Worried about my type of mate
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Tintin
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OP, if you have a lot of emotional problems, it would be best for you not to get into a relationship right now. We all have our baggage but you want to minimize any of those problems before looking for someone else to share your life with. 
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Raine
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Lol these are funny questions
1) I don't know... But I do lol. I prefer his Chinese movies over his American ones. I like Fong Sai Yuk (something like that) and Jet Li's kid movies too lol. I think I enjoy Jackies sense of humor and action stuff. Fun to watch and know that he does his own stunts lol.
2) Do Asian women have age limits? Are you talking about in terms of dating? Lol. I would say yes I do have limits lol. He would have to be pretty special for me to stretch my limits for age brackets.
Go ahead! Pm me. We've pm'd before and were friends.
Believe me, young lady!
There´s no need to fears (1Jn 4:18 No fear exists where his love is. Rather, perfect love gets rid of fear, because fear involves punishment. The person who lives in fear doesn't have perfect love. )
You would need to learn too many things from you (I´m, too old, still learning from me and OTHERS).
The more you know people and man-men teachings will will see it better.
Hope you be sure "your type"...
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Ugly
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Lol these are funny questions
1) I don't know... But I do lol. I prefer his Chinese movies over his American ones. I like Fong Sai Yuk (something like that) and Jet Li's kid movies too lol. I think I enjoy Jackies sense of humor and action stuff. Fun to watch and know that he does his own stunts lol.
2) Do Asian women have age limits? Are you talking about in terms of dating? Lol. I would say yes I do have limits lol. He would have to be pretty special for me to stretch my limits for age brackets.
Go ahead! Pm me. We've pm'd before and were friends.
Thanks! Sure I will PM you...
point (2): I want to know if any know about the marriage of old Asian people.
I have tried to know about them and I lacked suportive "data" to be convinced. I´m seeing how much Asian people are coing the country where I grew and they have too poor command on my Spanish or English, though I could admit they don´t want strangers learn from them, but I´m seen the humble ways MANY have here, Caracas, and I´m puzzled...
Thanks Rain!
Going to PM...
I refuse to let God choose a spouse for me. And I know He doesn't. But He can help me lead to the lovely Christian metalhead or goth who is my type... My second choice is a Japanese Christian guy who is older than me and at least 6'1/185cm tall and has black long hair. And trust me, some Japanese guys can get that tall.
I won't feel real at all to be with someone who is not my type... I will feel so fake...
I won't feel real at all to be with someone who is not my type... I will feel so fake...
18 years + 35 years = 53 years
...uh... ...very peaceful 53-year-old Christian men do not marry 18-year-olds.
While I was shaving, few minutes back 2:45 am (Venezuelan time) I overheard my mind thinking about this.
Disclaimer:
1) I know it is a joke. It wasn´t addressed to nobody here I see.
2) I didn´t took it againts me (I´m very aware of my age).
3) I just noted it was a Mod.´s thought, kidding with serious things we have to think to grow.
4) I´m not seeking animosity, just being honest with my likes or preferences.
So I wandered if any person here would ponder or considere this honest opinion to gather more information on
this topic that, obviously, speaks volumens about her likes (my likes) and I hope no one would feel insulted when
a person expects "more than peace", fun in his or her bed. Just allow me to post a "Biblical" example I
have liked for 2 decades.
What did Abraham´s wife said?
She said: "Gen 18:12 So Sarah laughed to herself, saying, "After I am worn out, and my lord is old, shall I have pleasure?"
Another version said: "Gen 18:12 And she laughed secretly, saying: After I am grown old, and my lord is an old man,
shall I give myself to pleasure? "
Gen 18:12 So Sarah laughed to herself and said, "Now that I am old and worn out, can I still enjoy sex? And besides,
my husband is old too."
We men tend to ignore women do want their fun... But also let it consider men, even old or too young, want their plesure and BOTH are concerned about peaceful bed no one wants and, sadly is to say that, men or women, being bad lovers, means, too thin or too fat, had deprived the other the pleasure Sara also thought and, according to the Bible, she also wanted (and the Scripture is just there).
I don´t dare to elaborate (or expeculate) more!
I just left one idea you can think or share, although I´m aware this could be deleted, ommitted (ignore). What if I dared to say more, but I alsohave liked my pleasure.
Well, I really don't want a prankster party animal who will party all the time, act like crazy Mad Hatters, prank, and tell bad jokes and joke in a bad way that will make me shocked and scared and I go like "OH MY GOODNESS! REALLY!? I AM SCARED NOW! HELP MEEEE!"... Seriously. I don't like Mad Hatters.
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Tintin
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Oh, my. I think you have some maturing to do before you enter a relationship. Also, I've been to Tokyo. I was there for three weeks and in that time, I only saw one Japanese guy who was even anywhere in the region of my height (I'm 6'5). And the chances that he'd be your type and would have long black hair? They're not good. Please, just hold off and grow in your faith. Don't do anything rash.
Argh. Why can't I have any taste in physical traits? Why does it have to be the niceness only? I can like what I want. I don't want a weird guy who looks like Ronald McDonald and acts like the Mad Hatter even though he would not cheat on me and he would not be abusive and stuff...
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Ugly
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You say you want a Christian, but then turn around and say you refuse to be guided by God.
What is that perfume you're wearing? Eau de Troll?
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Tintin
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Of course it's okay to have preferences! Just be aware that it is completely possible for you to become attracted to someone who doesn't meet your incredibly specific tastes. It's normal for a woman to say "I only want to marry a blonde" and then along comes an incredible man with dark hair and she falls head over heels for him -- and sincerely thinks he's gorgeous, even without blonde hair.
Physical attraction IS important, but it's just a lot less predictable than you seem to think it is, my dear. Just relax.
ETA: Oh, and the reason why many mature folks will say that looks aren't as important as the personality is because it's true. Yes, you should be attracted to your spouse, but if you're too obsessed with looks you might be in for a big surprise after several decades of marriage when your gorgeous spouse doesn't look as gorgeous as he once did.
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Shouryu
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Yeah, I cut out the rest of the statement, because the rest of it doesn't matter.
As it says in Psalm 37, "Do whatever you want, regardless of God's will, and He will give you the desires of your heart." Because, that's the type of attitude and spirit of humility that's totally going to be rewarded, clearly.
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FireWire
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didymos
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Taken, married or (you forget to mention) gay, especially the ones with 'long hair.'
Well, I want to be guided by God, but I don't want God to pick a random weirdo to me who is not my type...
Taken, married or (you forget to mention) gay, especially the ones with 'long hair.'
But I don't think there are any Christian gays... Besides, long hair doesn't make a person gay. Jesus had long hair, and He was not gay.