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Hi Sis 
. First of all, welcome to the site. Honestly, a lot of people feel this way at your age. If you want more proof, just start this same thread in the Singles' forum; you'll get a bunch of people agreeing with you. I would just about guarantee it. If you're okay with long-distance friends, you'll make plenty of them in the Singles' forum as well. I looked at a few of your other posts as well, Kat, and a whole lot of us had a hard time making friends when we were your age. Hope to see more of your posts in there .
. First of all, welcome to the site. Honestly, a lot of people feel this way at your age. If you want more proof, just start this same thread in the Singles' forum; you'll get a bunch of people agreeing with you. I would just about guarantee it. If you're okay with long-distance friends, you'll make plenty of them in the Singles' forum as well. I looked at a few of your other posts as well, Kat, and a whole lot of us had a hard time making friends when we were your age. Hope to see more of your posts in there .
M
I used to feel that way when I was a teen...
Don't worry, you will find real friends when you least expect... someone who feel the same way you feel. That is no problem in feel that way. Don't worry to fit in some group. Most of them are filled with superficial people who just want to be noticed for others.
Just pray to God to show the real friends.
Do you have a group of young people in the church whom you can go out to buy an ice cream, or have a Bible study together?...
God bless...
Don't worry, you will find real friends when you least expect... someone who feel the same way you feel. That is no problem in feel that way. Don't worry to fit in some group. Most of them are filled with superficial people who just want to be noticed for others.
Just pray to God to show the real friends.
Do you have a group of young people in the church whom you can go out to buy an ice cream, or have a Bible study together?...
God bless...
K
My boyfriend and i were seeing eachother until i was taken and wasn't able to see him because of my family my boyfriend says that god probably did it to see how strong we are because now my boyfriend and i suffer depression. I just need someone to tell me that god will help get me and my boyfriend back together.
I have a young friend who recently Facebooked this.... It might be helpful.
There is nothing more painful than having to conceal your deepest held convictions and beliefs for fear that you will be rejected, and there is nothing more heartbreaking than to have your expectations met when you make said convictions and beliefs publicly known. However, there is nothing more freeing than being able to say, "Hey, this is where I stand on the issue of ___________!", without having to lie and conceal, thereby keeping your integrity intact. Being honest about where you are on your journey is *a* cure to the heartsickness and depression that sometimes accompanies the process of unlearning and discovering truth.
Do not succumb to the pressure to lie and be dishonest in the name of maintaining a reputation. Sure, you don't have to share *EVERY* single internal thought or musing of your heart, but you should never have to staple your tongue to the roof of your mouth or padlock your lips shut, simply so that religious people, who will inevitably reject you anyways, delay their rejection by a few months. These are not the types of people we should be seeking to appease in the first place. Humanity is attracted to authenticity and honesty, and even many fundamentalists, who will ultimately disagree with you, will internally respect you for your integrity.
Be honest with yourself and be honest with the world. Dishonesty rots the bones and makes you a slave to the opinions of people whose approval you don't *really* want in the first place, but honesty and authenticity opens the lines of communication with the people you *actually* want and need in your life.
There is nothing more painful than having to conceal your deepest held convictions and beliefs for fear that you will be rejected, and there is nothing more heartbreaking than to have your expectations met when you make said convictions and beliefs publicly known. However, there is nothing more freeing than being able to say, "Hey, this is where I stand on the issue of ___________!", without having to lie and conceal, thereby keeping your integrity intact. Being honest about where you are on your journey is *a* cure to the heartsickness and depression that sometimes accompanies the process of unlearning and discovering truth.
Do not succumb to the pressure to lie and be dishonest in the name of maintaining a reputation. Sure, you don't have to share *EVERY* single internal thought or musing of your heart, but you should never have to staple your tongue to the roof of your mouth or padlock your lips shut, simply so that religious people, who will inevitably reject you anyways, delay their rejection by a few months. These are not the types of people we should be seeking to appease in the first place. Humanity is attracted to authenticity and honesty, and even many fundamentalists, who will ultimately disagree with you, will internally respect you for your integrity.
Be honest with yourself and be honest with the world. Dishonesty rots the bones and makes you a slave to the opinions of people whose approval you don't *really* want in the first place, but honesty and authenticity opens the lines of communication with the people you *actually* want and need in your life.
R
So you think God would do something to cause you depression?
Oh child, not even your own parent would wish you such upset. How much more than do you think God has in store for you?
I think you need to stop putting people first in your life and start putting God first a change.
People will come and go kat. People will hurt you, lie to you, walk over you and leave you.
But Jesus will never hurt you. No matter what. He'll never leave you.
Put God first and all these other things will be added unto you kat.
Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
God bless little sister.
Oh child, not even your own parent would wish you such upset. How much more than do you think God has in store for you?
I think you need to stop putting people first in your life and start putting God first a change.
People will come and go kat. People will hurt you, lie to you, walk over you and leave you.
But Jesus will never hurt you. No matter what. He'll never leave you.
Put God first and all these other things will be added unto you kat.
Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
God bless little sister.
HI Laree!
I don´t know you age but, if you expect finding friends for being "achieving"... Are those your friends?
If you like one thing, like icecreams, those friends cannot NECESSARILY be found where icecreams are sold (and sold out the time you think you came in).
The truth is you should start a frindship with you, with your limits and limitations and, later one, those COULD come along as friends and I hope you know many of those could be short-term friends, even if you liked to be long-term friends but, the most important thing YOUR world is befreinding you, developing those likes and talents you ignored you had and enduring patience to cope with those NORMAL limits you would find and, by the way, nothing of those hobbies or likes "belong" to a place you think you are.
Skills can be improved and, by time, you´ll know performance can be dull (I used to play guitar and now I see I don´t do it the way I played) and, additionally, I lost interest in having more than those I had, becasue I changed and got new habits or interests. It happens to all, lifetime.
I don´t know you age but, if you expect finding friends for being "achieving"... Are those your friends?
If you like one thing, like icecreams, those friends cannot NECESSARILY be found where icecreams are sold (and sold out the time you think you came in).
The truth is you should start a frindship with you, with your limits and limitations and, later one, those COULD come along as friends and I hope you know many of those could be short-term friends, even if you liked to be long-term friends but, the most important thing YOUR world is befreinding you, developing those likes and talents you ignored you had and enduring patience to cope with those NORMAL limits you would find and, by the way, nothing of those hobbies or likes "belong" to a place you think you are.
Skills can be improved and, by time, you´ll know performance can be dull (I used to play guitar and now I see I don´t do it the way I played) and, additionally, I lost interest in having more than those I had, becasue I changed and got new habits or interests. It happens to all, lifetime.
E
My advice to you would be to practice at those things you want to do but aren't good at. Believe me, everyone starts off as a beginner. And when you start off as a beginner, you always suck a little. But that's just natural. Give it some time, girl, and you'll be able to get good and fit in with the big boys (or girls) soon enough.
Honestly, though. Fitting in don't matter diddly squat... at all! All you need to worry about is whether or not you're happy and if you've got Jesus. Peace and Joy!
Honestly, though. Fitting in don't matter diddly squat... at all! All you need to worry about is whether or not you're happy and if you've got Jesus. Peace and Joy!
How about volunteering? This way u get a little bit of everything that the volunteering services has to offer in ur community. This will help u to find ur niche. Also Lareese fill ur time with God through music, Bible study, finding a prayer partner and someone to help u be spiritually accountable. U will be surprised how all the pieces will fall in place. U got to put forth the effort. Nope it wont be easy. Darkness cant dwell where the Light of God shines.
A
Hi Lareese.
i feel the exact same way right now, and going through the same pace. Its also frustating me everytime i see other people doing big things at a young age. But i've come to think that maybe our time to bloom hasnt come yet. We're still buds. and i know for sure that the Lord is doinG is doing something inside us to be better In the future. Believe me, i dont have any talent at all, but icjust keep on believing that maybe i'll find my place out there. A special place He reserved especially for me. And i know that there is one for you as well. We all have.
I pray that people like us who have a rough road ahead of us be reminded that at the end of the road He is there and we shouldn't lose our hope and continue taking our steps in life.