I am a Desperate 28 yr old Man seeking a Desperate Woman to Marry

[cinder]

Ok you have faced nice cinder, and satirical cinder, now prepare for brutally honest cinder:

YOU have issues. You can't find a decent woman to be interested in you because you are not the type of man a decent, secure in who she is and mature woman would ever go for. If your previous two wife hunting threads have not convinced you of this, then someone will have to tell you this to your face. Desperation is neither attractive nor Christian ( it demonstrates a lack of faith that God is sufficient as your all in all). Furthermore, you do not come across as a godly man. A theology degree will not make you godly. You come across as arrogant instead of humble, judgmental instead of loving, antagonistic instead of peacemaking, and quick to take offense when someone disagrees with you. You also tend to debate by personally attacking the character of those who disagree with you which is a completely inappropriate way to debate.

Why would a godly woman be interested in such a man? She won't. Not ever. The only way you will attract a godly woman is to humble yourself before the Lord and let him transform you into a godly man. Get a godly mentor and let God go to work on your character and make you a man that any woman would be blessed to know and spend her life with. As a singles community we'd even be willing to help you with this, but we can't do anything if you continue in your arrogance.

I know that sounds harsh, and like I have said before I bear you no ill will and hope that one day you do become a happily married humble, godly man. Most of that is between you and God though so please stop blaming women or feminism for personal problems that are mostly due to your character and personality.

To those who think I have been too harsh, please see his first and second wife hunting threads before drawing your conclusions. This is far from my first encounter with the OP.

 

[JustAnotherUser]

I honestly think this dude's a troll. Don't feed him and he'll eventually go away...

 

[SarahMoore]

Oh honey. Desperation is never the way to go. Now I am just getting back into the swing of Christianity and not to be judgemental but going off my own honest opinion here. Yes there are good Godly Christian women out there. But going with a previous post, this is not a very good first impression to anyone who sees it, man or woman. I dont think femanazi mentalities are very attractive, and I certainly dont think that way but this post seems very archaic and to me seems to have a vibe that you want a barefoot and pregnant type of woman. But you shouldn't insult every woman out there just because you havent gotten what you want. I pray that you find the patience to let God work his plans for your life. I am sure you will find that special someone when he is ready for it. But judging by your attitude I'd say you're not.

 

[faroukfarouk]

Oh honey. Desperation is never the way to go. Now I am just getting back into the swing of Christianity and not to be judgemental but going off my own honest opinion here. Yes there are good Godly Christian women out there. But going with a previous post, this is not a very good first impression to anyone who sees it, man or woman. I dont think femanazi mentalities are very attractive, and I certainly dont think that way but this post seems very archaic and to me seems to have a vibe that you want a barefoot and pregnant type of woman. But you shouldn't insult every woman out there just because you havent gotten what you want. I pray that you find the patience to let God work his plans for your life. I am sure you will find that special someone when he is ready for it. But judging by your attitude I'd say you're not.

For some men:

If a potential wife reads the King James or if she does not read the King James, she will be either looked down on or else cause him to fear that she is more spiritually minded than he is.

If a potential wife has a college degree or doesn't have a college degree, she will be either looked down on or be the source of insecurity.

If she has a business-like haircut or does not have a business-like haircut, she will either be looked down on or else regarded as too floppy and feminine.

If she has a tattoo or does not have a tattoo, she will be either looked down on, or else he may try to compel her to get one.

The moral: men who are so insecure are best kept at arm's length. (They still need prayer, but they need to get themselves a life.)

 

[SabbieWabbie]

I am by no means encouraging dating on this website or this man's prideful attitude.

However, the title of this thread was a mere lure to obviously get attention and get everyone worked up (troll maybe?)

But the content of the message was him being desperate to know if women not conformed by the worlds standard exist.

To answer your question: Yes, they do exist. However, they will not respond in the way you want because you are not showing yourself as a leader or as a loving man. You seem cold and as much as scripture is worthy and valid there is still a person and a personality and a character in a man and that's what she wants to see, not a list or a bunch of rules you want her to follow - a virtuous women already knows her responsibilities, you don't need to remind her in a condescending matter.

If you meet a woman you think is lovely, get to know her, her actions, not what she tells you. Her actions are going to show you who she really is. You would be surprised at how many woman will fake it to get a ring on their finger and change once you are married, and this goes both ways. Get to know someone without setting out your expectations first.

 

[DarlinNadia]

I understand that you are throwing your cards on the table.

One Card you might pick back up and re-evaluate is the one where you put down others... "angry feminatzis or neutered pro-feminatzi men" This screams not Christlikeness... it doesn't show love and I would question if you were really Christian, understood agape love, understood Biblical roles, or even were able to think about anyone beyond yourself. I know that comes off harsh and I apologize becasue i'm not trying to make you feel bad or anything like that, rather I'm trying to give you an idea of areas you can improve...

I can totally appreciate laying your cards on the table... Liamson did with his post about dealmakers and dealbreakers list. But, honestly, I believe that if you are going to kick God out of the search for that person YOU think it's right for you, you will end up with what YOU are looking for... personally, I'd rather God was in control of my next relationship.

 

[Godslonelyhero]

put God first and you will succeed..

 

[tourist]

DATING SITE THIS IS NOT.

It certainly can be a dating site with two consensual adults. As Keep_On_Smiling said, there are Godly woman on this site. Godly men also if you look hard enough. This is not surprising as there are many lonely Christian individuals looking for that special someone to connect with and this is a Christian Chat site. I think that it is naïve to suggest that there isn't a certain amount of flirting going on here in the hopes of attracting a Godly woman or Man. This site can be whatever you want it to be but it is best to keep a Christian perspective on things and remember that these are actual human beings we are interacting with and a great deal of them are Children of God.

 

[Blueamethyst]

I think this has been said in many different ways already, but I feel led to add my two cents.

I also feel there are seasons in our lives that call for desperate passionate pursuit from us - I think to spend that time desperately, passionately pursuing anything but God is a mistake. While living in passionate pursuit of Him, you'll find her... in His time. And the life you're modelling of love for Jesus and everything He stands for will be so much more attractive than this awkward pursuit of her.

I'm not saying I'm perfect, I have to constantly remind myself to be patient, that while I'm seeking God in my life, the other stuff that He's placed as desires in my heart like a husband and more children, they will come. In the meantime, He fills my life with joy - and love from other sources. I have the opportunity to cultivate wonderful friendships with believers that hold me accountable and model beautiful Godly marriages so I'll be more prepared when it is my turn too.

If you're sincerely seeking, you'll hear what God is trying to tell you. I pray for your sake that you aren't just the troll that some people think you are.

 

[Donkeyfish07]

I understand that you are throwing your cards on the table.

One Card you might pick back up and re-evaluate is the one where you put down others... "angry feminatzis or neutered pro-feminatzi men"

Out of curiosity, would you agree with that same statement you just made if the name of the group changed?

For example: "When you put down others, like Ku Klux Klan Members (instead of feminazi for example). This does not show love and I would question if you are really Christian".

You still think that's a good phrase?

 

[Ugly]

Not sure if serious or satirical...

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I'm going with 'serious satire'.

 

[ob77]

For those angry feminatzis or neutered pro-feminatzi men who think you will be clever by insulting me for this post, haha I don't give a what you think

I AM desperate! Do truly Godly young women even exist in our culture who are not corrupted by anti-Christian ways of viewing the world?

The so called "right to choose" which is consonant with the secular feminist movement says that my future wife should abort our child if she so wishes, or have her tubes tied, or divorce me at a moment's notice without an afterthought. The secular new-age modern atheistic agenda has brainwashed women into thinking that a wife and mother should dump off her children at the baby sitter and gain prestige for herself in a career instead of being present to the children as a mother in the home...

I am DESPERATELY wondering if such a young woman exists anymore who sees these evils for what they are (and who does not believe them to be "progress" and "equality")??

If so, send me a message, maybe we can get married and make some kids!!

Sincerely,
28Man_Seeking_Wife

I saw no profanity in this post, but I would not be offended if I did. I do not know if there are women of those you seek that are out there and available. From what I have seen here and out in the world, I would say not. I , myself am somewhat unevenly yoked, but I make do with what I have to work with. You may have to make compromises and hope to set things straight later. Best of luck to you, I hope you find what you are looking for.

 

[FireWire]

The way I see it is he is simply looking for a Godly woman to settle down with eventually and all he can find is feminized women and not sure why it was mentioned but also la-de-da's. There is nothing wrong with this unless you want to take God on? He may be just angry and while that's not a sin how it is dealt can be.

He has been crucified by some people for this.

I'd like to know who he has insulted exactly. Was it somebody in particular? The behavior of some people has actually reinforced his point in the first place. There has been judging and some hypocrisy going on from what I can see. I'd like to know why saying somebody is feminist is a put down?

As soon as the word f.e.m.i.n.i.s.m is mentioned the wolves suddenly wake up. Well sorry to break the bad news but it does exist and there are hoards of feminist type women around. Some of them claim to be followers of Christ as well. I see it as a disease that needs to be eradicated and the only immunization I know that can do this is Jesus.

I may not be anywhere near as smart as this guy but I know a bad Christian witness when I see one. You might judge him as immature but I don't see any maturity in some of the responses either.

 

[tourist]

I think this has been said in many different ways already, but I feel led to add my two cents.

I also feel there are seasons in our lives that call for desperate passionate pursuit from us - I think to spend that time desperately, passionately pursuing anything but God is a mistake. While living in passionate pursuit of Him, you'll find her... in His time. And the life you're modelling of love for Jesus and everything He stands for will be so much more attractive than this awkward pursuit of her.

I'm not saying I'm perfect, I have to constantly remind myself to be patient, that while I'm seeking God in my life, the other stuff that He's placed as desires in my heart like a husband and more children, they will come. In the meantime, He fills my life with joy - and love from other sources. I have the opportunity to cultivate wonderful friendships with believers that hold me accountable and model beautiful Godly marriages so I'll be more prepared when it is my turn too.

If you're sincerely seeking, you'll hear what God is trying to tell you. I pray for your sake that you aren't just the troll that some people think you are.

I believe that you are on the right track and your turn at an loving enduring marriage will come. I am not perfect either.

 

[tourist]

The way I see it is he is simply looking for a Godly woman to settle down with eventually and all he can find is feminized women and not sure why it was mentioned but also la-de-da's. There is nothing wrong with this unless you want to take God on? He may be just angry and while that's not a sin how it is dealt can be.

He has been crucified by some people for this.

I'd like to know who he has insulted exactly. Was it somebody in particular? The behavior of some people has actually reinforced his point in the first place. There has been judging and some hypocrisy going on from what I can see. I'd like to know why saying somebody is feminist is a put down?

As soon as the word f.e.m.i.n.i.s.m is mentioned the wolves suddenly wake up. Well sorry to break the bad news but it does exist and there are hoards of feminist type women around. Some of them claim to be followers of Christ as well. I see it as a disease that needs to be eradicated and the only immunization I know that can do this is Jesus.

I may not be anywhere near as smart as this guy but I know a bad Christian witness when I see one. You might judge him as immature but I don't see any maturity in some of the responses either.

I think that you are plenty smart. Well said!

 

[tourist]

Ok you have faced nice cinder, and satirical cinder, now prepare for brutally honest cinder:

You are indeed all three and that is not a bad thing in my book. You tell it like it is and I find that to be most refreshing.

 

[ronnie2796]

This poor guy. I really feel for him.
He's not going about this the right way, but I can understand why.
I wish the best for him.

 

[FireWire]

I think that you are plenty smart. Well said!

Thanks buddy

 

[JessicaMay]

I sympathise with your desperation, as I'm 26 and single, and seriously want nothing more than to 'settle down' and be a good wife and mother. But, as difficult as this is, you shouldn't seek to marry just anybody. If you're to marry, it should be to someone who you love. My parents married out of sheer desperation, just 'to be with someone', and my siblings and I have found that very difficult to live with. So even though it's easier said than done, trust in The Lord, pray for patience, pray that He'll bring you a wife, if it's His Will. You're probably meant to be single for the rest of your time here on earth. Either way, there's a good reason why you're single. Perhaps it's a time for you to 'find yourself', try new things, seek God more and spend more time with Him. That's what I've found! I've been single for more than 6 yrs, and because of that I'm closer to God than I was when I had a boyfriend. It hasn't been easy, and it's especially heart-wrenching to see other couples cuddling and loving each other, but seek The Lord first, always first, as that's more important than being married and having babies.

 

[JessicaMay]

By the way if you'd like to chat my email is **removed e-mail**