Forum Vs Chat and Poster's Regret.

[zeroturbulence]

Why I'm seldom in chat (not counting the few times I was in the singles room with all the cool peoples):

- Don't know anyone in chat anymore
- Don't feel like listening to someone going on and on about something I don't find interesting or can't relate to (usually both)
- People with accents that I can't understand (no offense)

Why I like the forums:

- Interesting topics
- Ability to think about what to say and edit posts without the subject suddenly changing or people leaving the room
- Can keep up with the conversation because its not four or five people typing at the same time.

NOTE: I DO miss having good chat sessions though! Last one was in the singles room around May this year.

 

[Lynx]

Also people listen to what you have to say more in the forum. In chat everyone else is trying to keep up just as you are, and sometimes it feels like you're invisible because nobody is talking to you, they're all trying to yell their thoughts... before the topic changes and their thoughts are moot.

What's especially aggravating is when someone else says exactly what you said five minutes ago, and everyone notices when HE says it, and says wow, what a great thought. *le sigh*

 

[kenthomas27]

Also people listen to what you have to say more in the forum. In chat everyone else is trying to keep up just as you are, and sometimes it feels like you're invisible because nobody is talking to you, they're all trying to yell their thoughts... before the topic changes and their thoughts are moot.

What's especially aggravating is when someone else says exactly what you said five minutes ago, and everyone notices when HE says it, and says wow, what a great thought. *le sigh*

Yeah, but see you were gesturing with your hand going horizontally and he was going up and down with his hand. So -

 

[Lynx]

Oh... so that was it. No problem, I can fix that.

*Lynx gestures with his hand going up and down, with a baseball bat, over someone's head.

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

I like the spontaneity of chat; it's the closest thing in the cyber realm to actual interpersonal interaction. But true: it's easier to be overlooked in chat and get lost in the social riptide.

 

[blue_ladybug]

I think (some)people in the chat rooms are very snobby and cliquish.. They ignore people who come in and say hello, or if someone asks a question, they ignore it entirely. I only go in to ask people to pray for me. The rest of the time, I stay in the forums. Though there are some snobs and cliques here also.. :/

 

[MissCris]

The rest of the time, I stay in the forums. Though there are some snobs and cliques here also.. :/

I strongly suspect I'm about to come down with a serious case of Poster's Regret, but...

This is not the first time that the "clique" thing has been brought up about this particular forum. When I first started posting here, I couldn't really see it...though now it seems clearer to me than ever. But that's to be expected, anywhere you go- some people are going to get along better than others, and that creates something of a division. I don't see why that's a big surprise, or even an issue- as long as people are being at least civil to each other (which, of course, is not always the case here, but for the most part I think most of the regulars here do pretty well).

As for the "snobs" around here...now we're getting into insults and name-calling, all elementary school style. Making a statement like that, you could mean anyone, or everyone...and I think voicing an opinion like this creates more of a division than the "cliques". If you have a problem with someone, why not go to them in pm and sort it out, rather than direct insults at people (because people don't make statements like that without having a particular person/people in mind) in a generalized manner?

I'm not trying to pick a fight. I'm just tired of snide comments popping up all over the forum.

 

[MissCris]

blue_ladybug, I want to apologize for what I said, and how I said it- I realize it came across as a bit of an attack on you, which is unfair. My frustrations with things that I see going on in this forum shouldn't be taken out on the first person I come across who says something I disagree with...which is what happened, and I'm sincerely sorry.

 

[Roh_Chris]

Oh... so that was it. No problem, I can fix that.

*Lynx gestures with his hand going up and down, with a baseball bat, over someone's head.

And fluorescent pants.

 

[JesusLives]

I think (some)people in the chat rooms are very snobby and cliquish.. They ignore people who come in and say hello, or if someone asks a question, they ignore it entirely. I only go in to ask people to pray for me. The rest of the time, I stay in the forums. Though there are some snobs and cliques here also.. :/

I'm glad I am in your clique......lol....I'm a Blond though not a snob.....lol Or is it that we click together?.....lol

 

[JesusLives]

Originally Posted by blue_ladybug

The rest of the time, I stay in the forums. Though there are some snobs and cliques here also.. :/

I strongly suspect I'm about to come down with a serious case of Poster's Regret, but...

This is not the first time that the "clique" thing has been brought up about this particular forum. When I first started posting here, I couldn't really see it...though now it seems clearer to me than ever. But that's to be expected, anywhere you go- some people are going to get along better than others, and that creates something of a division. I don't see why that's a big surprise, or even an issue- as long as people are being at least civil to each other (which, of course, is not always the case here, but for the most part I think most of the regulars here do pretty well).

As for the "snobs" around here...now we're getting into insults and name-calling, all elementary school style. Making a statement like that, you could mean anyone, or everyone...and I think voicing an opinion like this creates more of a division than the "cliques". If you have a problem with someone, why not go to them in pm and sort it out, rather than direct insults at people (because people don't make statements like that without having a particular person/people in mind) in a generalized manner?

I'm not trying to pick a fight. I'm just tired of snide comments popping up all over the forum.

Truly I don't see it as cliques or snobbish behavior I notice more generational gaps and we will think differently about things cause we grew up where different things were o.k. and accepted like I was part of the flower child generation and sometimes things were a little freer and some things might be a little more conservative now... Does this make me a liberal maybe but I really consider myself more of a moderate type person. Not afraid to show love though...to nausea of some but not trying to make anybody sick it's just how I grew up a little freer....What else can I say?