I don't really know what my calling is.
Unless it is to be the anchor and foundation, spiritually and emotionally, for my family. If I'm to be more than that it hasn't been revealed to me.
I had a pastor tell me I would do mighty things for the Lord. I'm not sure what that entails.
You're a young grandpa. I just hope I'm not old before I become a dad. I keep trying to explain to God that we don't live as long today as they did in Abraham's time!
I forgot that language is used differently in different contexts and forgot what many churches have made 'calling' out to be before I posted this thread with its title. But it's a good thing, because it exposes the hearts of some which they'd rather keep hidden. Let me distinguish:
1.
In churches today, 'calling' means
something that makes you special (even more special than others). I don't like that definition either, and I can see how it would rub some people the wrong way. That definition of calling doesn't leave room for 'small things' like running a kid nursery or a bakery shop somewhere downtown; that definition, rather, implies grandiosity, specialness, better-thanness, etc. Like everything that the flesh and soul do, that current running definition of 'calling' disregards what the Bible says and shows calling to be:
"And God has placed in the church first of all apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, of helping, of guidance, and of different kinds of tongues" (1Cor. 12:28). Always pushing to be first, the flesh defiles the meanings of all Scripture and takes the above to mean a pecking order or a vertical progression (top to bottom) when it really is a horizontal one (first, second, third, etc.). There are people who just serve food and do janitorial work as their calling (which, again, is not their purpose which I may have to define separately); but everyone wants to take the 'special positions' today.
2.
In truth, 'calling' should be more correctly called 'callings'. Each person has more than one gift and more than one talent; that can never all be used for one 'calling'. What you do may be your calling, but who you are is your purpose.
There's so much within what you shared that I won't even try to dissect it too much, but let me do a step by step:
A.
"I don't really know what my calling is."Welcome to the rest of us. It's hard to know what your one calling is when you have more than one... and we all have more than one, that's why it's not easy to know one calling since it isn't one but several.
B.
"Unless it is to be the anchor and foundation, spiritually and emotionally, for my family." This is the primary calling (responsibility) of every man who has a family. God isn't looking for people who are looking for the limelight (something that not even the brightest Christian seems to have apprehended yet in the mad dash to have a calling and minister); He is looking for people He can trust: in the movie Gladiator, the Caesar didn't choose his son who desired the throne; He chose Maximus who just wanted a simple life with his wife and family,
because he was trustworthy to lead without selfish interests. (I.e. his mind was on his family; as long as it stayed there, he would be a good ruler.) Hanani the seer said to Asa, king of Judah who'd relied on others instead of God,
"The eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth to strengthen those whose hearts are loyal to Him" (2Chron. 16:9). And Paul said,
"Let a man so consider us as servants of Christ and stewards of the mysteries of God. Moreover, it is required in a steward that a man must be proven faithful" (1Cor. 4:1-2). If you chose people to babysit your kids or to look after a business, you would preferably choose people you can trust. God chooses many people but has His preference (which we see with Saul and David) and it is trustworthy men (and women)
who keep their eyes and hands off the things that belong to God (the Bride, the Throne (glory), etc.) and on the things that belong to them (no covetous spirit). He can entrust them with things that belong to Him (glory, primarily), because they won't try to keep it for themselves.
C.
" If I'm to be more than that it hasn't been revealed to me." Who is to say what 'more' is. "God makes men what they are."
D.
"I had a pastor tell me I would do mighty things for the Lord. I'm not sure what that entails." If you draw closer and closer to God and do those primary things of watching over your family, God will do mighty things for you even if you never do what others consider mighty things for Him.