I have a question about marriage

[Newlaura]

1st Corinthians 7:2
"Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband"

That scripture alone says alot. Note that the scripture didnt say girlfriend or boyfriend not even fiance. It said husband & wife. Dont let this be the reason you not have everlasting life. No reason or no person should make you want to risk your life. Hell is real & We have to open our eyes & face the truth. Common law is not marriage in Gods eyes. In the Bible it doesnt say you cant get married in a court house. Do whats right as a Christian. Its in your heart. Jesus loves you but he hates sin. God bless you & I know this message will not in void.

 

[BowTied]

There are plenty of instances of marriage in the Bible. The wedding feast at Cana, for instance. The relationship between Mary and Joseph before and after the Annunciation and Visitation. Just "feeling" married or seeking a basis for rationalization for living in sin doesn't cut it.

 

[Kingdom_Seeker]

Answer: Yes you are sinning.

With all that said, what keeps you from getting married? I don't understand why you share all the benefits of marriage but yet let something hold you back.

Tie the knot...If you desire to be a faithful Christian wife or husband, do the right thing and go the distance....Get married!

[h=1]1 Corinthians 7:2[/h]





2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

[h=1]1 Corinthians 10:8[/h]
8 We must not indulge in sexual immorality mas some of them did, and ntwenty-three thousand fell in a single day.


[h=1]2 Corinthians 12:21[/h]





21 I fear that when I come again my God may humble me before you, and I may have to mourn over many of those iwho sinned earlier and have not repented of the impurity, jsexual immorality, and sensuality that they have practiced.





Galatians 5:19
19 Now bthe works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality,

Ephesians 5:3
3 But psexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness qmust not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.

Colossians 3:5
5 Put to death therefore kwhat is earthly in you:2 lsexual immorality, impurity, mpassion, evil desire, and covetousness, nwhich is idolatry.

1st Thessalonians 4:3
3 For this is the will of God, iyour sanctification:2 jthat you abstain from sexual immorality;

Hebrews 13:4
4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge zthe sexually immoral and adulterous.

 

[iwant2serve]

According to the Bible I cannot say you are sinning because there are many states in the USA that legally view common law marriages as a legal marriage. Now if this question is coming up then you think it is sin and if that is the case the sin need to be dealt with.

The other thing is I got married with no money to my wife 25 years ago, There was no church or big party after that so what is the real reason? Do you guys feel like the license will take away your freedom somehow, afraid of making that commitment, of have gotten very comfortable how things are?

 

[Ugly]

This thread is Over a year old and the OP hasn't logged back in since she posted this.

 

[BrotherFriend]

"
Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron;
Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.." 1Tim4: 1-3
Word TO MARRY - a Greek word γάμος [GAMOS] - which is meaning - mating (sex).
Paul clearly used this word in his writings. Read 1 Corinthians 7, for other idea of"marriage" Paul uses the word "bound".(KJV)


That understanding of marriage that people have in their mind, made up from what they see and hear around them through the tradition, religion etc .. But that does not mean it's true.
If you believe in Jesus you must believe His word. Let's see what Jesus said.
"He said to them: Have ye not read, that he which made first male and female he created them? 5 And he said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife, and the two will become one flesh, 6 so that they are no longer two but one flesh. therefore what God has joined together, let not man put asunder. "(Matt19: 4-6) When people have sex, they become one flesh. Since this is a blessing! That's what was in the beginning, all the rest lies and deception. Do not believe me, but believe Jesus. Seek the truth, check it, because I can be wrong. Jesus is always right.


So Jesus said clearly that those who know the truth they neither marry nor are given in marriage. "And Jesus answering said unto them, The children of this world marry, and are given in marriage:
But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage:
Neither can they die any more: for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection." (Luke20: 34-36) But Jesus did not say that they can not have sex and live together and love one another!

 

[Kaycie]

Jesus told the woman at the well she was right that she had no husband, that she had five husbands, but the one she lives with now is not her husband- so just living together is not marriage. God does not accept fornication for marriage.

Now it is possible for a single man and a single female to live together and not be in fornication if there is no sex involved- such as when Elijah lived with that lady and her son. But obviously you are romantically involved since you have children together. You can go down to the court house and get married for twenty bucks. But if you're looking for an excuse any excuse will do. You chose him and he chose you, right? You are not being held against your will, so make it right.

I know a couple, but they are not Christians, he won't marry her until she quits her habit of yelling at him. The verbal abuse is pretty bad, but she talks nice to everyone else. I have had talks with her and she quits, but only for a while. They have one child together. But when you're a Christian you can't let anything get in the way of obeying God.

 

[BrotherFriend]

Jesus told the woman at the well she was right that she had no husband, that she had five husbands, but the one she lives with now is not her husband- so just living together is not marriage. God does not accept fornication for marriage.

In John4 Jesus said about himself.
"16 Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither. 17 The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband: 18 For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly."

Jesus said that He is not her husband!!!

 

[Elijah19]

Well, to answer lovingly but bluntly, yes you are sinning. Assuming that you are sexually active with you're boyfriend (hence the children), this would mean that you are being intimate outside of wedlock. This would mean you have committed fornication and are continuing to do so. Marriage doesn't have to be expensive, and no you don't have to get married in a church if you don't want to, but that would be optimum. God knows your heart, and as long as you are following his command, it doesn't matter if you adjust things to be less expensive. As for witnesses, they can be found at a dime a dozen. Just get your parents of something.

Honestly, my only question is why you even had to ask such an obvious question. The Bible is clear that Fornication is wrong, and that Marriage only is God's plan for two people in a relationship like yours. What then? Do you honestly think that the Bible says anywhere that God joined Adam and Eve as Man and Girlfriend. No. It's man and wife only, no buts, and nothing else but. The problem with just being boyfriend and girlfriend with kids and living together is that it lacks the formal and instituted commitment ordained by God himself. without that, your love at this moment is incomplete along with your obedience.

 

[BrotherFriend]

Well, to answer lovingly but bluntly, yes you are sinning. Assuming that you are sexually active with you're boyfriend (hence the children), this would mean that you are being intimate outside of wedlock. This would mean you have committed fornication and are continuing to do so. Marriage doesn't have to be expensive, and no you don't have to get married in a church if you don't want to, but that would be optimum. God knows your heart, and as long as you are following his command, it doesn't matter if you adjust things to be less expensive. As for witnesses, they can be found at a dime a dozen. Just get your parents of something.

Honestly, my only question is why you even had to ask such an obvious question. The Bible is clear that Fornication is wrong, and that Marriage only is God's plan for two people in a relationship like yours. What then? Do you honestly think that the Bible says anywhere that God joined Adam and Eve as Man and Girlfriend. No. It's man and wife only, no buts, and nothing else but. The problem with just being boyfriend and girlfriend with kids and living together is that it lacks the formal and instituted commitment ordained by God himself. without that, your love at this moment is incomplete along with your obedience.

Well, to answer lovingly.... have a look Matt7:1-3!!! According to the law to be "sexually active with someone" outside of worldly(man's idea) idea of marriage(outside of wedlock) is adultery(sin). But not according to the Law of Spirit and life!!! Have a look...John 8:11The meaning of fornication is prostitution! Sex not for love, but for money.
As far as people love one another as Jesus commanded us it's fine to live with one another whether having sex or not. But as Jesus said to the woman in John 8:11 it's better not to give cause for someone to stumble. as well see John 5:14.

 

[fdpa24]

Does anybody know if anywhere in the bible it is mentioned that living together with your partner without being married is a sin? To clarify I have been together with my boyfriend for 9 years, we have 2 little girls together and he has been a father to my teenage girl since she was 6. We own a house together, a vehicle, a business. We love each other, respect ea. other, we r not perfect but it is a good relationship. Yet everytime we discuss marriage our reason for dismissal is lack of money and witnesses. He says he wants to and I say I want to but the question is are we sinning? Are we already considered married in God's eyes? Do we have to marry in a church? I feel so blessed for the little home I have been given that I feel I need to do anything to show how gratefull I am and I don't want to ruin things.

Wow this sounds so much like my story

My wife and I have now almost been married for 2 years now but lived together for 8 years together. I actually at one time passed myself off as being her husband just to make her more comfortable in her insecurity and mine until one day another brother called me out on it in a loving way. Just being together does not make you married and it is a sin before God. I used the same excuses and so did my wife. I also have raised her kids they are now 21, 20 and a granddaughter just turned 3 years old. I really encourage you to make it right before the Lord and also have some pre marriage counseling. My wife and I also asked God forgiveness for not making it right sooner that is another thing I so love about my God his grace it new every morning. Since we have been married God has been doing so many amazing things. My wife was saved and baptized and a few weeks ago received the baptism of the Holy Spirt and she is now one of the leaders in our church’s women’s Ministry. I have also been called into ministry in our church in other areas. I’m not saying God won’t bless you in other areas but he won’t honor you not being married.

 

[Ugly]

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[micki73]

Wow! God bless your humble heart!