My wife wants a divorce and wont even consider trying to 'work it out'

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RachelP03

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I fought for my marriage after my husband left because God wanted me too. I didn't know how or what to do, but I wrote him a letter, I invited him to church, I invited him to a Christian concert, I got him a book, I prayed for him, I had others pray for him. I told him I was fighting and I wore my rings......we are divorced, but because I fought and even during when I really didn't want too or know how is when God wanted me too, is because now looking back I know I did everything possible and I have zero regrets. Ask God and allow him to work in your life and see what to do. God can change anything at the very last moment. I don't know your story, but if you really want this marriage......then FIGHT!!!! There is nothing wrong with fighting and I hate to see people tell you to walk away or to give up........I don't think God would want that if he has put the desire in your heart. Im so glad God dosent just give up or walk away from me.....
 
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mystikmind

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RachelP03 said:
I fought for my marriage after my husband left because God wanted me too. I didn't know how or what to do, but I wrote him a letter, I invited him to church, I invited him to a Christian concert, I got him a book, I prayed for him, I had others pray for him. I told him I was fighting and I wore my rings......we are divorced, but because I fought and even during when I really didn't want too or know how is when God wanted me too, is because now looking back I know I did everything possible and I have zero regrets. Ask God and allow him to work in your life and see what to do. God can change anything at the very last moment. I don't know your story, but if you really want this marriage......then FIGHT!!!! There is nothing wrong with fighting and I hate to see people tell you to walk away or to give up........I don't think God would want that if he has put the desire in your heart. Im so glad God dosent just give up or walk away from me.....
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I can definitely understand the desire to try to fight to save a marriage and know you tried everything if you cannot save it. That was my position for quite some time.

Some good advice that i got from many different people was to focus on healing myself rather than the marriage. And with my wife moved out i have been able to do that, i really feel my self confidence and inner strength beginning to return and as that happens, my eyes are opened to how low and unmotivated and self loathing i was when i was with my wife. In her struggle to try to get what she wanted out of the relationship, she had slowly pushed me down... like two people struggling in deep water.

The more i recover, the more i realize i don't want to go back to that.
 
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djm18

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I am claiming this prayer for my situation! I have just separated from my wife of 23 years and within a week her heart has hardened. My one hope is that I know she loves the Lord. Please pray and agree with me that he will change me and well, I was going to say restore our marriage but he has done that before and here we are again. I just know that we both need him now more than ever.
 
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BarlyGurl

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Whatever GOD has joined together, let not man separate. SO did God join you together? were you both free according to the word of God to marry the other? Then who is bigger in your eyes...man or GOD?
 
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djm18

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Yes God is bigger. Please pray that he will remove this pain in my heart.
 
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Sanfam

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The wisdom of the world I hear. The Bible says differently. She can not divorce you biblically. She is living in rebellion to your headship. She is not loving you or your little daughter. She is selfish. That is what the Bible says.

Now, if she was an unbeliever and wanted out of your marriage because of your religious convictions, then yes, let her go. As silver and gold is tested in the fire so is her faith. You can't "unsave her"! But you can lead her closer to God or influence her farther away. Heb 3 and 4 say that sin hardens the heart, and Jesus said Moses gave you divorce because of the hardness of heart. Don't you see, Jesus was talking about sin that separates what God joined together. Bring her the scriptures that talk about divorce and remarriage, bring witnesses to her life to say what she is doing is biblically wrong and show her why. You have to chose to Love God more than your wife and lead correctly, and biblically!
 
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Magenta

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There was a speaker on Focus on the Family today who spoke about how Eve was created differently than Adam and what this means hermeneutically... it was a beautiful presentation and one I would highly recommend any listen to. Part one was on today, so I am assuming part two will be tomorrow :)

Have you ever considered how God created your spouse? Dr. Walt Larimore examines God’s creation of Adam and Eve, and explains how male-and-female differences are revealed in the book of Genesis. [FONT=&quot]Listen to Jim Daly - Focus on the Family Radio Online[/FONT]
 
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