church, family, doubt

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countrychick

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So many things have happened over this month my aunt, uncle, and couson have turned against me and my family. I no longer go to church because are last church singled out certain groups and if you werent apart of them you were nothing. I have prayed and prayed and prayed to God to help, to show some sort of tsign that things will get better so far the only sign is my grandma comin home wenesday. I just dont know what to do anymore im tired of having to act strong and like nothing is wrong when i just want to cry.............i jut dont know what to do
 
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countrychick said:
So many things have happened over this month my aunt, uncle, and couson have turned against me and my family. I no longer go to church because are last church singled out certain groups and if you werent apart of them you were nothing. I have prayed and prayed and prayed to God to help, to show some sort of tsign that things will get better so far the only sign is my grandma comin home wenesday. I just dont know what to do anymore im tired of having to act strong and like nothing is wrong when i just want to cry.............i jut dont know what to do
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Just hold on..move on...sometimes thats the only thing we can do...
God will uphold you..just move on..
 
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countrychick

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Thank you ji
 
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countrychick said:
So many things have happened over this month my aunt, uncle, and couson have turned against me and my family. I no longer go to church because are last church singled out certain groups and if you werent apart of them you were nothing. I have prayed and prayed and prayed to God to help, to show some sort of tsign that things will get better so far the only sign is my grandma comin home wenesday. I just dont know what to do anymore im tired of having to act strong and like nothing is wrong when i just want to cry.............i jut dont know what to do
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Why did your relatives turn against you and your family?

Did your parents also stop going to church?

I see you are very young and you are at the age where you believe, innocently, that things can be solved with communication. Unfortunately, most often, this is not the case in the adult world. People hold grudges against each other for reasons that are ridiculous. Adults are more obstinate than children and they do not want to make the first step in admitting their error, they are too proud-full.
Maybe your grandmother will be able to reconcile your parents with your relatives. Pray for them and for those from the church.
 
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countrychick

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Yes my parents also stopped going to church and my reletives turned against us because we wanted to help and they did not. And she has also tryed doing that before it didnt work, and thank you for the advice
 
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You got to remember church is just a group of people that bring all their carnal baggage with them. The spirit of god does not move actively in every church. Forgive and let go of the offenses taken. Shake the dust from your feet and move on to the next god has for you and your family. Give this situation to god and let him deal with it cause theres nothing you can do when people harden their hearts.
 
RickyZ

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countrychick said:
Yes my parents also stopped going to church and my relatives turned against us because we wanted to help and they did not. And she has also tried doing that before it didn't work, and thank you for the advice
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When you say the relatives turned away because your family wanted to help... what were you trying to help? Were you honestly trying to do the right thing and caught flack for it? Sadly that's nothing unusual in this day and age, even among family. And especially if God is involved. Altho it stings, it's still a badge of honor when others condemn you for Christ-like living. Would your parents be open to visiting other churches? I always tell people looking for a church home to pick a time (like 3 months) and for that time visit a different one every week. You don't know what's out there until you go see what's out there, right? See if they'll be willing to do something like that.

Hang tough, countrychick. Life is a bumpy ride. Thinks it's rough at 14 you should see it at 57 ;) . But cling to the Lord, even when it seems you shouldn't. In the end this'll all be past memory and nothing compared to what we'll have then!
 
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countrychick

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We were trying to do what was best for my grandmother we did exactly as she said and my reletives did not agree and thank you really thank you also we r tryong to find one but my dad wont go back to church and my stepmom hasnt said anything about churches
 
RickyZ

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Keep asking them. Don't bug them, but drop a 'wish I could go to Bible study' or gee all my friends are going to be there today or something like that, let them know that even if they're not interested you are. Is there a group at school? If you get involved there and they see your involvement is a good thing they might get interested. Ask your dad Bible questions, like I was reading such and such and what's it mean when they say this? I hate to say that you've got to step up and be the leader here, but it kinda sounds like you need to step up and be the leader here :)

Hard to say about the relatives. There's probably not much you can do at your age except pray for them, and show them acceptance despite the situation. Time passes and situations change and what seems a huge thing now may seem miniscule in the days to come.

God bless you. I'm praying for you and your family.
 
Percepi

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Do your other family members not want to help your grandma at all? Or do they simply disagree with the way in which to help?
 
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countrychick

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All they want to do is help to see how much money they can get out of it. And thank you rickyz
 
Billyd

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You are fourteen and attempting to bear the burdens that is difficult for even the most mature Christians have difficulty bearing. Please take this burden to God and let Him do the rest. I assure you that not only He can, but He will. I will keep you and your entire family in my prayers. One final thought. Remember that all things work together for those who love God. (read Romans 8:28) Be patient, and wait on Him.
 
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countrychick

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Thank you billyd and this is not the first time i have tried to take the burden this big but i have done it before, it caused me great pain inside but it did not matter as long as everyone was happy and gettin along, but than you
 
Percepi

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Do what you can to help your grandmother and try to avoid the drama the best you can. As others have stated before, this is a huge burden to bare. If you talk to you parents about how you feel you need to bare the burden of sorting out these issues, they should help release some of this burden off your shoulders. But, if they're placing the burden on you, know that they are wrong to do so. You can only give so much of yourself before it's too much. This is a vital stage of your life in which you're trying to discover your own identity and figure out what you want to do with your future.

It sounds like you're like me in the sense in that you're willing to burden yourself greatly to help others, as a way of finding personal satisfaction. That's a wonderful trait to have. But as I said before, you can't give too much to the point in which you find yourself suffering greatly. As you grow older, you can become mentally stronger, and you'll be able to better handle the problems of others.

As for your doubts regarding God, I can not help rid you of those doubts.
 
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countrychick

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Thank you percepi and to the last part that sounds like me and what i do. I will do as much as i can for my grandmother i would do anything for her. And i have not yet reached the stage of giving to much, it may cause me great sadness and pain but i would rather it benon me then on anyone i care about
 
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countrychick said:
So many things have happened over this month my aunt, uncle, and couson have turned against me and my family. I no longer go to church because are last church singled out certain groups and if you werent apart of them you were nothing. I have prayed and prayed and prayed to God to help, to show some sort of tsign that things will get better so far the only sign is my grandma comin home wenesday. I just dont know what to do anymore im tired of having to act strong and like nothing is wrong when i just want to cry.............i jut dont know what to do
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I will suggest that you find a new church home. Take grandma with you. Other than the both of you the rest of the family seems dysfunctional at best. You can't choose your family but you can choose who you spend your time with.
 
Percepi

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I will suggest that you find a new church home. Take grandma with you. Other than the both of you the rest of the family seems dysfunctional at best. You can't choose your family but you can choose who you spend your time with.
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Just to be clear, you're suggesting she finds an actual church home to live in - away from her family?

If that's the case, I believe we lack waaaaay too much information to suggest such a thing. We don't know how bad her home life is in general, and more importantly, we don't have enough information to know if that's the best solution. If you believe it's because she stopped going to church and her family isn't helping, it would be easier to suggest she find a friend to go to church with - a church she enjoys.
 
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Percepi said:
Just to be clear, you're suggesting she finds an actual church home to live in - away from her family?

If that's the case, I believe we lack waaaaay too much information to suggest such a thing. We don't know how bad her home life is in general, and more importantly, we don't have enough information to know if that's the best solution. If you believe it's because she stopped going to church and her family isn't helping, it would be easier to suggest she find a friend to go to church with - a church she enjoys.
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No brother, just a new church. You know, a home away from home.
 
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countrychick

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My home life aint all that bad but i only have one friend that will take me to church and i aint goin back to that church and my family aint helpin they sit home talkin bout how were goin go to one church but never do. I want to go to church again but im not sure anymore. But thanks yall
 
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