For laughs - What you Don’t Want to Hear On A First Date

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GodIsSalvation said:
Ah, well that's why I would desire Loyalty, Chastity, and Honesty. Nothing ignorant about those three things.
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My father married my mother, who had 3 children of her own. They're all now adults in their 30s/40s and they treat my dad like he was their biological father. And he treats them better than their real father ever did.

Your assumption that all kids will have a chip on their shoulder, as you admit to, when given the chance to have a loving father, is the ignorance i speak of. Some people are better off without their biological fathers, or even mothers.

Sounds as though you seem to think single parents can't be 'loyal, chaste or honest'. More ignorance. Just because you throw around high sounding words, doesn't mean there is anything righteous in what you're saying.
 
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todo said:
I grew up with a stepdad and didn't have a strong relationship with my dad until i started college. If it wasn't for my stepdad I would have grown up with no male figure in my life. I understand where you are coming from, but you are missing out on some amazing ladies and a chance to change/be a childs life.
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Eh, like I said, if I were all ready a dad, or had at least all ready had sex, I might consider that. However anything besides a chaste woman for me be being un-equally yoked, I wouldn't be happy, and I'd just be better off being single, and I am content to go to the nethers as a virgin if that be how my life's journey plays out.

Also you have to understand, I grew up with both my parents, and despite his flaws I respect my dad greatly. Now their marriage wasn't without their flaws no doubt about that, and I don't want to be the exact same as my dad (cause he was a bar hopper for years and I saw how that affect my mom negatively), but I know that if they had gotten divorced while I was a kid (and this nearly happened once) and my mom started seeing another guy, I couldn't accept him, that's all there is to it. I'd like to think now that I'm older if such a thing occured that I'd be okay with it, but that just be dishonest to myself. Luckily my parents are probably both too old and too crazy to really be with anyone else lol. Perhaps this is somewhat different for guys than it is for girls.

I am glad for your sake that you did have a good step dad. I know most my friends' parents are either single parents or divorcees, so I have seen the different dynamics of such relationships. In some cases the friend actually likes the step parent better than their biological parent (usually for a reason similar to yours where they don't really know their biolgoical parent very well.) Yet in others, particularly in the case where the parents were divorced when the kid was at an age to be concious of their surroundings they have a similar view as mine.
 
1. Hey do you want to check out my freezer?

2. Hold my beer - I need to try something (actually it depends on how amusing the end result was)

3. Hang on, I need to take this call, it's my boyfriend.

4. I like to keep my relationship options open (seriously then why'd you say yes to a date)
 
Ugly said:
My father married my mother, who had 3 children of her own. They're all now adults in their 30s/40s and they treat my dad like he was their biological father. And he treats them better than their real father ever did.

Your assumption that all kids will have a chip on their shoulder, as you admit to, when given the chance to have a loving father, is the ignorance i speak of. Some people are better off without their biological fathers, or even mothers.

Sounds as though you seem to think single parents can't be 'loyal, chaste or honest'. More ignorance. Just because you throw around high sounding words, doesn't mean there is anything righteous in what you're saying.
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Ah I think you have misinterpretted me. I was referring to my own personality and personal feelings which would be in tune with my own personal background.

I am not a fan of divorce or of single parenting. This is not something I desire for my own children, and if I had been put in this position, like I said, I would not accept the strange man sleeping with my mother as in my own mind I would see that to be cheating on my father.

It's not that I hate anyone who has had to go through such a thing, in fact I quite pity the situation and I wish our society was not so full of divorce and wanton sex. However I don't get to make the ruels for other peoples' lives I just get to determine my own walk.
 
I just want it to be noted that Ugly's my hero. =)


"You must spread some reputation around before giving it to Ugly"
 
Thanks for asking me out. I didn't think I would have anything else going on tonight. .... Hey! There's A (oposit sex) friend of mine over there. Would you mind staying here for a bit while I talk to them? Thanks! .... I have lots of (oposit sex) friends. .... (Phone chirps) Excuse me. I gota respond to this Facebook post. Its just so funny.
 
Ugly said:
My father married my mother, who had 3 children of her own. They're all now adults in their 30s/40s and they treat my dad like he was their biological father. And he treats them better than their real father ever did.

Your assumption that all kids will have a chip on their shoulder, as you admit to, when given the chance to have a loving father, is the ignorance i speak of. Some people are better off without their biological fathers, or even mothers.

Sounds as though you seem to think single parents can't be 'loyal, chaste or honest'. More ignorance. Just because you throw around high sounding words, doesn't mean there is anything righteous in what you're saying.
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Exactly

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Just to let you know right off the top, I am a diehard feminist.
My parents never approve of my man choices, so beware.
The dog doesn't like men, my ex-husband used to beat him.
My friends are kinda tough on who I date, so be on your best behavior around them. Don't speak unless spoken to. (I was actually told this once. Along with "This is my town, these are my people.) ugh...

Don't get me wrong, but I really like "*******" cologne a lot, you should wear it instead.
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GodIsSalvation said:
Is it lawful for an unmarried man to marry a woman that is all ready married to another man?
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No, and you know that already judging from the tone of your voice.

And you should know that Christ himself said that in cases of marital infidelity, divorce was permissible. You act like every divorce has an equal amount of blame in it - they don't when cheating is concerned.


And not everyone who has a child out of wedlock was even a Christian when it happens. Marrying such a person is no different than marrying someone who had sex before they found Christ.

There are extenuating circumstances in many cases and throwing people away because of them isn't really a good idea. Go on a couple of dates, get to know this person and see what the reasoning behind it all was. And do it in a respectful and non judgmental manner - seriously just tell someone you're really into them but you need to know a few details because you want to take things to the next level, but not on a first or second date.
 
ServantStrike said:
No, and you know that already judging from the tone of your voice.

And you should know that Christ himself said that in cases of marital infidelity, divorce was permissible. You act like every divorce has an equal amount of blame in it - they don't when cheating is concerned.


And not everyone who has a child out of wedlock was even a Christian when it happens. Marrying such a person is no different than marrying someone who had sex before they found Christ.

There are extenuating circumstances in many cases and throwing people away because of them isn't really a good idea. Go on a couple of dates, get to know this person and see what the reasoning behind it all was. And do it in a respectful and non judgmental manner - seriously just tell someone you're really into them but you need to know a few details because you want to take things to the next level, but not on a first or second date.
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How knowest thou the tone of my voice?

And aye I do know that Jesus said divorce is permissible in the case of marital infidelity; but what about for one whom is not married?

How can one have a child out of wedlock? That is not possible.

Is not marriage when the man and woman cleave together and become one flesh?
 
GodIsSalvation said:
How knowest thou the tone of my voice?

And aye I do know that Jesus said divorce is permissible in the case of marital infidelity; but what about for one whom is not married?

How can one have a child out of wedlock? That is not possible.

Is not marriage when the man and woman cleave together and become one flesh?
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GodIsSalvation said:
Is it lawful for an unmarried man to marry a woman that is all ready married to another man?
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So Jesus' death on the cross is enough to cover every sin, EXCEPT for divorce (unplanned pregnancy, etc.)? In that case, tough cookies.

Or maybe being truly Christ-like is to literally become a father to the fatherless, to redeem a bad situation rather than condemn those in it.
 
GodIsSalvation said:
How knowest thou the tone of my voice?

And aye I do know that Jesus said divorce is permissible in the case of marital infidelity; but what about for one whom is not married?

How can one have a child out of wedlock? That is not possible.

Is not marriage when the man and woman cleave together and become one flesh?
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Yep, I nailed it the first time around. Your intentions seeped through even the small amount of text you wrote. I know for certain the tone of your voice when you resort to saying "How knowest thou the tone of my voice."


Here's a tip from one (occasionally) legalistic Christian to another - tone it down a bit. You're ignoring the entire concept of grace and forgiveness here. Hyper legalism only leads to stress and (in many cases) has a correlation with children who ultimately end up rebelling in a big way and spouses who are miserable.
 
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