I understand what you're saying Kaylagirl. Another word that could be used in place of subtle would be indirect. This is not meant as a putdown toward women, for I feel that one of the main reasons many women are this way is because of a defiant, defensive, or hostile reaction they get from a man when they confront a man directly about something sensitive. Any of these reactions can lead a woman to become fearful and evasive in communicating. Therefore...
I would like to encourage men to better their relationship with the woman they love by having a mindset to want their relationship to be the best relationship they can make it, by setting aside pride, utilizing self control, and having a willingness to listen and change through love.