I HATE 50 SHADES OF GREY! (No this is not a debate)

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JFSurvivor

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So I REALLY HATE 50 shades of grey for multiple reasons and I HATE IT WITH A PASSION! My mom and dad think it's "disturbing" how much I hate it. Is this a bad thing?

I also think I am freaking out a bit because my mom has read the book...AND LIKED IT! *shudder* And that just sits wrong with me. Am I being too sensitive?
 
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You can't really control what other people think. You can always try talking to her about the book. See what she liked about it and why. From my experience, though, it's hard to change a person's opinions on something.
 
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Im extremely proud of you JFsurvivor....keep the faith!
 
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jsr1221 said:
You can't really control what other people think. You can always try talking to her about the book. See what she liked about it and why. From my experience, though, it's hard to change a person's opinions on something.
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I don't wanna "change" her. I'm just sad and scared for her cuz this is a REALLY bad book! I'm also confused and hurt as to why she thinks I'm blowing this outta proportion. This is a SERIOUS issue. :-(
 
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Jf - Did you read the book or are you basing your feelings on what you know of it? Maybe it is because I'm much older, but I just put it in the category of "waste of my time". It is just fiction, and there are those who will read it and laugh. I've heard some people who really make fun of it. There will always be people who will use it as they would porn, but if not this book, some other book.

Don't worry about your mother. If she is a loving mom and the rest of her life is good, let it go. I would worry more about her if she started reading books on how to murder people.:eek:
 
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Joidevivre said:
Jf - Did you read the book or are you basing your feelings on what you know of it? Maybe it is because I'm much older, but I just put it in the category of "waste of my time". It is just fiction, and there are those who will read it and laugh. I've heard some people who really make fun of it. There will always be people who will use it as they would porn, but if not this book, some other book.

Don't worry about your mother. If she is a loving mom and the rest of her life is good, let it go. I would worry more about her if she started reading books on how to murder people.:eek:
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Or watch the ridiculous show " How to get away with Murder".
 
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Jf - Did you read the book or are you basing your feelings on what you know of it? Maybe it is because I'm much older, but I just put it in the category of "waste of my time". It is just fiction, and there are those who will read it and laugh. I've heard some people who really make fun of it. There will always be people who will use it as they would porn, but if not this book, some other book.

Don't worry about your mother. If she is a loving mom and the rest of her life is good, let it go. I would worry more about her if she started reading books on how to murder people.:eek:
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Well what would the rest of her life "being good" look like? I'm terrified cuz she doesn't have a relationship with Christ. :'( like no relationship with Christ plus books like that are baaaaad.

She thinks it's just "entertainment" but it's so much more than that if it's written specifically to elicit fear and sex (two things that should NEVER go together). :-(
 
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JFSurvivor said:
So I REALLY HATE 50 shades of grey for multiple reasons and I HATE IT WITH A PASSION! My mom and dad think it's "disturbing" how much I hate it. Is this a bad thing?

I also think I am freaking out a bit because my mom has read the book...AND LIKED IT! *shudder* And that just sits wrong with me. Am I being too sensitive?
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not at all. that thing and all it represents is part of the devil's work that is so evil and insidious and wicked

that it should not even be discussed. at all.

this is what scripture says about such wicked things - they are in such wicked darkness that it is not appropriate among believers (true believers in yahshua) even to be mentioned.
 
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JFSurvivor said:
So I REALLY HATE 50 shades of grey for multiple reasons and I HATE IT WITH A PASSION! My mom and dad think it's "disturbing" how much I hate it. Is this a bad thing?

I also think I am freaking out a bit because my mom has read the book...AND LIKED IT! *shudder* And that just sits wrong with me. Am I being too sensitive?
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If you really feel so strong about it just ignore the book and movie. Stay away from things in your life that brings out these emotions...

The old phrase "hate the sin not the sinner" comes to mind :)
 
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true, to a point, but it is kind of hard to 'ignore' when the assemblies of believers are bringing up in their midst this evil and many other idolatries and wickednesses daily. it is 'vexing' to the ones yahweh calls to himself and calls them righteous.(like lot in sodom).
 
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true, to a point, but it is kind of hard to 'ignore' when the assemblies of believers are bringing up in their midst this evil and many other idolatries and wickednesses daily. it is 'vexing' to the ones yahweh calls to himself and calls them righteous.(like lot in sodom).
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Jeff my friend, I don't know if I am getting old but I only heard about this debacle two weeks ago when they mentioned it on this website and recently on tele here in SA. So yes you can ignore this rubbish and focus on positive things (like ABBA Father). The Devil will use this as a distraction to take our focus from God
 
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Jeff my friend, I don't know if I am getting old but I only heard about this debacle two weeks ago when they mentioned it on this website and recently on tele here in SA. So yes you can ignore this rubbish and focus on positive things (like ABBA Father). The Devil will use this as a distraction to take our focus from God
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that doesn't make sense. with focus on yahweh always , by faith and grace in yahshua ,

as soon as i saw the title and brief description, as yahweh has trained me well, and as he reveals as he pleases the truth to his children, i knew it was evil, wicked, and not suitable for human beings.

by and in yahweh's grace. shalom in yahshua to all who love the truth.
 
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JFSurvivor said:
So I REALLY HATE 50 shades of grey for multiple reasons and I HATE IT WITH A PASSION! My mom and dad think it's "disturbing" how much I hate it. Is this a bad thing?

I also think I am freaking out a bit because my mom has read the book...AND LIKED IT! *shudder* And that just sits wrong with me. Am I being too sensitive?
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You're probably more sensitive to such things do to issues from your past.
 
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I think it's a shame that we have gone this far in our society to consider something so impure as entertainment. When it first came out everyone love it and I tried reading the book (tried as in, tried to understand it, I was a sophomore in High School, ok). Now that I'm older and have a little more understanding, I can just shake my hand. Beside the fact of it being R-rated it is sexist toward men and women.
 
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Learn to be unmoved by the world. Don't be surprised when the world lives up to its fallen status.
 
Joidevivre

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I agree with Sirk. Choose your passions wisely. Be passionately about those things that you can make a difference in. Be especially passionately about the things of God.

This book is only one of a zillion things that are in and of the world and have been always around us. What bothers me is that it stirred up zealous anger in her and it just isn't worth it since there is nothing she can do about it. Anger will only take you down and make you sick. You can't be mulling on anger and "rejoicing always" before the Lord.

It is good to comment on the dangers of something, and warn others, but when it leads to anger consuming you, the sin has found a target in you. Maybe the book didn't stir you up in a sexual way, but it stirred up great anger which is robbing you of the peace that Christ died for you to have.

So, yes, we need to not be moved by the world. If anything we are called to pray about these things and move the hand of God against such sins that exist.
 
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Joidevivre said:
Jf - Did you read the book or are you basing your feelings on what you know of it? Maybe it is because I'm much older, but I just put it in the category of "waste of my time". It is just fiction, and there are those who will read it and laugh. I've heard some people who really make fun of it. There will always be people who will use it as they would porn, but if not this book, some other book.

Don't worry about your mother. If she is a loving mom and the rest of her life is good, let it go. I would worry more about her if she started reading books on how to murder people.:eek:
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The kind of reasoning you used might be problematic. What if the mom likes to fantasize about this? The fantasizing is fiction... as long as the rest of her life is okay.. let it be. Also, if you're even more liberal with this kind of thinking.. you could add a lot of other sins.. will what if she lies a few times? What if she has hate in heart sometimes? What if she gets proud sometimes? What if she steals now or then? As long as the rest of her life is okay... "let it go."

At the very least, if we understand something is sinful... then acknowledge it. Recognize that sin and reject it.
 
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JFSurvivor said:
So I REALLY HATE 50 shades of grey for multiple reasons and I HATE IT WITH A PASSION! My mom and dad think it's "disturbing" how much I hate it. Is this a bad thing?

I also think I am freaking out a bit because my mom has read the book...AND LIKED IT! *shudder* And that just sits wrong with me. Am I being too sensitive?
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I don't think you're over-reacting. From what I've heard, that book is pretty much, garbage.

I know how you feel. There are close family members of mine whom I love that are basically racists and it always makes me cringe when I hear some of their comments. I don't think you should get used to it. But, I think you should be careful with you're emotions even though they are justified. Pray about it and ask more Christians for advise on this.
 
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JFSurvivor said:
So I REALLY HATE 50 shades of grey for multiple reasons and I HATE IT WITH A PASSION! My mom and dad think it's "disturbing" how much I hate it. Is this a bad thing?

I also think I am freaking out a bit because my mom has read the book...AND LIKED IT! *shudder* And that just sits wrong with me. Am I being too sensitive?
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Probably. It's just words someone wrote on some paper. Get upset about, and do something about, real issues in life, if you feel the need to be upset about something..
 
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