating them to which they do the same for you. The fundamentals of that sort of partnership are, again, learned outside the bedroom.
In short, there is no need for a "test drive" in the most direct and vulgar sense.
Here's the deal though: it involves factors outside the bedroom. I can almost guarantee if you are the sort of people who can understand one another at a glance and share conversations from dawn to dusk, then you will have a pretty awesome sex life.
That and good sex involves understanding someone else's wants and desires and accommodating them to which they do the same for you. The fundamentals of that sort of partnership are, again, learned outside the bedroom.
In short, there is no need for a "test drive" in the most direct and vulgar sense.
N
Yes, I'm back with my questions on virginity And I appreciate everybody's help on my last question. I have a dilemma I really need to work out in my head. I've lost count how many people have told me I need to have sex with the woman I am dating before we get married or basically test drive the car before I buy it.
Is there truth to this? If you are going to a car dealership and see a great car, would you not test drive it first to see if it is up to your standards and needs? Is there a risk that we might not be physically compatible? Should this be a concern?
And I appreciate everybody's help on my last question. I have a dilemma I really need to work out in my head. I've lost count how many people have told me I need to have sex with the woman I am dating before we get married or basically test drive the car before I buy it. Is there truth to this? If you are going to a car dealership and see a great car, would you not test drive it first to see if it is up to your standards and needs? Is there a risk that we might not be physically compatible? Should this be a concern?
Why would a godly man need to talk these matters to the godly woman he intends to wed to shared holy thoughts upon an undefiled bed? ...just saying.
You can tell a lot about how a person is in bed by their authentic character. Someone considerate is still going to be considerate sexually. The same is true with selfish people, careless people, aggressive people, gentle people, etc. Just keep that in mind while dating. Granted, there are exceptions; but then I would suggest that maybe you are looking at who they appear to be, not who they genuinely are.
I find it illogical for a Christian not to discuss sex while choosing the one person they are ever allowed to do it with. "Normal" is relative. You both have to define what normal is to you and share anything that you think might not match up with that. It will be incredibly hard for a marriage to work if the spouses are on opposite extremes in terms of libido. One would always have to be acquiescing to the other (not necessarily a bad thing) instead of the two of them enjoying the gift of sexuality that God created for them. There is also some variation in equipment that may cause logistical issues; again, which should be discussed beforehand. Like with finances, procreation, religion, and in-laws, a couple should have full-disclosure discussions so both sides know what they are getting into instead of springing new information on an unsuspecting parting after the wedding reception. It kind of seems like a bait-and-switch scam otherwise.
B
Well, Misty, how exactly is the kind brother going to "splain" his holy participation upon the body of the godly sister he adores?
Have you considered that among the saints, these biological matters are expressed within the holy mind of Christ?
I'd freak-out faster than jet propulsion if a brother courting me would ask if I've ever been an assassin, or "how do you feel about cannibalism, sister?" Yikes!
Among the saints, it's already understood that you know, directly from the Bible, about the holy exchange in marriage. There is nothing new under the sun.
Have you considered that among the saints, these biological matters are expressed within the holy mind of Christ?
I'd freak-out faster than jet propulsion if a brother courting me would ask if I've ever been an assassin, or "how do you feel about cannibalism, sister?" Yikes!
Among the saints, it's already understood that you know, directly from the Bible, about the holy exchange in marriage. There is nothing new under the sun.
Yes, I'm back with my questions on virginity And I appreciate everybody's help on my last question. I have a dilemma I really need to work out in my head. I've lost count how many people have told me I need to have sex with the woman I am dating before we get married or basically test drive the car before I buy it.
Is there truth to this? If you are going to a car dealership and see a great car, would you not test drive it first to see if it is up to your standards and needs? Is there a risk that we might not be physically compatible? Should this be a concern?
And I appreciate everybody's help on my last question. I have a dilemma I really need to work out in my head. I've lost count how many people have told me I need to have sex with the woman I am dating before we get married or basically test drive the car before I buy it. Is there truth to this? If you are going to a car dealership and see a great car, would you not test drive it first to see if it is up to your standards and needs? Is there a risk that we might not be physically compatible? Should this be a concern?
Just remember...Cars were built by man. Women were built by God.
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