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RachelP03

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What do you do when your "waiting" on God to send you someone? I feel like God wants me to wait, but I have my moments, like Im sure everyone else does where I want to go find it myself. I know Im not ready. I know I don't have a desire to be with anyone particular, but I know Im getting older and I just thought at 29 I would be married with a family by now. I don't know what God is doing. I just sometimes feel betrayed by God at times.

What do you do though when you want to seek or grow impatient?
 
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Shouryu

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Worship.

Study.

Grow.

Focus on your calling.

If you don't know what your calling is, start seeking a ministry in your church in which you can serve. (I bounced from usher to musician to choir director to deacon to Sunday school teacher. Go figure.)

It won't stop you from necessarily DESIRING to seek...but all these things should make you too busy to seek. ^_^
 
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RachelP03

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Its been 10 months for me since my last relationship and I know to a lot of people it seems like not a long time. In that time I have been seeking God with EVERYTHING and trying to listed for him to stir me where He wants me to go and what to do. I want whats best and I want God best. I know Im not ready and I just feel like Im trying and trying and trying and its getting me no where. Honestly a lot of times I feel like Im going backwards. It just......stinks.....
 
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Nicee

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Good things or partner comes to those who wait. Humans are not objects were you can build your perfect partner. Yet again, you'll be surprise how there are some people on this world that have the traits, characteristics, or personality of an Angel. I had met two of them. The next Angel I'll meet I'll marry her in a heartbeat.:)
 
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I'm not in the business of telling anyone whether or not God is talking with them. For all I know he could be using a more-direct method of communication and you are being highly receptive to it. It happens.

But not as often as most Christians seem to think it does. Chances are you will not hear anything like "Go to the Dagobah System!" or a feeling that is the equivalent thereof. There are so many paths you can take at so many moments (especially while you're young) that if you wait for one of those, you will find yourself waiting indefinitely and watching life pass you by.

God gave us good, practical wisdom to live by. Books like Proverbs and Ecclesiastes exist because God has given us the tools to live wisely as well as faithfully. He also has the grace to let us know we are where we are not supposed to be by just making us uncomfortable.

It's been ten months. If you see an opportunity relationship wise or (especially) profession wise, I say take it.
 
Lynx

Lynx

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Shouryu said:
Worship.

Study.

Grow.

Focus on your calling.

If you don't know what your calling is, start seeking a ministry in your church in which you can serve. (I bounced from usher to musician to choir director to deacon to Sunday school teacher. Go figure.)

It won't stop you from necessarily DESIRING to seek...but all these things should make you too busy to seek. ^_^
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What he said.

God's time is either action or waiting. What you do while you are waiting determines what you will be able to do in time of action. While you wait you can improve yourself, develop talents you have, learn new skills, work on problems you know you have... or you can sit and wait. How you choose to use this waiting time determines what you will be able to handle when God says go.
 
IBDesmond

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I'm not one for believing in God to bring someone to you...especially when it comes to relationships.

God is attracted to movement. God isn't into doing all the work. It's cooperation, it's partnership. "Man makes plans in his heart but God directs his steps". God can't direct the steps that you're not taking (this coming from someone who's come close to relationships but is still 24years single. With that in mind, you'd expect me to be the kind of person to wait for God to bring me Miss Right). Go out and meet some people. Get to know some guys. I'm not saying date, I'm just saying, increase your circle of friends. Join a life group. Join a ministry. Do what it takes to meet more christian men. I'm not saying dating around. I'm just saying, don't wait for God to do all the work because in all honesty, I don't think God is all the interested in us having a love life. They're a bonus. If they were important, Jesus would have had a relationship and so would Paul. Paul even suggests it's bette to remain single.
Relationships are not the be all and end all. Don't stress. Relax :) (this coming from someone who is growing pretty sick and tired of being in a relationship)
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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RachelP03 said:
What do you do when your "waiting" on God to send you someone?
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Well, the first thing I feel inclined to point out is the elephant in the room; "waiting" on God to send someone has an undertone of expectation. I agree wholeheartedly with the sentiment IBDesmond expressed here:

God isn't into doing all the work. It's cooperation, it's partnership..."Man makes plans in his heart but God directs his steps". God can't direct the steps that you're not taking...I'm not saying date, I'm just saying, increase your circle of friends.
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This is wise advice. I don't think you should expect God to fulfill your wants. Hope? Absolutely! "Faith, hope, and love," after all. :)

What to do: be patient, focus on building character ("grow," as Shouryu said), and pray fervently. I'm at a restless stage myself, and a little unsettled with it, but I'm using the time to grow; to better myself. With faith in Him, we may feel lonely, but we're never quite alone.
 
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Gsusjunkie

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RachelP03 said:
What do you do when your "waiting" on God to send you someone? I feel like God wants me to wait, but I have my moments, like Im sure everyone else does where I want to go find it myself. I know Im not ready. I know I don't have a desire to be with anyone particular, but I know Im getting older and I just thought at 29 I would be married with a family by now. I don't know what God is doing. I just sometimes feel betrayed by God at times.

What do you do though when you want to seek or grow impatient?
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God doesnt 'send' a mate to you...theres no such thing as 'The One'....both violate free will, something God will never, ever do. He always presents choices.He gives you the tools to make smart choices, its up to you to use them.
 
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twofeet

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Gsusjunkie said:
God doesnt 'send' a mate to you...theres no such thing as 'The One'....both violate free will, something God will never, ever do. He always presents choices.He gives you the tools to make smart choices, its up to you to use them.
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Isaiah 34 Verse 16 " None of these will be missing not one will lack her mate. For it is His mouth that has given the order and His spirit will gather them together"

you said this is what "God will NEVER do"......are you sure about your statement?
 
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sassylady

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Your focus needs to be on God, not a husband/marriage. I did the same thing after 25 years of marriage, it's lonely without somebody and I was looking for somebody rather than building my relationship with the Lord. How I wish I had spent that time with Him.

God knows what you want. Just rest in it. If for whatever reason there is not a man in your future, can you be happy with just God? That's the place we need to be with anything; is He enough?

I was 37 and 39 when my children were born, and they and I were healthy. So you have time yet for children if God does bring a husband.
 
secularhermit

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I stopped daydreaming. My body is changing, the world is changing and I lived enough.
 
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RachelP03

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My whole life I have been told direct things and they happened. So many people around me have seen these things happen. I could probably write a mini book of some life events, not tragic huge ones, but just mini events. I know God wants me to wait, I have honestly heard him, felt him, laid on my heart, all the above.......
One time, I decided I was bored and I got on a Christian dating website, just to make friends and every single time I went on there I felt convicted and just knew in my heart "What are you doing". I was so uneasy and I knew I needed to get off and focus on God.

To be honest, Im pretty sure that I think when I get to the next chapter in my life Ill be happy, but I know that's not what God thinks or wants. He wants me to be content right here, right now in my life. If my dream man came knocking on the door right now, I know I wouldn't be ready to be with him, but I just hate in those weak moments of being lonely and tired of waiting, I don't want to go against God. I was with my ex husband since 15 and we got divorced when I was 26. I never was alone during the most biggest time of my life and I bounced from guy to guy as friends and hang out that I never was alone....they just filled my time. Now I know GOd wants me to be alone and to focus on Him and to trust Him and I have been doing good, but I hate when I have "those moments".
 
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RachelP03

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I agree!!! I know what God has laid in my heart.....I know that Im supposed to Wait.....
 
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RachelP03

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Its been on God, Ive been trying my hardest to do His will, go where He leads and learn as much as I can in this time. I read books and books and books, its quite sad really, Im getting a mini library built up, but I enjoy reading them. Most of the books are about issues that Ive had, learning about men and how and why they do things. How to be a Proverbs 31 woman was the best learning tool that I have ever read... I know God is preparing me to a wife that GOd wants me to be, and I guess at times, Im just eager to use my tools, but its all in Gods time. I just know Im not ready and have more to learn, just growing impatient I guess..... :)
 
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RachelP03

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I guess I disagree. God gave Eve to Adam, why didn't he send 10 girls and let him choose?
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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RachelP03 said:
I guess I disagree. God gave Eve to Adam, why didn't he send 10 girls and let him choose?
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That's fair. :) I suppose the thing with that is whether you consider the accounts of the Garden of Eden as literal/historical or allegorical. Personally, I don't think the inclusion of the female gender is a surefire indication of the sentiment that 'there's someone for everyone.' But that's besides the point! I don't think anyone here meant to imply that you won't find anyone. The key thing to take away is to be patient and let Him work, if you really trust Him. :) You seem like a lovely girl, so I believe the odds of settling down with a lovely man are in your favor.
 
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Nicee

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RachelP03 said:
I guess I disagree. God gave Eve to Adam, why didn't he send 10 girls and let him choose?
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That would be the hardest decision of his life.lol. God made it easier on both of them. He would had did the same to eve.:). When it's comes to love there is a perfect partner for everyone. It's just on the person to have faith n know what she/he is looking for. Back in the days. Father and mother knew what kind of partner that was right for their son or daughter. For a man to have a woman he wants. He will have to work his butt off(ask Jacob)gen 29:21. Same thing can apply to a woman. She has to prove herself to the man mother. With all that hard work to get your lover. There's no way in hell, heaven or earth that you'll divorce him/her. Even God won't allow it.
 
Lynx

Lynx

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RachelP03 said:
I guess I disagree. God gave Eve to Adam, why didn't he send 10 girls and let him choose?
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Exactly. Or from the other way, why didn't God give Eve a choice of ten guys?

And if they weren't meant for each other, what would have happened if they just didn't get along? All of us might not be around to ponder this... :eek:


"Now I know God wants me to be alone and to focus on Him and to trust Him and I have been doing good, but I hate when I have "those moments"."

When you have "those moments" do something. Learn to play the violin. Try out a new recipe and get it just the way you want it. Look up a music group you've never heard before and listen to at least three songs (not all the way through, but enough to get the feel of them.) Learn to play the upright bass. In other words do something that broadens your perspective and perception of the world.
 
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