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Ugly said:
Really, these kinds of posts are silly. To ask suggests that you are seeking to do things to attract men (or boys in your case, which is rather odd at your age) which means you are willing to do and become something that is not reflective of who you truly are. You want a guy? Be yourself and stop worrying about how to change yourself to come across more appealing. That is a very secular mentality.
If the guy isn't interested in who and what he sees then he's not really interested in you. If you have to change your behavior or appearance, then he's not interested in you, but rather this facade you created. And over time, when you are not able to maintain it, and the real you comes out, there will be problems in the relationship because you will not be the person he was attracted to.
This 'on the prowl' mentality is also a big turn off for both men and women. I've had women on this site approach me that are so obviously just looking for a man, any man, that i run screaming. No one wants to be with someone who gives off the vibe 'i need a man/woman/err.. boy, you seem nice, so you'll do'.
I met a woman who seemed to have that mentality. And surprise surprise, she was divorced twice and still looking for her next man willing to take her (as opposed to wanting to be with her).
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True one can be their self but everyone compromises thus really technically no one shews their true self for they themselves dont know who they really are
 
ELECT said:
True one can be their self but everyone compromises thus really technically no one shews their true self for they themselves dont know who they really are
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Sorry, your KJV speech doesn't compute. Please speak using modern English. It's 2014, not 1611.
 
Already been asked a similar question, thanks. And, no, I don't go around reading singles forums looking for people asking what people are into.
 
I think we scared her away..... :(

If we all are one in the body of Christ, schizophrenia much????? :rolleyes:
 
Inu said:
I prefer using "we" also.... similar to the body of Christ.... all for one and one for all:)
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I just realized that I never even said "we" in my comment. Anyway. I don't think *we* were being mean -- there ya go!

And, yes we are all one in the body of Christ. So, should it then be "some for one, one for some" -- ya know, since not everyone thinks the same way as us Christians?
 
Hey Sarah, I just wanted to say that while there are some similarities among guys in what they are looking for, there are a lot of differences too. I'm glad that you haven't taken on the pessimistic view that there are no good Christian guys out there, though. It's so hard, but I think the best thing you can do is take your desires to God and know that He knows and cares deeply about your desire to be married one day, and simply seek to satisfy yourself in Him and become the best person you can possibly be in Him. While that might not be the first thing that comes to every Christian guy's mind, Christian men especially tend to see that godliness and that steadfastness in faith, and find that attractive. But you can only be godly and steadfast if you are satisfying yourself in God.

Also, this has been said already, but while the words man, guy, boy, etc. are probably interchangeable for you, what you really should want to hold out for is a man of God and avoid boys who can shave. A man of God will want to honor you physically, emotionally, and spiritually while a boy will simply want to use you selfishly. A man of God will want to serve you while a boy will only be happy if he is being served. So keep that in mind too :)
 
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ELECT said:
True one can be their self but everyone compromises thus really technically no one shews their true self for they themselves dont know who they really are
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Tintin said:
Sorry, your KJV speech doesn't compute. Please speak using modern English. It's 2014, not 1611.
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That is not KJV speech --- it is English without proper punctuation... ;)

:)
 
ELECT said:
True one can be their self but everyone compromises thus really technically no one shews their true self for they themselves dont know who they really are
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If you'd read my post more clearly you'd have seen my point was about having the INTENT to change how you are perceived to make yourself more appealing by acting in ways that are not at all reflective of you. What you are trying to misapply using your twisted version of what i said, is not the same. People will have a tendency to Enhance parts of who they are that they may feel works in their favor, but this is not creating new aspects of yourself to pretend to be something that is not you at all in an attempt to get noticed by a larger group of people. And even the 'compromises' some people make could be seen as showing their true self. It shows that they are willing to be deceptive and dishonest in order to gain what they want.
 
Ugly said:
If you'd read my post more clearly you'd have seen my point was about having the INTENT to change how you are perceived to make yourself more appealing by acting in ways that are not at all reflective of you. What you are trying to misapply using your twisted version of what i said, is not the same. People will have a tendency to Enhance parts of who they are that they may feel works in their favor, but this is not creating new aspects of yourself to pretend to be something that is not you at all in an attempt to get noticed by a larger group of people. And even the 'compromises' some people make could be seen as showing their true self. It shows that they are willing to be deceptive and dishonest in order to gain what they want.
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you should study sociology and psychology why are you so strung up i meant no harm and was not twisting anything

people will have the tendecy to withdraw and not enhance who the think they are to gain attention
 
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