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Honestly, it sounds like you need to focus on other things. It isn't healthy to obsess over a person, especially a nice guy that sounds like he is just being friendly. If you feel there should be something more, then pray that the Lord will bring that about.
Also, try not to be so quick to believe everything you hear. It's dangerous to assume things.
Also, try not to be so quick to believe everything you hear. It's dangerous to assume things.
Girl, it could be a birthmark. There are a lot of unknown things here. Please keep your feet on the ground!
"...in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
"...in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
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You've known a guy for only two months and all of a sudden you think he's big believer, his friends on FB are from his church, and boom, you like him to an extent you are jealous!!!!
Now, I'm NOT saying this guy is a big believer or not. I don't know. But NOTHING from what you've mentioned says to me that he's a big believer. Going to church every week says that he's following the rules OR he goes to church to meet girls or to meet his friends. And you said he's Orthodox, so that's the common conversation between the two of you. You yourself said you are not practicing like him, yet, you two talk about something you both know well which is Christian Orthodox. So talking about Christian Orthodox does not mean you are a big believer.
A true believer has a strong relationship with God that reflects on his behavior and actions in each and everything he says and does. AND a true believer does not go to church or practice prayers for someone else's sake. A true believer would have a genuine relationship with God for God's sake ONLY. Faith n' believing is not about practicing a set of rules n' prayers. It's a constant live relationship with God for God's sake.
From what you said by him having a relationship with a none believer, flirting with you, inviting you to his church YET, not giving you the address, says to me he's either a people pleaser OR anything else OTHER than a big believer as you have described him.
I think the fact that he's handsome, smart, showing interest in you n' it happens that both of you are Christian Orthodox, made you see things the way YOU want to see them NOT the way things really are. There is a big chance he is not what YOU want to believe he is. And maybe he is a true believer n' it's just that we don't everything about him. I don't know. My thoughts are based on what you said here.
I would take more time to get to know him. I agree with Donkey fish to ask him directly if he's single or not. N' I would make the right judgement based on the right facts NOT on how I want things to be.
Now, I'm NOT saying this guy is a big believer or not. I don't know. But NOTHING from what you've mentioned says to me that he's a big believer. Going to church every week says that he's following the rules OR he goes to church to meet girls or to meet his friends. And you said he's Orthodox, so that's the common conversation between the two of you. You yourself said you are not practicing like him, yet, you two talk about something you both know well which is Christian Orthodox. So talking about Christian Orthodox does not mean you are a big believer.
A true believer has a strong relationship with God that reflects on his behavior and actions in each and everything he says and does. AND a true believer does not go to church or practice prayers for someone else's sake. A true believer would have a genuine relationship with God for God's sake ONLY. Faith n' believing is not about practicing a set of rules n' prayers. It's a constant live relationship with God for God's sake.
From what you said by him having a relationship with a none believer, flirting with you, inviting you to his church YET, not giving you the address, says to me he's either a people pleaser OR anything else OTHER than a big believer as you have described him.
I think the fact that he's handsome, smart, showing interest in you n' it happens that both of you are Christian Orthodox, made you see things the way YOU want to see them NOT the way things really are. There is a big chance he is not what YOU want to believe he is. And maybe he is a true believer n' it's just that we don't everything about him. I don't know. My thoughts are based on what you said here.
I would take more time to get to know him. I agree with Donkey fish to ask him directly if he's single or not. N' I would make the right judgement based on the right facts NOT on how I want things to be.
It sounds to me like there is an awful lot of speculation going on with very little investigation or action. You are viewing the situation in a dreamy, far-away state. If you want to correct this, then take the bull by the horns. Evaluate the signals, your feelings for him, and the rumors. Ask him about these things yourself in roundabout ways. Then you will know what is going on and whether to accept him as a possible romantic choice or not.
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A lot of these sentences frustrate me, and I don't think anyone quite expressed my frustration so I will now. You say you are a believer but "not very religious" and that you are not practicing, and yet your faith is an essential part of you? Explain this. Because faith without works is dead. One of my friends describes herself as "orthodox christian" and "not very religious" and because I know her quite well I can honestly say she is not a Christian. Her family has a few Orthodox traditions, and I think that she believes God exists, but I know she doesn't believe that, for example, premartial sex is wrong, and she has told me that if she married an unbeliever, and had children, that she would let the children decide their own religion. I do not know much about you, but like I said, by your own admission you know that there is something incomplete about your faith. When you say, "his faith is so important to him, made me realize that i should also take care of mine", this could be very dangerous if you mean it in the wrong way. The wrong way would be where you are going to end up trying to impress him with surface level Christianity. However, if you mean it in the right way, then he has already made you realize your faith is dead, and therefore you no longer need him, turn to God. But if you think you need this guy to bring your faith about, then clearly there is a wrongful motive at play.
In addition to all of this, as has been mentioned, there is a good chance that his faith is also not what it seems to be. Indeed, he could be keeping up his faith to try and impress some other girl in the church for all we know, I've seen it happen. The problem is complex, but the solution is simple; get right with God on your own, and talk to this guy about the details, where the devil is hiding. I'm talking of course about morality, which is where the surface level Christian tends to show his true colours. Like my orthodox friend, if asked her religion she will say "Christian" but ask her about homosexuality, abortion, fornication, divorce, lust, or drunkenness and you'll find yourself talking to an atheist.
In addition to all of this, as has been mentioned, there is a good chance that his faith is also not what it seems to be. Indeed, he could be keeping up his faith to try and impress some other girl in the church for all we know, I've seen it happen. The problem is complex, but the solution is simple; get right with God on your own, and talk to this guy about the details, where the devil is hiding. I'm talking of course about morality, which is where the surface level Christian tends to show his true colours. Like my orthodox friend, if asked her religion she will say "Christian" but ask her about homosexuality, abortion, fornication, divorce, lust, or drunkenness and you'll find yourself talking to an atheist.