Need advice on weather I should ask this girl to marry me

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Roh_Chris

Roh_Chris

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Tintin said:
I understand what you're saying, but I also think you're cheapening sex by comparing it in such a manner, to peanuts of all things. How about 'marrying for sex is like buying an airline and only ever using one aeroplane'? That's more like it. There are many facets to marriage, but only one of them is sex. Sex isn't peanuts. Probably.
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You know, I would agree with your comparison of sex to airplanes. Except for -
1) Airplanes are very costly (very, very, very)
2) They take a long time to build
3) The manufacturing process of an airplane involves millions of parts (about 3 million for an Airbus 320)
4) They consume a lot of fuel (tons of gallons)

In short, airplanes are cumbersome and are high-maintenance. So you can't compare sex to airplanes.

Oh wait, this is not the argument thread. Please carry on...
 
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Tintin

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Roh_Chris said:
You know, I would agree with your comparison of sex to airplanes. Except for -
1) Airplanes are very costly (very, very, very)
2) They take a long time to build
3) The manufacturing process of an airplane involves millions of parts (about 3 million for an Airbus 320)
4) They consume a lot of fuel (tons of gallons)

In short, airplanes are cumbersome and are high-maintenance. So you can't compare sex to airplanes.

Oh wait, this is not the argument thread. Please carry on...
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Sex should only be had within marriage. Marriages are very costly and loving, godly relationships take a long to build. They involve millions of different parts and they consume a lot of fuel (time, energy, money). In short, it's a better comparison to marriage. :p

No really, brother. Thanks for the laugh! I needed it. :)
 
Roh_Chris

Roh_Chris

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Tintin said:
Sex should only be had within marriage. Marriages are very costly and loving, godly relationships take a long to build. They involve millions of different parts and they consume a lot of fuel (time, energy, money). In short, it's a better comparison to marriage. :p

No really, brother. Thanks for the laugh! I needed it. :)
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I totally agree with you brother. I was just pulling your leg. And that is a wonderful comeback from you! :)

(Too bad I can't give you a rep because CC says I need to spread some!)
 
Lynx

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Tintin said:
I understand what you're saying, but I also think you're cheapening sex by comparing it in such a manner, to peanuts of all things. How about 'marrying for sex is like buying an airline and only ever using one aeroplane'? That's more like it. There are many facets to marriage, but only one of them is sex. Sex isn't peanuts. Probably.
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Don't ask me. I wouldn't know. I know what peanuts are like though.

Let's change the topic before we get banned for inappropriate discussions. :cool:
 
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Tintin

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Are peanuts even allowed on aeroplanes any more? Think about all of the anaphylatics. Or maybe people are just ushered into a sealed room to eat the peanuts.
 
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ServantStrike

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Tintin said:
I understand what you're saying, but I also think you're cheapening sex by comparing it in such a manner, to peanuts of all things. How about 'marrying for sex is like buying an airline and only ever using one aeroplane'? That's more like it. There are many facets to marriage, but only one of them is sex. Sex isn't peanuts. Probably.
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Pipp said:
Don't make yourself and the lady miserable. Have enough respect for her to not ask her to marry you.
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There is wisdom here.


Look, I don't pretend to understand what it's like to have a same sex attraction. I don't know why it happens or how to stop it - other than I do know that Christ can change the heart to where you no longer feel lust (whether you're straight or not). Lust can be dealt with through a lot of prayer, petition, and bible study.


This is an issue that needs to be dealt with before marriage is ever considered. You'll have much more clarity once you've slain this dragon with the help of our Almighty God.
 
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Kaycie

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Sounds like you're not even dating her. You should spend some time with her as a friend. If that works out date her. If that works out ask her to be your girlfriend. If that works out ask her to be your wife. Lol, you don't have to go straight to marriage. Although I like the movie Love Comes Softly, but they ended up having feelings for each other. Is she loving? Is there something about her that can be the root on which your feelings for her can grow? Sometimes when waiting for a mate we conjour up unrealistic expectations. What is your type? A rich model who has every talent there is? You gotta care about the person she is inside. I would give it a chance, and if it doesn't work out just say its not working out, but we can still be friends. You can't just stand back and guess if it will work, you have to give it a try. but don't marry someone you don't love.
 
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justin777 said:
Well I am struggling very much with sexuality I have prayed hard for and longed to find a woman to marry so that I would not have a problem with my sexuality.

There has been no options even though I've searched very hard except this one girl.
I am kind of attracted to her and she's cute but not really my type.

What do you think I should do?
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I think you're immature, clueless and not ready for a relationship. At least according to this post.

Whatever this 'sexuality' is (which you don't define) it's not magically going to go away just because you get married.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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Methinks we've done been trolled.

If not, then I think you have a lot of things to reassess before you entertain the idea of marriage, justin777.
 
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