I have to admit I have a real problem with this. I remember when I was first saved, a Jehovah Witness put one of their little leaflets through my door and there was a little bit about Hell in there, I know that what was written in that leaflet wasn't Biblical but it did make me feel better. It described Hell from the JW point of view, suggesting that the "pit" described in the Bible was simply a grave - so the unsaved were simply buried and that was as bad as it got. I struggle with the truth of Hell - all my family are unsaved and my parents do not deserve to suffer the torment of Hell but seemingly this awaits them. I pray for my family but so far nothing has changed.
So where is Hell? How can such a place exist? I have heard there are varying degrees of suffering depending on the depth of sin one has committed during their lifetime. I guess I just want someone to make be feel better about this, I really don't want Hell to be literal, it's a burden I carry.
Your stress and confusion seems to be largely over misunderstandings of other Scriptures, not all are talking about Hades and Hell.
You stated: I have heard there are varying degrees of suffering
depending on the depth of sin one has committed during their lifetime. There is a misunderstanding of how bad God considers sin, and I know it is a very common misunderstanding.
James 2:10 (NIV)
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10 [/SUP] For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point
is guilty of breaking all of it.
Only man sees sin as little sins and BIG sins. GOD sees any sin as breaking ALL OF THE LAW. Therefore, the we worst mass murderer on death row is not a worse sinner than us, WE ARE AS BAD AS HIM.
Another common misunderstanding that has grown into a false doctrine is: "A loving GOD would not send anybody to Hell." You cannot pick and choose the part of GOD's nature and characteristics that you like and REJECT THE REST. In doing so you create a False GOD, or False CHRIST.
HE is by Nature LOVING:
Zephaniah 3:17 (HCSB)
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17 [/SUP] Yahweh your God is among you, a warrior who saves. He will rejoice over you with gladness.
He will bring ⌊you⌋ quietness with His love. He will delight in you with shouts of joy.”
Exodus 34:6-7 (HCSB)
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6 [/SUP] Then the LORD passed in front of him and proclaimed: Yahweh—Yahweh is a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger and
rich in faithful love and truth,
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7 [/SUP] maintaining faithful love to a thousand ⌊generations⌋, forgiving wrongdoing, rebellion, and sin.
But He will not leave ⌊the guilty⌋ unpunished, bringing the consequences of the fathers’ wrongdoing on the children and grandchildren to the third and fourth generation.
Exodus 20:5-7 (HCSB)
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5 [/SUP] You must not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the fathers’ sin, to the third and fourth ⌊generations⌋
of those who hate Me,
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but showing faithful love to a thousand ⌊generations⌋ of those who love Me and keep My commands.
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7 [/SUP] Do not misuse the name of the LORD your God, because the LORD will not leave anyone unpunished who misuses His name.
AND HE is by Nature a perfectly JUST GOD.
The other side of that coin that has GOD IS LOVE stamped on one side, has GOD IS PERFECTLY HOLY AND JUST stamped on the other side. HE will JUDGE AND PUNISH SIN PERFECTLY, and if you reject the blood of the Cross as payment for your sins, then you will pay for that SIN of rejection yourself. You see there is really ONLY ONE SIN that is unforgivable, and that rejecting what the Holy Spirit has been trying to get you to believe about Christ.
1 John 2:2 (NIV)
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2 [/SUP] He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours
but also for the sins of the whole world.
HOWEVER, HE SAID:
Mark 3:28-29 (HCSB)
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I assure you: People will be forgiven for all sins and whatever blasphemies they may blaspheme.
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But whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit never has forgiveness, but is guilty of an eternal sin”—
That would be the ONLY sin that GOD considers worse than any other sin. That blaspheming the work of the Holy Spirit is rejecting what the Holy Spirit has been trying to get them to Believe about Jesus Christ.
That sin can NEVER be FORGIVEN.
THE REST of our sins are forgivable and are coequally BAD, requiring confession and repentance, while we mourn over that sinfulness, but all of them can be cleansed by the blood of the Cross. I used to be a Volunteer Protestant Prison Chaplain, in the largest, end of the line Super Max Prison's
Security Housing Unit [S.H.U., what inmates call the Hole], in California. I had the joy and privilege of leading a few to genuinely come to KNOW and LOVE JESUS AS LORD, even though Biblically according to GOD's WORD, the State should have executed them. YES HE can save even murderers.
You questioned "Where is Hell". It does not give us a EXACT location, but it is the opposite of where GOD is, and it too is the End of the Line in GOD's Justice System. The main difference between the S.H.U. and HELL, is I saw a few earn a parole, and have their sentence come to an end in the S.H.U.; while those sentenced by GOD to Hell, will NEVER get out on good behavior and NEVER have their sentence come to an end.
Revelation 14:11 (NKJV)
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the smoke of their torment ascends forever and ever; and they have no rest day or night, who worship the beast and his image, and whoever receives the mark of his name."
Revelation 20:13-15 (NKJV)
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13 [/SUP] The sea gave up the dead who were in it, and Death and Hades delivered up the dead who were in them. And they were judged, each one according to his works.
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14 [/SUP] Then Death and Hades were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death.
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anyone not found written in the Book of Life was cast into the lake of fire.
Matthew 25:41 (HCSB)
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Then He will also say to those on the left, ‘Depart from Me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the Devil and his angels!
It is not
ETERNAL Torment and Fire if it can come to an end, or one can be eventually released from Hell.
So when is Judgement day? According to the Bible that is AFTER Jesus Christ returns and RULES as KING of kings for One Thousand Years on the The Throne of DAVID. So what happens to believers and unbelievers in the mean time? When the Believer dies his human spirit goes immediately to the Throne Room in Heaven:
Revelation 6:9-11 (HCSB)
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9 [/SUP] When He opened the fifth seal, I saw under the altar the people slaughtered because of God’s word and the testimony they had.
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10 [/SUP] They cried out with a loud voice: “Lord, the One who is holy and true, how long until You judge and avenge our blood from those who live on the earth?”
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11 [/SUP] So a white robe was given to each of them, and they were told to rest a little while longer until ⌊the number⌋ would be completed ⌊of⌋ their fellow slaves and their brothers, who were going to be killed just as they had been.
And when the unbeliever dies, where does his human spirit go?
Luke 16:22-24 (HCSB)
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One day the poor man died and was carried away by the angels to Abraham’s side {another name for Paradise or under the Altar in Heaven}. The rich man also died and was buried.
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And being in torment in Hades, he looked up and saw Abraham a long way off, with Lazarus at his side.
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‘Father Abraham!’ he called out, ‘Have mercy on me and send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue, because I am in agony in this flame!’
Hades is a place of torment for disembodied human spirits of the unbelievers, while later on, after the unbelievers are resurrected and face Jesus Christ on Judgement day, they in their resurrected bodies will be sent to the Lake of Fire, which is HELL.
Is it unusual to have family members NOT want to listen to your witnessing? NO, unfortunately that is VERY COMMON. Here is why:
Matthew 13:57-58 (HCSB)
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57 [/SUP] And they were offended by Him. But Jesus said to them,
“A prophet is not without honor except in his hometown and in his household.”
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58 [/SUP] And He did not do many miracles there because of their unbelief.
I ran into the same problem, so I started PRAYING for GOD to send someone else to lead them to the TRUTH. Over the years I have seen the vast majority of my family come to know and Love Jesus as LORD. Some were lead by the teachings of their Pastors and some by friends and coworkers. Praying to GOD to send another teacher of the gospel's TRUTH to your family, certainly is in line with GOD's will.
You said you don't want to see family members go to hell, and no one would. However GOD is perfect and his justice is perfect. First of all, when we are called to heaven, I do not believe our focus will be looking back on family members, but rather WE WILL BE PURELY FOCUSED ON CHRIST HIMSELF. Also, I want to give you hope, in that IF a person lives up the to the little LIGHT (thruths about Jesus Christ) that they have been given, GOD will send them more LIGHT. If he or she dies before that additional light arrives with understanding, they still will be saved. It helps to think of family that you are praying for, as "NOT YET SAVED", instead of thinking they are "UNSAVED". Again I suggest, pray for someone they do respect as a born again Christian to come and share Christ with them.
Ephesians 4:11-13 (HCSB)
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11 [/SUP] And He personally gave some to be apostles, some prophets,
some evangelists, some pastors and teachers,
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12 [/SUP] for the training of the saints in the work of ministry, to build up the body of Christ,
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13 [/SUP] until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of God’s Son, ⌊growing⌋ into a mature man with a stature measured by Christ’s fullness.