Fears About Finding The One

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NestForASparrow

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So what are you fears about finding the one?

Mine is probably shallow, but anyway. One of my biggest fears is I may have already met her and did nothing to have it happen sooner. I don't want to be like those who have known each other for ten years (seeing them several times a week at church) and finally decide they are the one...that just scares me. Like I could have been wrong about what I should do for a whole third of my life going in the wrong direction in terms of what I personally should do....like I wasted my life looking for the one who may have been right there all along.
 
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Raine

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My fear about finding the one...

1). Feel like it's too good to be true and try to push him away.
2). I won't be able to fulfill my role as a godly woman... Or end up like my mom....
3). He will break my heart and going thru the healing process will be difficult. We are all flawed after all. But why if my bad habits return and all I do is run away?
4). I might lose sight of God and make him my god instead.
5). I fear that all the horrible ugly side of me will come out and he will leave me.

Yes, I guess I'm quite broken. :/. It's ok though, God is working on the patch up work. :D. Yippee!
 
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Shouryu

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NestForASparrow said:
So what are you fears about finding the one?
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My fears are that "the one" exists. Because the concept of "The One" is not biblical, but instead, something the world invented to convince everyone that we should be searching for "the one," which is NOT what we should be searching for.
 
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Raine

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I just read it as the right person you want to marry, not necessarily soulmate, but good point shouryu.
 
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purpose

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I only have one thing to say about fear. blahhhhh! Fear is not of god at all. Fear comes from our enemy to try to stop us from what God has for us. FEAR. False Evidence Appearing Real. Press forward . Press past fear. It only holds you back. Don't let it. Be Happy go forward . God does put people in our path for purposes. Good ones of course.
 
Searching4Truth

Searching4Truth

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Fear... What is this word?


jk


That *insert noun* may distract her/it and allow *insert previously mentioned noun* to come before God. I wouldn't want "The One" to lose their focus on their walk, you know?






*I use the "/it" remark in jest. Relax
 
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Ugly

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purpose said:
I only have one thing to say about fear. blahhhhh! Fear is not of god at all. Fear comes from our enemy to try to stop us from what God has for us. FEAR. False Evidence Appearing Real. Press forward . Press past fear. It only holds you back. Don't let it. Be Happy go forward . God does put people in our path for purposes. Good ones of course.
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You didn't answer the question. Just did a Jesus juke.









And my answer to the question, is similar to Shours. I don't worry about finding 'the one' because there isn't 'the one'. But i do have moments where i am worried or even convinced i won't meet one of my options.
 
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Mimic

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If you don't mind me sharing, you will know when she will come along and remember asking God will help you, we just need to listen witch is the hard part, but He does answer. Best wishes to you and I will pray for you. God bless you on your journey :)
 

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Inu

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I fear that... The one who I think is "the one" is actually not the "the one"
 
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Inu

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Ugly said:
Why? What did i do? 0.0
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You know what you did!!!! stop playing innocent..... (I don't even know what you did:rolleyes:...bwahahaha)
 
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Inu

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zeroturbulence said:
Yes, you found The One... and you also found the Zero. :rolleyes:

Because I will never be the One..

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....... You are wonderful cause you are on my side and I'm on God's side... so don't stress... I got your back;)
 
zeroturbulence

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Inu said:
....... You are wonderful cause you are on my side and I'm on God's side... so don't stress... I got your back;)
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Wow thank you, Inu!! :D And I've got your back too if you ever need a friend. And I love that quote too. :)
 
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Ugly

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Inu said:
You know what you did!!!! stop playing innocent..... (I don't even know what you did:rolleyes:...bwahahaha)
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I even Look innocent, see!
 
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I think that searching for "the one" is the reason we miss them, we have a certain thing in our heads on how they should be so we miss anyone that doesn't match up. Also, I have some friends who have been married 3 years and have a beautiful baby girl, they met 9 years ago and for 4 they didn't get along at all so yes, you might have already met the person God has put in your path but it doesn't mean you are ready for the relationship.
 
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