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babe

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hi guys I need some advice. I have been dating this boy for a while and things are getting pretty serious between us. we've been talking about going all the way and I think I'm ready but I'm not sure and I'm really worried what my parents and god will think about it. my boyfriend says he's ready when ever I am. I don't know what to do.
 

blue_ladybug

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hi guys I need some advice. I have been dating this boy for a while and things are getting pretty serious between us. we've been talking about going all the way and I think I'm ready but I'm not sure and I'm really worried what my parents and god will think about it. my boyfriend says he's ready when ever I am. I don't know what to do.
1.) You are only 17, and still a kid. You have no concept of what a serious relationship is. It's more than sex and hormones.

2.) Sex before marriage is unacceptable to God. Your parents will probably flip out if they found out you are thinking of having sex. Honor them, yourself AND God and wait until you're a full-fledged adult to take that step. You will regret it if you have sex now. Especially if you don't use protection and get pregnant. Be smart and wait. If your guy truly loves you, he will wait also.
 
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babe

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k thanks for the advice
 

jsr1221

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I agree with Blue. Also if your boyfriend is a strong Christian, he would want to honor God first and foremost. And wait. Continue putting God into your relationship, and rely on His strength.
 
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babe

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thanks. I know I'm not that old but I have been in relationships before and have been in love for real before. I was with my last boyfriend for almost 2 years before he broke up with me because he was moving over seas. I feel like this with my current boyfriend before. we've just talking about that we need to stop even though we want to go farther. I have just been struggling with who far is too far. I'm not afraid to tell him no. this is my choice and im thinking about every aspect. being a Christian is the main reason y I'm still and am staying a virgin.
 
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hi guys I need some advice. I have been dating this boy for a while and things are getting pretty serious between us. we've been talking about going all the way and I think I'm ready but I'm not sure and I'm really worried what my parents and god will think about it. my boyfriend says he's ready when ever I am. I don't know what to do.
Pretty seriuos to GET MARRIED?

Take your BF to ask your parents and, if he has a job... You will know it well through your family´s advice.
 
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babe

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my boyfriend isn't what I would call a Christian. he believes in god but he's not very religious. I'm trying to come to church and youth with me and he's interested he just has to convince his parents to let him.
 
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babe

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I'm so confused I don't know what to do.
I'm scared of what I want and I'm scared of what will happen if I let myself have it
 
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cmarieh

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If he truly loves you he will not pressure you into disobeying God and your parents. Instead, he will respect you and the boundaries. To be honest he would never bring the concept of sex up into conversation because when he does that, he is pressuring you. I commend you for keeping yourself pure and I will be praying that you continue staying pure until you get married.
 
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jakayden2

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Hey babe ??!! Lol. Yea i think that at the end of the day ( or night or watever) its ur choice.I mean Jesus died to give us a choice right. So in saying that, u need to decide whats more important. God or ur own wordly desires. Thats basically it. If u choose God then he will help you through watever you are goin through. Nothing is too big for our god to overcome. Keep prayn nd ill be prayn wid u chica. With ya all the way girlie x) ;P
 
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babe

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thank you all for the advice and the prayer.
 
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Why did you choose a name such as babe? I'm confused as to what I should be calling you now, I'm certainly not gonna call you babe, I'll stick to OP.

Sex is supposed to be pure, its like a gift from God to the ones that are married, but the humans offcourse have found ways to abuse this gift. Sex is not just for the pleasure of mutual love, its something that brings the two bodies together as one flesh, as we can see that in Genesis. Any sexual activity outside of the commitment of marriage is adultery. Sex before marriage is very similar to that. It is something outside marriage. Here is what Bible tells us about sexual immorality -

1 Corinthians 6:18-20

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

Here is what happens to those who commit such a thing -

Galatians 5:19-21

Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.


Think about it for yourself, weigh the pros and cons and I think the cons are much heavier. Waiting for the right time to do this after marriage also gives you that oppurtunity to experience something beautiful which won't make you feel guilty later on like how having sex now would make you feel. Your losing your virginity to your husband, the man God made for you, your having sex for the first time with that man, and only him. Don't you think that is has much more of a worth than doing it now? For me, waiting for my woman is definitely worth it. I wouldn't want to commit a sin either, so sex before marriage is a big no.

God bless you. :)
 
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I remember something about taking sex outside of marriage that I read in an article, let me quote that - "To take it outside of marriage is like taking the wine consecrated for Holy Communion and using it for a frat house drinking party."
 
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babe

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ok thank you and my nick name is babe because it's one of the few names that where open that I could think of.
 

blue_ladybug

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ok thank you and my nick name is babe because it's one of the few names that where open that I could think of.
make up a name that we can call you..babe sounds like we're talking to a bf/ gf..lol..
 
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babe

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I don't know how to change it
 

levi85

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You both should be friends now like other friends, but if you built a relationship like husband and wife, and commit things that are permitted in marriage. Than you will lend in great trouble.

The Bible says if you commit sin like telling lie, you are hurting your soul. But if you commit sin like sex or adultery you are putting trouble to both your soul and body.and you know it takes a long time and sometimes throughout the life you have to suffer by committing the sin of sex.

I truly believe God doesnot want you to be in sexual relationship with your boyfriend. God wants this for you only if you are married. Even if you think you both are ready wait for God to command you.
What i think if you go away from Jesus , you may loose the joy peace , mercy of God and you may loose your boyfriend, you know it is through your mind and body devil is trying to enter.Please beware of this fact. "Let no one despise your youth, but be though an example love, faith........."

Its my pray may God protect you from the evil attack

God bless!
 
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WolfGaming

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Hey babe ??!! Lol. Yea i think that at the end of the day ( or night or watever) its ur choice.I mean Jesus died to give us a choice right. So in saying that, u need to decide whats more important. God or ur own wordly desires. Thats basically it. If u choose God then he will help you through watever you are goin through. Nothing is too big for our god to overcome. Keep prayn nd ill be prayn wid u chica. With ya all the way girlie x) ;P
haha Amen jakayden
 
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MyLighthouse

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Sounds like your from the South of the USA, lol, just messing. Just in case you don't know where I'm from in TN not being married and not having kids at my age is unbelievable. My great-grandma when I was 18 asked when I planned on getting married and suggested to start looking for a man because I was getting old! So fall in love young is a concept I understand, though I personally don't participate in it.

With that in mind if you are truly in love get married! Does your parents not know him? What would they be upset about? If you guys are both in love (truly) then why not? Many of my friends married against their parents wishes, but I suggest not. Yet it always seems to turn out in the end.... Probably due to the grandbabies that came along ;)

By the way, this is the only "all the way" as a Christian that should exist. God planned intimate words and relationship for marriage, any other way will definitely put a frown on God's face. You do what God wants you to do, maybe at your age an all the way should be with God, in prayer and his word. You, him, some friends or family, together discussing and praying over this very subject is ideal I would say.
 
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twotwo

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hi guys I need some advice. I have been dating this boy for a while and things are getting pretty serious between us. we've been talking about going all the way and I think I'm ready but I'm not sure and I'm really worried what my parents and god will think about it. my boyfriend says he's ready when ever I am. I don't know what to do.
Sex is nothing. True love is everything.

Happy those who wait for the Lord they won’t be disappointed!