When people you love dearly "back-stabb" you, what is it that are you suppose to do. This has happened to me and I don't know what to do. I have prayed about it. Should I still speak to the person who has hurt me or should I try to avoid him because of the anger that might stir in me?
I am not going to say what he spoke of me but he has just judged me wrongly and even though I know I should not care what others think I am still hurt inside and I need Jesus to heal that wound. I hope this doesn't sound like I am having a pity party. Thanks in advance to you all and may God richly bless you and keep you under His wings.
*Just so you know I was told that he was "back-stabbing" me by a reliable Christian friend that I admire.
Christ commands us as Christians to talk to the person that we have an offense against in love. I
would ask them if they have a couple of minutes for me to tell them something? This will usually
get most people's attention.
Then I would ask him - not tell him - Can I tell you about something that is bothering me? Most people
will say yes. Then tell him in a straight-forward but non-judging way what is on your mind. Be sure
to point out that your friendship with them is important to you so you wanted to talk to them about
things that could hurt your relationship.
If they consider you a friend, they will listen. If not, they won't. If they don't listen, this is a second
offense that shows how little they regard you as a friend. In this case, you did what you were
supposed to do. If they are still cold to you, then I suggest you look for a new friend.
But after some time, this person who rejected what you said at first may reconsider. If they do, try
to work it out but be clear that telling lies about you is not acceptable to you. By drawing this line,
it is now the other person's responsibility to be your friend or wrong you again.
I would also suggest that you point out that they are someone you look up to as a brother in Christ
and their actions have hurt you. If this doesn't get their attention, God will.
Its ok to look for guidance from others but never put your faith in others. I learned this the hard way.
Perhaps what you are learning now. People are human and they do fail at times. It took me several
years to deal with this issue myself when someone I looked up to did something to me that just
broke me to pieces. Perhaps it was God teaching me to never look to others. Always keep my eyes
on Him. But it hurts just the same.
