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I've been married 33 years to the same wonderful man. I won't tell you we haven't had struggles, issues, and problems, but with the help of God, we have always worked them out.
We have always both been committed to God, and to the fact that marriage is for life. Together, we have adapted, learned and changed, and grown together as a couple, and grown closer to God together.
I am truly blessed to have married a man who believes the same way I do - we both believe in Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour and read the Bible together and go to church together. We don't do this because we have to, but because we want to.
We have 4 wonderful children, that we are close to, and 3 grandchildren and one more on the way. My husband just retired, which took some getting used to for both of us. Now we are excited to have the freedom to visit our grandchildren, travel, and most of all, serve God together.
Good topic, I hope many people testify to the fact that marriage can be a good and healthy thing, and a gift from God.
We have always both been committed to God, and to the fact that marriage is for life. Together, we have adapted, learned and changed, and grown together as a couple, and grown closer to God together.
I am truly blessed to have married a man who believes the same way I do - we both believe in Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour and read the Bible together and go to church together. We don't do this because we have to, but because we want to.
We have 4 wonderful children, that we are close to, and 3 grandchildren and one more on the way. My husband just retired, which took some getting used to for both of us. Now we are excited to have the freedom to visit our grandchildren, travel, and most of all, serve God together.
Good topic, I hope many people testify to the fact that marriage can be a good and healthy thing, and a gift from God.
We just celebrated 40 years of marriage. Started out neither of us were born again believers. My wife was Catholic and her family considered me just a heathen. They were not far from the truth. I got saved about a year after we were married and started to go to church about a year later. My wife was surprised at the change and went along with me. She trusted to Lord shortly after. Three children and lots of trials and tests but the Lord has sustained us through it all. I kid her constantly about how wonderful it will be when we are married another 40 years. We laugh about being 100 years old and if we will know each other. I told her I'll know her by her kiss. With or without her teeth.
God is good. God is good when times are tough and when times are good. O for grace to love Him more.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
God is good. God is good when times are tough and when times are good. O for grace to love Him more.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
Fifty years plus and still going. God brought two totally different youngsters together as one. We decided early on that he would always be first in our lives, and have depended on him to resolve our differences. Through the toughest of times (the loss of a son), and the leanest of times (like times when we had an empty refrigerator and the next money three weeks away), he has always been there. I can go on and on. Sometimes I wonder why he puts up with an old sinner like me, but he always reminds me that he "has my back". When we got married, we made a total commitment to each other, and to God. An aside, we are members of a Sunday School class with nearly 800 years of marriage to the same partner.
We serve a great and wonderful Lord.
I pray that every couple in the world will get to know him as we do.
We serve a great and wonderful Lord.
I pray that every couple in the world will get to know him as we do.
I'm a comparative "youngster" here -- only married 20 years!
My hubby and I met in our church's singles group -- it was a bit of a on-again-off-again courtship as we were both in our 30s and already with a set of baggage each. But we knew early on that God was behind our union -- If God be for us, who can be against us!
Of course our marriage hasn't been perfect, but as we both continue in getting closer to God (a continuing path), we find ourselves getting closer together. He challenges me in my walk with God, and I challenge him as well. We have grown in our own personal relationships with Christ and Christ is DEFINITELY the third person in our marriage. We would have it no other way!
We have had our share of disappointments, like infertility, business failure and job loss and we've lost all four of our parents in our 20 years together, but I couldn't imagine my life without him. We complement each other.
Anyway, I know this is a bit rambling, but I thank you, Tintin, for starting this thread. I don't think we give testimony for the greatness of our God enough in our culture!
My hubby and I met in our church's singles group -- it was a bit of a on-again-off-again courtship as we were both in our 30s and already with a set of baggage each. But we knew early on that God was behind our union -- If God be for us, who can be against us!
Of course our marriage hasn't been perfect, but as we both continue in getting closer to God (a continuing path), we find ourselves getting closer together. He challenges me in my walk with God, and I challenge him as well. We have grown in our own personal relationships with Christ and Christ is DEFINITELY the third person in our marriage. We would have it no other way!
We have had our share of disappointments, like infertility, business failure and job loss and we've lost all four of our parents in our 20 years together, but I couldn't imagine my life without him. We complement each other.
Anyway, I know this is a bit rambling, but I thank you, Tintin, for starting this thread. I don't think we give testimony for the greatness of our God enough in our culture!
I have been married for 17 years now. It has only been in the last year that I was saved & baptized and my husband rededicated his life to Christ.
I can honestly say that the past year with Christ in our marriage has been the best year of our entire marriage. We are closer now than we have ever been. We love being involved in our church and have some wonderful discussions about scripture and our faith and the positive changes in our lives.
God is so good to us and we thank Him every single day.
I can honestly say that the past year with Christ in our marriage has been the best year of our entire marriage. We are closer now than we have ever been. We love being involved in our church and have some wonderful discussions about scripture and our faith and the positive changes in our lives.
God is so good to us and we thank Him every single day.
After a horrible first marriage that ended in divorce I was alone for 18 years. I prayed for 3 years for God to end my loneliness and find for me a spiritual woman that would love and accept me for who I am. Our marriage was happy and we were faithful to each other until the day that she died. It was also the hardest years of my life but at the same time the most rewarding. I do not regret a single day of the life that we shared. It was beautiful and of God.
While a marriage made in heaven can be wonderful, it is, as with other types of marriages, very challenging. The advice I would give any one seeking marriage is you must be willing to accept that person for who they are. It is also of critical importance that the marriage is in a constant state of spiritual growth because it is only from this growth that positive spiritual changes can occur that will manifest itself in your day to day life. It will also put a song in your heart and a skip to your step. Be happy!
Do not expect your future spouse to become your slave but you must share the daily necessary tasks. Be extremely sensitive to your spouses wants and needs and also the tender spots of their heart.
A happy, successful marriage is one that God joins the two together and they become one flesh. Every aspect of the marriage must be centered on God's love. If you take God's love and give it to your spouse you will both discover true lasting happiness. Do not be naïve and think that marriage will solve all of your problems because it will not. Indeed, it will probably create other types of problems, some petty, some serious but all that can be resolved working together with the love of God in their hearts. Your spouse should be your best friend and traveling companion on a shared life's journey.
It is, in the best sense of the word, an adventure that is worth living and living well.
Above all else, be faithful. That is key.
While a marriage made in heaven can be wonderful, it is, as with other types of marriages, very challenging. The advice I would give any one seeking marriage is you must be willing to accept that person for who they are. It is also of critical importance that the marriage is in a constant state of spiritual growth because it is only from this growth that positive spiritual changes can occur that will manifest itself in your day to day life. It will also put a song in your heart and a skip to your step. Be happy!
Do not expect your future spouse to become your slave but you must share the daily necessary tasks. Be extremely sensitive to your spouses wants and needs and also the tender spots of their heart.
A happy, successful marriage is one that God joins the two together and they become one flesh. Every aspect of the marriage must be centered on God's love. If you take God's love and give it to your spouse you will both discover true lasting happiness. Do not be naïve and think that marriage will solve all of your problems because it will not. Indeed, it will probably create other types of problems, some petty, some serious but all that can be resolved working together with the love of God in their hearts. Your spouse should be your best friend and traveling companion on a shared life's journey.
It is, in the best sense of the word, an adventure that is worth living and living well.
Above all else, be faithful. That is key.
J
Married 50 + yrs. Husband has been the most loyal and giving man
any wife could ask for. He gave up so many things for his family.
He retired and it is sort of funny really. He went on a spending
spree and bought all those tools he always wanted and you know ..
guy stuff. Ummm, now he doesn't feel like doing what he had
hoped to do. Our son is going to be one blessed guy some day.
I want to comment if I may on some things said. One is when
he retired, it was an adjustment. In the beginning of our married
years we were so close, where one was the other was too. Then
he had to go out of town to work for 17 yrs. He kept our home
here and rented through the week where he ran the second office
for his company. Lots of traveling back and forth. I pretty
well had the home to myself, except for week ends. So when he
came home he did new kitchen and all updates (after retirement ).
There went my style ... I was used to having my own style in
furnishings etc.... He was having to get me to be able to let things
go. I wept because I thought, I am not my own person anymore.
But, God spoke to me and said.. "This is his home too." Oops.
Another factor I believe to be important, and I learned the hard
way.... We can not play Holy Spirit. We can't make them into what
we want spiritually. We must let them grow in relationship with
Christ on their terms. I was so super spiritual in my walk and my
group of friends were and it appeared he was never going to catch
up. You, know ? There is no catching up ... It is a personal walk for
each of us. I discovered due to illness, his Godly qualities were deep
in him. When I was sick he prayed for me. He was patient and loving.
He allowed me to read scriptures to him as I needed healing and he
listened and we talked about them.
When we lost our daughter at age 45, he was my support. He grieved,
but being mother, my grief was longer and out of the blue, I would
break down and sob... He would hold me and let me cry against his
chest. He is amazing and loves me so much. And I am spoiled.
He told me that yesterday... just a little tiff .... LOL.
I feel we have gotten along very well and we do agree on most things.
Our taste is pretty much the same. Okay, maybe half and half. We
compliment one another as a couple.
Oh one thing and then I will quit.... All the years of raising children,
going to Church 3 x's a week... driving them to Christian School,
taking on things my parents had need of... keeping up our home
and having Holiday gatherings, and running to the City he worked
at to be with him through the week.... I was tired...
He retires and wants to do all the things he always wanted to do,
go places, etc. .... I told him, how ironic ... I was tired of all the
running and shopping etc. I wanted to retire... He retires and is
raring to go. He did get to do a little as my strength came back
gradually. But not all he would like to have done. I feel badly for
that. But he loves me and I love him and we both hope God takes
us together when our time is up.
With the way people drive and so many wrecks ... where I live,
it could happen.
God bless all who have shared their stories... I loved them..
This is great to share something positive... I am loved..
You are loved... Jesus loves us... the Bible tells us so...
~J~Kay ~2
any wife could ask for. He gave up so many things for his family.
He retired and it is sort of funny really. He went on a spending
spree and bought all those tools he always wanted and you know ..
guy stuff. Ummm, now he doesn't feel like doing what he had
hoped to do. Our son is going to be one blessed guy some day.
I want to comment if I may on some things said. One is when
he retired, it was an adjustment. In the beginning of our married
years we were so close, where one was the other was too. Then
he had to go out of town to work for 17 yrs. He kept our home
here and rented through the week where he ran the second office
for his company. Lots of traveling back and forth. I pretty
well had the home to myself, except for week ends. So when he
came home he did new kitchen and all updates (after retirement ).
There went my style ... I was used to having my own style in
furnishings etc.... He was having to get me to be able to let things
go. I wept because I thought, I am not my own person anymore.
But, God spoke to me and said.. "This is his home too." Oops.
Another factor I believe to be important, and I learned the hard
way.... We can not play Holy Spirit. We can't make them into what
we want spiritually. We must let them grow in relationship with
Christ on their terms. I was so super spiritual in my walk and my
group of friends were and it appeared he was never going to catch
up. You, know ? There is no catching up ... It is a personal walk for
each of us. I discovered due to illness, his Godly qualities were deep
in him. When I was sick he prayed for me. He was patient and loving.
He allowed me to read scriptures to him as I needed healing and he
listened and we talked about them.
When we lost our daughter at age 45, he was my support. He grieved,
but being mother, my grief was longer and out of the blue, I would
break down and sob... He would hold me and let me cry against his
chest. He is amazing and loves me so much. And I am spoiled.
He told me that yesterday... just a little tiff .... LOL.
I feel we have gotten along very well and we do agree on most things.
Our taste is pretty much the same. Okay, maybe half and half. We
compliment one another as a couple.
Oh one thing and then I will quit.... All the years of raising children,
going to Church 3 x's a week... driving them to Christian School,
taking on things my parents had need of... keeping up our home
and having Holiday gatherings, and running to the City he worked
at to be with him through the week.... I was tired...
He retires and wants to do all the things he always wanted to do,
go places, etc. .... I told him, how ironic ... I was tired of all the
running and shopping etc. I wanted to retire... He retires and is
raring to go. He did get to do a little as my strength came back
gradually. But not all he would like to have done. I feel badly for
that. But he loves me and I love him and we both hope God takes
us together when our time is up.
With the way people drive and so many wrecks ... where I live,
it could happen.
God bless all who have shared their stories... I loved them..
This is great to share something positive... I am loved..
You are loved... Jesus loves us... the Bible tells us so...
~J~Kay ~2
J
My husband and I are still on our honeymoon, just celebrated eleven years in March. We have a great marriage, he blesses and enriches my life everyday. He is my best friend, a leader by example, a great father, a hard worker, just a wonderful person.
I completely agree with j-kay, I had to learn to let him have his own Christian walk. This was one of the hardest lessons to learn because neither of us were saved when we met or married. He was my high school sweetheart. I wanted to drag him along on my walk not realizing until much later he walked his faith out in a much different way than what is portrayed in Christian movies or my own walk.
I thank God for bringing such a wonderful man into my life. My marriage also allows me to occasionally catch glimpses of the Holy relationship of the Father and Son and the way Jesus loves His Bride.
I completely agree with j-kay, I had to learn to let him have his own Christian walk. This was one of the hardest lessons to learn because neither of us were saved when we met or married. He was my high school sweetheart. I wanted to drag him along on my walk not realizing until much later he walked his faith out in a much different way than what is portrayed in Christian movies or my own walk.
I thank God for bringing such a wonderful man into my life. My marriage also allows me to occasionally catch glimpses of the Holy relationship of the Father and Son and the way Jesus loves His Bride.
Wow. What a beautiful thread. Thanks Tintin!
For me I can think of my grandparents, and how amazing their marriage was.
They were married for 62 years until the time of death of my Dada.
My grandmother lost her father at a very young age. Her mother was a Portuguese woman who had married an Indian doctor but stayed back in the country after his death.
It was pre-indepedence and they were almost destitute. In desperation, my great grandmother considered getting my grandmother married to anyone, who would take her in, to support her.
She was very beautiful and they were many people who wanted to marry her. However her European lineage and the thought of supporting my great-grandmother and my grandma's sister was a turn off.
My grandpa, however was a stately government official and a total gentleman. He heard of the predicament of my grandmother and decided to marry her, and support the tiny family of three (my grandma, her mother and her sister).
I believe they only met once before they got married. They were married on 15th February 1945, six months before independence and a day after Valentine's Day.
They were both very compassionate and wonderful people. Their house was always open, and they would feed and take care of many people.
My Dada had such a large heart, always giving and looking after everyone. My Grandma is a mischievous, beautiful and sensitive soul.
He raised his family with a strict and strong adherence to Christ. He himself converted from Hinduism to Christianity. Some of his family members are still Hindu.
He loved reading the Bible and all sorts of books. He loved his children and his grandchildren. He loved my grandmother very much. He kept an ''Indian'' name for her, (She had a very European name) after one of the heroines of great Indian poet Kalidasa's works.
It felt like they had their own language and a code between themselves. Whenever I had an opportunity to be with them, it was amazing how they could read each other, just with a single look. They were deeply in love.
It was an "arranged" marriage, but it was one that lasted for a lifetime , and cemented and sealed with love.
I am blessed to have witnessed that.
For me I can think of my grandparents, and how amazing their marriage was.
They were married for 62 years until the time of death of my Dada.
My grandmother lost her father at a very young age. Her mother was a Portuguese woman who had married an Indian doctor but stayed back in the country after his death.
It was pre-indepedence and they were almost destitute. In desperation, my great grandmother considered getting my grandmother married to anyone, who would take her in, to support her.
She was very beautiful and they were many people who wanted to marry her. However her European lineage and the thought of supporting my great-grandmother and my grandma's sister was a turn off.
My grandpa, however was a stately government official and a total gentleman. He heard of the predicament of my grandmother and decided to marry her, and support the tiny family of three (my grandma, her mother and her sister).
I believe they only met once before they got married. They were married on 15th February 1945, six months before independence and a day after Valentine's Day.
They were both very compassionate and wonderful people. Their house was always open, and they would feed and take care of many people.
My Dada had such a large heart, always giving and looking after everyone. My Grandma is a mischievous, beautiful and sensitive soul.
He raised his family with a strict and strong adherence to Christ. He himself converted from Hinduism to Christianity. Some of his family members are still Hindu.
He loved reading the Bible and all sorts of books. He loved his children and his grandchildren. He loved my grandmother very much. He kept an ''Indian'' name for her, (She had a very European name) after one of the heroines of great Indian poet Kalidasa's works.
It felt like they had their own language and a code between themselves. Whenever I had an opportunity to be with them, it was amazing how they could read each other, just with a single look. They were deeply in love.
It was an "arranged" marriage, but it was one that lasted for a lifetime , and cemented and sealed with love.
I am blessed to have witnessed that.
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This thread is not intended to disparage people who are struggling with their marriages etc. but I thought it would be great to hear (from married couples) about the positives/blessings of godly marriage and how they sustain their marriages. Thanks. Please, fire away! 
Only after so many years of being married that I understood what is meant by 1 Corinthians 13:13 ..."But the greatest of these is love."
I'm not married but I just wanted to say how much I adore this thread. Thank you, Tintin! What an encouraging conversation you've started! I love stories of happy, godly marriages ^_^
I notice a pattern among all happy, Christ-centered marriages. It's always two imperfect people trying to come together to form the most intimate human relationship, which is doomed to fail if it were only attempted by their own strength. However, because they thrive and rely on the PERFECT love of Christ, their imperfect union blossoms into a beautiful miracle. I am just so in awe at the power of Christ to transform lives. What an amazing God we serve.
I notice a pattern among all happy, Christ-centered marriages. It's always two imperfect people trying to come together to form the most intimate human relationship, which is doomed to fail if it were only attempted by their own strength. However, because they thrive and rely on the PERFECT love of Christ, their imperfect union blossoms into a beautiful miracle. I am just so in awe at the power of Christ to transform lives. What an amazing God we serve.
T
Thanks, guys. I'm just glad this thread's going so well. It's a nice change of pace to hear encouraging stories, uplifting stories of God's presence in people's marriages.
I've heard that marriage is where God brings two people together who love each other and will rub each other the wrong way at times, but as iron sharpens iron, the difficult and at times painful process is there to smooth down the rough edges so we learn to become more and more like Christ and the marriage itself can reflect more of Christ. Certainly a lot of work, certainly a lot of responsibility but it sounds like something worth fighting for!
I've heard that marriage is where God brings two people together who love each other and will rub each other the wrong way at times, but as iron sharpens iron, the difficult and at times painful process is there to smooth down the rough edges so we learn to become more and more like Christ and the marriage itself can reflect more of Christ. Certainly a lot of work, certainly a lot of responsibility but it sounds like something worth fighting for!
Very well said. Even though there are days that I may not like my husband, I always love him. Marriage is not perfect but, it is so worth the work that is put into it. And, as my husband and I grow closer to Christ, we are also growing closer to each other. God is so good, I cannot believe I spent so much of life without Him in the center of it.