The right person for everyone... (interesting topic)

[NazariteNation]

I tend to look at every situation I encounter like this...

I can't expect something from someone if I am not willing to give of myself. I can't expect respect from someone if I am not willing to that person respect. I can't expect to get paid unless I invest the necessary time and effort required. I can't expect my children to love me unless I first teach them how to love by loving them. Finally, I can't expect my spouse to make a difficult compromise on my behalf unless I am fully prepared to make a difficult compromise myself on her behalf.

This ideology is based on the biblical principle of sowing and reaping. Basically you reap what you sow. If there is something you desire from your spouse then you must first sow a seed. Shower it with blessings and reflect the light of Christ on it.

 

[Pheonix]

I was thinking about the answer to my question a while and realized that God has already told us how we can know. Partially anyhow. The last one or two chapters of proverbs talks about the virtuous woman. God has given us the criteria, and left the choice up to us. Whether we choose to follow his instructions is another matter. I would imagine the same applies to men too. The virtuous man??? Anyhow, people talk alot about doing what your heart tells you. This is a bad idea, your heart tends to lead a person astray. Use your head, and think about not how you are feeling now, but plan for the future. When choosing think about whether the person is likely to make a good father/mother for any children, are they financially responsible? Will they put you into debt because of whatever whim they happen to have at the moment.

Maybe I don't have a clue what I'm talking about as I've never been married, but I hope this has some form of wisdom in it that will be helpful to someone.

 

[gabby]

So! I don't agree with the "there is only ONE right person for everyone." I know of people who were happily married, the spouse ended up passing away from some quick moving disease, and the widow/widower end up finding another spouse and end up happily married again!!

Another random thought...not sure about this one. I know God could definitely pair us up one for one. But He did give us some choice in whether or not we follow Him. So what if one person does and one doesn't? One leads a life astray and one is a Bible Believing Jesus Freak? Do they just not get married? Sad...

IAM new at all this comp stuff,so forgive me. I would like to say if you spent a long time with the one you thought was the one ann hr/she wento be with the Lord and they found someone else maybe the L ORD FOUND SOMEONE ELSE SPEICHLE. We cant queston the lord can we

 

[Liam]

I think that there is one right person for everyone but lots of people work together or well enough that they stay together

 

[kiwi_OT]

Here's something I just thought I'd throw out here to see what kind of response I'd get...
I've noticed a plethora of threads/posts about 'finding the right one' which got me to thinking.....
Do you really think there is ONE right person for everyone? Let me clarify my question before you all jump down my throat...


Okay, so in an ideal world .. we meet our Mr/Mrs Right, get married, and live happily ever after...but let's face it this ISN'T an ideal world!! Sometimes relationships and sadly even marriages don't work. People can give all sorts of advice on how to make it work.. but at the end of the day it still doesn't. I understand that alot of times we have to go through pain and trials in our life in order to make us grow (perhaps a broken relationship?) Lot's of relationships don't work (for whatever reason)..even though the people may have genuninely been in love. So, I guess my question is this.....

Do you think, like it's possible to have loved someone (or possibly even been in a relationship/ marriage) but the reason that it (the relationship) didn't work was because they weren't the right person for you in the end? ( or possibly God had another plan.. and you just weren't listening..who knows?) Does that even make sense..
Like sometimes I wonder about the ONE right person for everyone.. I really do...
Having said that however.. I am in no way encouraging divorce or bigamy for that matter haha! I just wonder you know.. ?

What are your thoughts???

I think I'll answer that question with another question:
If a woman met her 'soulmate'. Worked hard at her marriage, and there was true love there. Then tragically her husband dies in a car accident or something, would she then be doomed to never fining another great man?

 

[Liam]

In my opinion, yes. She might find someone else but her soulmate is dancin with jeses lol

 

[Matthew]

If a woman met her 'soulmate'. Worked hard at her marriage, and there was true love there. Then tragically her husband dies in a car accident or something, would she then be doomed to never fining another great man?

I don't think so, if you believe that there is a soulmate, a person meant to be with you then it would seem to me you have to believe there is a design to life, and perhaps while two people were meant to be perhaps they weren't meant to be forever, at least not in this life.

I have read some people say that relationships that fail were meant to happen as a way to prepare us for when the right person comes along, if every situation helps prepare us for the next then perhaps a true marriage of souls does not always need to last a lifetime to have the effect on the surviving person that God intended, they may find happiness with another and be reunited with their soulmate in heaven.

I don't think the love that person finds after the death of their spouse has to be that of a soulmate to be valid before God, the person left behind will have fulfilled their marriage vows and provided they can come to terms with the loss I think another love is possible though it would surely be a very different kind of love, all things considered if I lost my soulmate I am not sure I could love again.

 

[inhishands09]

One thought that comes to my mind is don't we need to concentrate on being the right person, not looking for the right person so much. If you are the right person for someone, and you are relying on the Lord and putting yourself in a position where He can bring you someone, then He will in His time. And after all, if it's not God's will or timing, do you really want someone just for the sake of having them?