Who are singles here? Men and women????

[organicbeast]

whoa whoa whoa now..

You can't just go out all willy nilly and multiplying.. you HAVE to wait on God to put the right people in your life..
if you are a woman, you wait on God for the right man to find you.
if you are a man you wait on God for the right woman to be placed in front of you.

I didn't wait.. God was taking too long in my opinion... but then again, I Wasn't living for Him in the right way, I wasn't ready for marriage and I wasn't surrendered to Him.. so how could I complain..
nonetheless I wanted to get married and I chose the first man that came along when I was about 23 ... I thought I was an old maid, and I actually did chase that one..
we got married and 6 months later he left me cause he thought he was gay.. And then he ended up dying at age 26...after we had divorced..later at age 27 , I then AGAIN didn't wait on God.. and though I didn't chase the next husband.. I let him chase me and just because he was good looking and loved my son (that I had had through a relationship that ended shortly before)
I let him in my life.. HE drank, did drugs.. but I didn't look past that he wanted me...and wanted my son who had been abandoned by his bio dad... so...Though there may have been some good times.. it was really a bad marriage.. 4 kids later and 18 years.. he left for a younger woman when I was age 45.
I am now 55 years old and single..
I look back and honestly!! Wish I had waited on God instead of taking matters into my own hands with a few Ishmael relationships..
the worst that might have happened is that I was still single at my age now without having gone through the awful things that my sons and I have been put through... without my sons having these generational curses from their father etc... and my choices... etc....
the best that might happen is that maybe I would have "found the one that my heart loves" and be with him to this day..with stable children and in a stable marriage.. and finally having experienced a life with someone who loved God..

So... this young lady waiting on GOD is what we should ALL be doing..
IT isn't religious and it isn't disobedient and in fact, ... the bible says "WAIT ON GOD" several places..
NOT waiting on God is why so many christians are senior singles and divorced!

Thank you for your testimony. Wow I realize that you went through quite a lot in your life. I really hope God can use you in his ministry by guiding/encouraging young men and women in the church to be patient and to wait on the Lord.

As a single man, having never touched a woman I can certainly tell you IMO: That the desire for a woman comes from within the carnal mind. That desire is not of the Spirit but of the flesh. Like it says, "Walk in the spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh" Having myself struggled with my desire for the woman [within my carnal mind], I had quite a few instances in my life where my indulgence in the word of God or prayer, or groaning to the Lord - His grace would just overshadow my carnal mind, and I would have and feel a complete sense of freedom. Even freedom from earthly sensuality which always wages a war against the soul. Like it says, "Wherever the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom"

I think the willingness of the soul to persist and abide in the Spirit has to be there, otherwise one can revert to the carnal mind easily.

 

[Calmador]

1) I have trouble talking women... socially
2) I have trouble talking to everyone in general... socially
3) I don't have a job... personally... I strongly prefer not to ask women out when I don't have a job. It's embarrassing.
4) I've rarely pursued women.
5) I'm not funny... a lot of women like humor. Online, I can be funny... real life, I don't even think I should try.


Help me?

 

[Olerica]

Why am I not dating? Well, I'm 3 years into widowhood and frankly I think that up until fairly recently it would be unfair to both me and any man who approached me to get involved. And now that I think I'm ready, and really want to be in a place to entertain interest, I feel like God is holding me away from this right now.

It's a weird thing to say "and I'm ok with that" because God is going to do what he is going to do, but I have taken matters into my own hands in the past, and I do not want to do that again in this area of my life.

I am, however enjoying getting to know a whole new host of people here. Having a 'social' life again is kind-of an adventure! I am loving both the women and men friends I am making in this non-dating environment.

 

[Practice-English]

I'm single because
I'm not an promis¨¨¨¨

 

[Brainia]

I believe I'm single because I didn't have a good sense of who I was in my teen years. I got saved at 22. I got plugged into a church that was very strict on dating and encouraged me to pray in a corner to find my mate instead of going out and meeting people. From 22 to 27 I didn't have one date. I realized that church was a little too harsh and I had to leave. I have been dating from 27 up till now and I still haven't found someone to share my life with.

After you hit 25, it's very hard to meet people. You have to put a lot of effort into it and be more strategic. It sucks.

 

[Brainia]

Thank you for your testimony. Wow I realize that you went through quite a lot in your life. I really hope God can use you in his ministry by guiding/encouraging young men and women in the church to be patient and to wait on the Lord.

As a single man, having never touched a woman I can certainly tell you IMO: That the desire for a woman comes from within the carnal mind. That desire is not of the Spirit but of the flesh. Like it says, "Walk in the spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh" Having myself struggled with my desire for the woman [within my carnal mind], I had quite a few instances in my life where my indulgence in the word of God or prayer, or groaning to the Lord - His grace would just overshadow my carnal mind, and I would have and feel a complete sense of freedom. Even freedom from earthly sensuality which always wages a war against the soul. Like it says, "Wherever the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom"

I think the willingness of the soul to persist and abide in the Spirit has to be there, otherwise one can revert to the carnal mind easily.

I don't think the desire for a woman comes from the carnal mind necessarily. God said it's not good to be alone, and He created Eve to walk alongside Adam. We were created to be in many different forms of relationships. I'm thinking about what you said.

 

[Brainia]

To add to that, if a person wants a significant other to partner to preach the gospel, I don't believe it's carnal and just to share the responsibilities of life in general. I know for me I am a single woman living in Toronto and it's not easy to pay for everything on my own. Two are better than one.

 

[organicbeast]

I don't think the desire for a woman comes from the carnal mind necessarily. God said it's not good to be alone, and He created Eve to walk alongside Adam. We were created to be in many different forms of relationships. I'm thinking about what you said.

Oh dear. So from where do you think my (sexual/sensual) desire for a woman comes from? From Heaven? the Holy Spirit? Spirit of Christ? I am sure the Spirit does not desire in the Flesh and vice-versa. I do believe as per the scriptures Eve was created for Adam [& vice-versa] as a companion, wife etc, but I encourage you to read the Bible again to deduce what happened in the Garden of Eden. Adam/Eve sinned and fell INTO/TO the flesh[carnal mind/ Physical body, by agreeing with the Serpent/beast and not with God] There were ghastly spiritual/physical consequences to that disobedience/adultery.

With sexual abstinence and this testosterone pumping in my blood, my occasional super ravaging desire for the woman - is something that does not come from the Spirit of the Lord, but is clearly a desire of the Flesh and my Soul/mind. At least that is what I strongly believe. Because it says, ["Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom." 2 Cor 3:17] And I myself would like to openly witness to you Brainia, that I have felt that freedom in the Lord on many occasions in my Life. I only sinned because I vibrated downwards into my carnal-mind instead of persisting and staying in the Spirit [which lusts against the Flesh]

 

[Str8aero]

I'm single because I choose to be.


I am somewhat recently divorced and know I need some time before getting into another relationship.
( Also, I'm a truck driver. That makes it a little difficult to start new relationships. )

 

[butterfly712]

I guess I'm just waiting for the right guy,I'm not in any rush to get back into another relationship.

 

[BS]

umm...





...because I am not married, nor have I a girlfriend.

I am wondering .... why one could "like" what you have said ...

 

[organicbeast]

To add to that, if a person wants a significant other to partner to preach the gospel, I don't believe it's carnal and just to share the responsibilities of life in general. I know for me I am a single woman living in Toronto and it's not easy to pay for everything on my own. Two are better than one.

Oh fo sure certainly. I don't have problems or objections to the God-created-institution of marriage. In fact I have great respect for God for creating marriage because I think it appropriates and creates a form of orderly society instead of people fornicating with each other like animals with multiple sexual partners.

The only way a man can appropriate his fleshly desire/passion for the woman is to appropriate that desire by entering into a covenant of marriage with her, without which he cannot have sex with her or vice versa. But if they do, that is fornication as we know according to the scriptures. Even if sin is conceived initially, there is an option to either break the illegal sexual relationship immediately or enter into marriage. "I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot have self-control, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn with passion." [1 Cor 7:8-9]

 

[MysteryReader101]

1) I have trouble talking women... socially
2) I have trouble talking to everyone in general... socially
3) I don't have a job... personally... I strongly prefer not to ask women out when I don't have a job. It's embarrassing.
4) I've rarely pursued women.
5) I'm not funny... a lot of women like humor. Online, I can be funny... real life, I don't even think I should try.


Help me?

Hey your not the only one. But for me it's guys.
1. I have a hard time talking to guys my age face to face.
2. I've never had a boyfriend. So I wouldn't even know how to act around guys.
3. I also don't work. It's embarrassing when people ask me what I do for a living.
4. I never even granulated from high school. So I feel stupid compared to every one else.
5. Guys have never been interested in me.
So see your not the only one.

 

[MartyrNdaMaKn]

No rush here, just enjoying my time in Christ.

 

[Tamas]

Hey your not the only one. But for me it's guys.
1. I have a hard time talking to guys my age face to face.
2. I've never had a boyfriend. So I wouldn't even know how to act around guys.
3. I also don't work. It's embarrassing when people ask me what I do for a living.
4. I never even granulated from high school. So I feel stupid compared to every one else.
5. Guys have never been interested in me.
So see your not the only one.

Hi, I also could weep:
1. It is also hard to me talking to girls my age face to face.
2. I've never had a girlfriend or wife. So I also wouldn't even know how to act around girls. I don't know how to approach them.
3. I work, but I'm poor. I don't have an own flat, I don't have a car and I don't have much money. However, I think it is sad that there are many material people (woman and man) who are interested mostly in money in the partner selection. However, you can avoid them. You can seek a partner who the inner values are more important, than the money.
4. I graduated (or granulated? ) from high school and I found a job in my profession, but it seems this knowledge isn't enough to find a partner. It seems I would neeed to learn how to approach a girl. Is there any school which teaches this knowledge?
5. I can't say girls never been interested in me, because once a girl interested in me in my life, but I had to reject her, because she had two boyfriends in the same time and I didn't want to be her third boyfriend. So I can see that I have never been gotten a fair offer.

However I have two another flaws that other people mentioned to me:
1. I've never tried to find a girl in church or another religious community. I always tried to find a partner in dating sites.
2. I have a negative attitude. I try to change this, but it is not so easy.

 

[lonelyjenny09]

seeking for a good man in my life

 

[lonelyjenny09]

we can get to know each other better

 

[lonelyjenny09]

Am very happy to hear that from u My Dear.I will be very glad if we can also get to know each other and who knows The good Lord works in many ways Amen

 

[lonelyjenny09]

will be very happy to meet u

 

[Olerica]

Who are you talking to LonelyJenny09?