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Hi everyone. I'm struggling to understand something. Attraction. How important is it in relationships; what is ok and not ok? Why do I ask? Well it was a hot topic between me and my ex boyfriend. I was in a relationship with a great young man of God but I felt like he wasn't particullary attracted to me. I have a tendency of feeling things; maybe its the holy spirit; I don't know but I could feel it. So I asked him; are you attracted to me? His answer: "No" free advice:" young men NEVER EVER say that to your lady" . I'm sure all yal ladies can guess that my heart broke; shattered; bleed to death! Here is this man that I love and I'm completly attracted to who says he is not attracted to me. He goes on to say that I'm not "beyonce beautyful" but I'm also not ugly. He explains that he doesn't like to date women who are particulary stunning as he feels that they will probably cheat on him and that guys will always be looking at that type of women. That made sense in a way. There are certain extremly good looking men I would never entertain but it would be because they are players and not Godly men. It would be because I could tell that he would not be focused on God but on how many women fall at his feet. I would not avoid such a man because of a majority of women noticing such a mans looks. For me it hurt cause all I understood was that he is "settling" for me. I'm "ok" for him.that's all I understood. He goes on to say that he's fallen inlove with all the other things about me and that's what makes me the best for him. I'm confused. Does he have jealosuy issues. Pain from past relationships? Insecurity about a womens commitment to him? What does the bible say about attraction. Shouldn't we all want the best and trust God to provide us with a Godly spouse who is also really good looking? I personally want to look at my husband and proclaim what a fine artist my God is. Doesn't God want his children to be paired with a person who appreciates EVERY detail that he has created? What's your take and standard on attraction to the opposite sex? What are the rules you live by? Any point of views will be greatly appreciated.