i'm sorry but that's terrible advice. If you marry simply because you can hardly resist your sexual feelings for her then the odds are that marriage will not last. to many ppl make the mistake of getting married before they are ready and thats why so many marriages end in divorce or worse. Please be careful of the advice you give because if its bad advice and someone takes it it could ruin their lives
I'll tell hubby that. After all, had we heard that advice early enough we'd be celebrating our 35th anniversary last month, instead of in October. We met during the Christmas holidays, became good friends, had our first date in the end of February, I told him I loved him March 5th, he told me he loved me March 7th, (he had to think it over lol), knew we would mary beofre the end of that week, got engaged in April, didn't follow that passage and regret that, but waited for my brother (who was engaged a year earlier but wouldn't get married until that September), instead of doing what we were meant to do -- get married quickly, because we burned.
The person asking is already planning to marry. He's just waiting around for no particular reason, as if "financially ready" is a reason to delay. Funny thing. That brother waited to get married after living together with his now-ex. That marriage didn't last. No God in it. My Dad decided it was okay to marry a younger woman, because he didn't have problems with me marrying an older man. (His ex is a month older than hubby.) His marriage didn't include God either. It didn't last. (Two more wonderful siblings out of it, so not saying everything went bad.)
We new all along the three of us were getting married, and God has ultimate say over it and us. We should have been married.
If you know it, you know it. If you're not sure, stop the relationship. If you can't stand being without the other and the feeling is mutual, get married. If you can stand it, then you know that wasn't the one (if there is a one.) Finances, circumstances, and all that other stuff that piles up in life will pile up anyway. Better to share the burden. Or, if you don't need to, don't, (like Paul also said.) The really important things are:
1. God first. (Also means should be same beliefs.)
2. Like the person for who they are, not who you can make them become.
3. Best friends.
4. Marriage is not a competition. It's a partnership. Don't aim for 50/50 or you'll fall short. Aim for 90/90 and you might hit 50/50.
Not spending alone times means you don't get to know future spouse well, except in relationship with others.
Funny. I covered all this in my first answer, (Marry if you burn.) Somehow it becomes more acceptable after finding out that I've been married, in love, and in seriously really-like to the same guy since 1980 -- from the time we first went out to the time we married. What worked was God's approval, not advice. That last part is why so many marriage don't work out.
