Christian Marriage - I need someone to talk to!!

[Ozgirl]

Hi,

I am having major issues in my marriage and want to walk away from it unless I can find a good biblical reason to stay. Is there anyone around to talk to about some of the issues I am facing I am desperate!

Thank you

 

[tourist]

What sort of issues are you facing? There are a lot of people here that can help you.

 

[shawna]

Hi am kim most time we take oughts for better for worst and don't really know what's worst is we only say yes I don't know wht your facing but if u believe in god and know that what ever mountain is there once u believe u can move any mountain and use ur key and break the chain in jesus name.

 

[shawna]

One more thing god don't give us nothing we can't bear we're woman and strong be the wife and say enough is enough and if its worth it fight for ur marriage rite now am having problems of my own and about to walk away but I ask god to striaghten me every step of the way that's y am strong pray prayer beats every thing I would like to shear a similar story what my cousin face when she was married and how she over come her nightmares if u like.

 

[jogoldie]

Welcome ...itsgreat your reaching out.....without some more information it would be hard to just throw out wisdom....
Being that this is a christian marriage we must tread lightly....the scripture states that infidelity is cause for divorce...
If you are being hurt physically then that is quite different....there are alot of wise people here and im sure once you
feel that you can share more someone here will have good advice for you...
I will however pray for you and hope that you find the answers you seek....

 

[shawna]

I Agree but all trouble is classify as trouble and where all wisdom that come in would be handy even if the person don't say much u still can reach out to that person and help them to say alone the wÁy that's if your a patient.

 

[secularhermit]

Hi,

I am having major issues in my marriage and want to walk away from it unless I can find a good biblical reason to stay. Is there anyone around to talk to about some of the issues I am facing I am desperate!

Thank you

I don´t know what your problem is but, as far as it concerns me, if I have a pain, I try to be cured or I healed myself, no matter what the Bible said, because I´m a human being, an individual, and I´m not to hurt others and I´m not to be hurt by others.

If you are a parent you know how to discipline your children, not by hurting or humiliating them... I also believe GOD as a Father, a loving one so, there are things I don´t tolerate within marriage (or those relationship people dealt with, connected to sex or other conveniences).

 

[jogoldie]

My questions were not ment to pry....please know im offering you both my hands and my heart....to know someone ....
anyone.....who is in pain and hurting I would be honored to help....you see when I read a post I must be quiet and pray...
I would not know what to ask God ....please accept my appology...
May you find peace and joy my young sister.......

 

[Ozgirl]

Hi sorry, it was late in Australia so I went to bed. There is no love in my marriage, no intimacy and he often swears at me. He is physically violent with the house but not recently with me.

We have a 14 month old daughter and I'm pregnant with our second baby. I have a few medical issues and I've received no love, compassion or emotional support during this pregnancy. We live in a remote town so I have to travel & spend long periods of time away from home.

I know that the biblical grounds for divorce is infidelity but think it's rather wrong that God would expect me to live like this. These issues are not new to us (there are many more I haven't listed) we've had conversations about it 3 years ago and I was believing for a miracle but feel I have to face the reality that things are not going to change. We've been married for a little over 5 years he was a very different person when I said "I do" he was the church goer, bible reader, prayer man and now he doesn't go to church unless I'm home and doesn't practice prayer, his bible hasn't been open in years and prayer is not something I've heard for 3 years!

Our second baby is also a girl I'm concerned that if I stay with him they will not know love from a man because they won't see it. I'm very aware that girls learn love from their Dad. I'm hurt beyond repair at the moment and I've been seeking counselling but everyone comes with a price tag that I can't meet!

 

[jogoldie]

I was an abused wife for years......and I agree God doesnt want us to live in fear....when I ran away and I mean ran.....I had somewhere to go....
I spent most of my time planning my escape....so when I had my opportunity I ran with my girls and my bible.....God provided for me every
step of the way.....having young babies is alot harder than I had to deal with.....what I realized is I didnt want my daughters to grow up thinking
that was the way a father and husband was suppose to be....I was literally hiding my bible and he was keeping me from
my spiritual growth.....and im sure God does not want anyone in your way to Him.....please keep yourself away from harm....
Make a plan...a therapist told me most women go back...and that the best time to leave is in the heat of the moment......but I say
get to a quiet place and ask God when your time should be...I didnt have anyone back then and I promised that if any woman needed
help through this time I would do what I could....you will need a friend to help with the coming of the new baby....but I am certain....God
will provide someone for you....if you need someone to talk to I would be happy to share with you.....be safe my young sister ..
I am praying for your safety and peace.......always. .jo
Ps...my girls have grown to be wonderful .... .and my oldest has a good marriage...and they grew up with no man in the house...
I with Gods love and guidence raised those girls with all they needed to succeed........be strong

 

[tourist]

jogoldie
Quite a testimonial - and I thought that I had problems.

 

[jogoldie]

My dear friend...there is so much more...that was the readers digest version......lol.....
I have no idea nor do I even want to imagine....where I would be without God......

 

[Ozgirl]

Thanks Jo! I don't have any close enough friends to help out. My parents are not Christians so it would be hard to live with them. My Dad is not a good person to be around.

My dear friend...there is so much more...that was the readers digest version......lol.....
I have no idea nor do I even want to imagine....where I would be without God......

 

[jogoldie]

I will pray for God to send you someone.....what about your church...they will help you......im certain they have somewhere you
can go ...the womens groups are set up for things like this......my fear for you is if you notice as time goes by....does his anger
get worse.....for me it was progessional....each time worse than the next....I almost lost my life a couple of times........
all for the Grace of God did I land safely.......so you are now on top of my prayer list......lets watch God work....

 

[jogoldie]

I will pray for God to send you someone.....what about your church...they will help you......im certain they have somewhere you
can go ...the womens groups are set up for things like this......my fear for you is if you notice as time goes by....does his anger
get worse.....for me it was progessional....each time worse than the next....I almost lost my life a couple of times........
all for the Grace of God did I land safely.......so you are now on top of my prayer list......lets watch God work....

 

[jogoldie]

Really ...sorry guys.......my memory is shot....

 

[Ozgirl]

We moved in January so we've only been at our current church for a few months I don't want that to be my story. I don't want to be the poor pregnant girl who's marriage broke down. I don't want friendships based on sympathy. I'd rather sort it all out externally. I made the mistake of opening up in my old church and feel judged as a result and no one wanted to hang around me because I wasn't "all together"

I will pray for God to send you someone.....what about your church...they will help you......im certain they have somewhere you
can go ...the womens groups are set up for things like this......my fear for you is if you notice as time goes by....does his anger
get worse.....for me it was progessional....each time worse than the next....I almost lost my life a couple of times........
all for the Grace of God did I land safely.......so you are now on top of my prayer list......lets watch God work....

 

[Ariel82]

you husband sound kind of depress....

I always thought a marriage was more about how you could give to the one you love and help them heal than, expecting others to cater to you.

You say he goes to church when you are home, which means you are a good influence for him.

I'm concerned by the statement "but think it's rather wrong that God would expect me to live like this"

it kind of implies you think God is wrong.

God doesn't want you to be miserable or for your husband to be violent, but I'm not sure bailing out of your marriage is the answer.

will pray that God places people in your life that will help you feel loved and help your husband to heal so that you both can be the people God wants you to be.

 

[ob77]

Hi,

I am having major issues in my marriage and want to walk away from it unless I can find a good biblical reason to stay. Is there anyone around to talk to about some of the issues I am facing I am desperate!

Thank you

No one can help you without specifics. We need facts as to who is not doing what or who is doing what or how much or why. Help us help you.

 

[Ozgirl]

I wasn't saying "God is wrong" that's just how you read it.
I'm just struggling to understand that a woman is expected to live with abuse and her only way out of the toxic environment is if her husband is unfaithful.

you husband sound kind of depress....

I always thought a marriage was more about how you could give to the one you love and help them heal than, expecting others to cater to you.

You say he goes to church when you are home, which means you are a good influence for him.

I'm concerned by the statement "but think it's rather wrong that God would expect me to live like this"

it kind of implies you think God is wrong.

God doesn't want you to be miserable or for your husband to be violent, but I'm not sure bailing out of your marriage is the answer.

will pray that God places people in your life that will help you feel loved and help your husband to heal so that you both can be the people God wants you to be.