How do you know you have found the right one?

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It's hard to know that someone is the right one, I've thought I've found the right one, and it hasn't panned out, and at the moment, I think I may have found the right one, but it's too early to tell. Does anyone have any suggestions on how you can know someone is the right one? Maybe a word from scripture or testimony or something?
 
well i am with the man im going to marry and i knew he was the one before we were even dating, even before we were really friends.. But that is because i had a dream that showed me he was going to be my husband. I knew the dream was from God so i prayed that if it was true God would allow us to become bestfriends and would be in the relatonship... 7=8 months later we started becoming very good friends and within 1-2 months we were dating and 3 months after that we got engaged and have been together almost 2 years now
its a God thing deffinately
 
1. Look at your expectations. When your expectations are extremely high or extremely low i would suggest first to reconsider this.
2. Does the person meets the expectations.
3. Look at his/her expectations. (same way as 1.)
4. Do you meet his/her expectations.

Things to remind on expectations:
The person will not be perfect.
You might have to take choices to save your marriage. Choose love.
The right one is never found by the first feelings. The first feelings can easily make you think you have the right person, but later it does not feel that way and you directly stop. The base of you relationship were feelings and that will not be a solid ground.
You and he/she understand eachother or you have the idea that you can grow.
The other person is a christian. I really would like to recommend this.

Hope this will help you a little further.
 
When she and I met, I was dating another person. When the other person left me, this one stepped up and was my encourager, and since then we've become really close friends. As for my expectations, I think we're covered. As for dating a Christian, unequal yoke is a sin, and it's foolish to get involved in such a sin. As for dreams which KristenNicole mentioned, I have them, but I've had them about others girls as well in the past, so I don't think that helps.
 
Alot of Pastors, including mine, talked about getting hit by a mac truck when they first met their wives. I heard a saying once, albeit cliche, that "it's not that you can put up with in that person, but rather that you cannot live without them. I'm still waiting, so if you find it out for sure let me know, haha.
 
Jaykay104 said:
Alot of Pastors, including mine, talked about getting hit by a mac truck when they first met their wives. I heard a saying once, albeit cliche, that "it's not that you can put up with in that person, but rather that you cannot live without them. I'm still waiting, so if you find it out for sure let me know, haha.
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lol interesting. It'd be kinda funny if a mac truck backed into you or something and a woman was driving it and she turned out to be your wife lol
 
I have often wondered about this. I came to the conclusion that God does not want me to be married & have a family. At 45, I found myself believing that and am trying to come to accept this. Although I don't know what God's plan for me is, I try to live a simple life and be friendly to almost everyone.
I guess that is why I spend so much time on the computer/internet. This way I don't have to deal with the heartache of being decieved in any way, shape or form.

Besides: I have my 2 kittys, Willow and Alder to keep me company. They don't know anything about hurting someone the way people do. All they know is that I love them and they love me back.
 
Follow these simple steps...and think about would you do these for the rest of your life???

Love the person in sickness and health, riches or poverty, forsake all others....pretty much if you are willing to follow the wedding vows and if you care enough about the person that you are willing to WORK at the relationship to MAKE it work...
 
Good advice. By God's grace and with His leading and help I would =]
 
I just wanna quote Edmund Cloney with regards to knowing God's will : "The degree of certainty we have with regard to God’s will in a situation is directly proportional to the degree of clarity we have as to how the Word of God applies to the situation"
 
God knows the desire of your heart. Make your request known Phil 4:6 (deep request). Lean and trust on him with all your heart and not to rely on your thoughts and understanding. It sounds like to me that you have created a intact boundary to protect yourself from getting hurt, which is not good for developing relationships. Its also called in the bible a stronghold. Pray to let go of the heartache and fear, anxiety, or what ever your feelings are created from an ice berg. Once you let go of this stronghold and accept healing from Jesus cos his already done it, then you will find that you will attract different ppl. There are good people out there but how are they suppose to be drawn to you if you have put up a wall.
 
God gives you a peace... Thats all I really know. You just know it will all work out.
 
Baptistrw said:
It's hard to know that someone is the right one, I've thought I've found the right one, and it hasn't panned out, and at the moment, I think I may have found the right one, but it's too early to tell. Does anyone have any suggestions on how you can know someone is the right one? Maybe a word from scripture or testimony or something?
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baptist, i really belive the holy spirit will show you if she is truley the one. i would stay prayerful, and even fasting if you have to.
 
olivetree32 said:
baptist, i really belive the holy spirit will show you if she is truley the one. i would stay prayerful, and even fasting if you have to.
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I prayed specifically about something involving her, and God answered it exactly how I had asked. I dunno if that means anything, but it stood out to me.
 
Chopsui101 said:
Follow these simple steps...and think about would you do these for the rest of your life???

Love the person in sickness and health, riches or poverty, forsake all others....pretty much if you are willing to follow the wedding vows and if you care enough about the person that you are willing to WORK at the relationship to MAKE it work...
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i must say im VERY impressed with this answer! ive been married 23 yrs and that about says it all
 
Baptistrw said:
I prayed specifically about something involving her, and God answered it exactly how I had asked. I dunno if that means anything, but it stood out to me.
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baptist, i just posted a response last night in another thread one that i posted that was on my heart recently. anyways, its about God choosing your mate. and last night i answered to a thread on Abraham sending his servent to find a bride for Isaac. An angel was sent before the servent to choose the bride. but also, the servent had questions for the Lord. remember he asked the Lord, if she gives me a drink and my camels. are you familar with this scripture. Genesis 24:14 anyways you can read the chapter if you want. I don't know if this helps, but it just reminded me of what you were saying.
 
wow... I was just glancing through this thread, and got a lot of advice for my OWN relationship I'm having. It's interesting. Thank for the question and the many responses... Here's a little of how I believe God has chosen who I am with now.

Over the last year, I've been single, and I would pray and ask God to open the doorway to allow someone to enter my life, someone who respects and cares about me - as I am now - and that this man would be different than all the rest. I quit praying about dating someone, and focused my attention my friendships - letting God work on my prayer as His will would allow.
Then, a year later, a certain man walked into my life - quite suddenly I might add - and it wasn't something expected, in fact I had started to doubt I would ever date or be with someone ever again (And I'm only 23). I had doubts as we dated, because I'd been burned and hurt before I didn't want that again... so from the beginning I told him that I wouldn't sleep with him, that I wanted to wait till I was married. He agreed and we said nothing more about it.

About two days ago, the issue came up again - I don't know about ALL GUYS doing this, but the ones I've dated think that taking the purity from a woman is a game or challenge if they refuse to give it away at first. The temptation was there, and the overpowering "lust" was there, and I pulled away. I pulled away from him and he asked me if I was ok. Before I answered, I whispered a prayer. "Lord, if he is the one you deemed to put in my life, then let him answer me with honesty and truth in his heart. That if he chooses any answer that is not from his heart - and Lord let me know the difference - that we end this relationship before it gets worse." And guess what, we are still together.

I believe God put him in my life simply because God answered my prayers (as always) with the simplest way possible. My boyfriend answered me, looking me right in the eyes, and the honesty was tangible. We are waiting, God gave me a man who respects me, who cares about me, who is happy being with me. I plan to enjoy every moment with him. God chooses the person, and that's a solid FACT.
 
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