What would you do if this happened to you?

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butterfly712

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My cousin has been living with me,she has 3 weeks until she goes and moves in with her boyfriend,well at night time I can her her on the phone with her boyfriend,I can hear her anywhere in the house,the walls are very thin,and plus her room is right next to mine,well anyway,at nigh time I can her her moaning on the phone while she's on the phone with her boyfriend,and I really don't want to hear her doing that,and I don't want to say anything to her,so I just put my headphones on,what would you do if this happened to you?
 
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atwhatcost

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Call out, "I can hear you, you know."

If that doesn't stop it, call out, "And I don't want to hear you, you know."

And if that doesn't work, "Find a new place to live within the next two days."
 
secularhermit

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Oh, I´m sorry for you... :(

Once in my life I suffered that... I reluctantly stayed one night at one of my friends and his GF came to visit him and something worst than that happened.

I tried to sleep on the sofa, in the living room but, her cheers and cries reached my ears and I couldn´t sleep WELL so, since then, I followed up my heart and hunches. If I knew what would happen I won´t face that situation twice.

If I had found the keys of that apartment I surely would have left but, if i wanted, I should have knocked down the door of his bedroom.

What a shame I lived!
 
secularhermit

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atwhatcost said:
Call out, "I can hear you, you know."

If that doesn't stop it, call out, "And I don't want to hear you, you know."

And if that doesn't work, "Find a new place to live within the next two days."
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Clear and precise!

Privacy is sought the owner of that house.
 
secularhermit

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When I refered him "that" next day he laughed. At least, I got the hunch he wanted to have anything I knew he could be bragging at and, be assured there are unbelievers who would enjoy a thing like that, even using a cam (but not my roof or home).
 
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butterfly712

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secularhermit said:
When I refered him "that" next day he laughed. At least, I got the hunch he wanted to have anything I knew he could be bragging at and, be assured there are unbelievers who would enjoy a thing like that, even using a cam (but not my roof or home).
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I agree,that is very true,all she has is 3 weeks until she will be with her boyfriend,I think she can wait.
 
secularhermit

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butterfly712 said:
I agree,that is very true,all she has is 3 weeks until she will be with her boyfriend,I think she can wait.
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Well! let´s see the positive side: She doesn´t know how to fast... that gave us a chance to know she´s not grown up in the faith of those who longed to live real love, next time thet met.

If you loved her your ways, surely you would find a way to help her (and to spare you from anything like that, next time)

What if any guest did THE SAME her home?

I´m sure she wouldn´t be "kind", like you.
 
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butterfly712

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secularhermit said:
Well! let´s see the positive side: She doesn´t know how to fast... that gave us a chance to know she´s not grown up in the faith of those who longed to live real love, next time thet met.

If you loved her your ways, surely you would find a way to help her (and to spare you from anything like that, next time)

What if any guest did THE SAME her home?

I´m sure she wouldn´t be "kind", like you.
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yes,that's very true,I know how happy she is,and I'm really happy for her,everyone deserves to be happy.
 
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Galahad

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butterfly712 said:
My cousin has been living with me,she has 3 weeks until she goes and moves in with her boyfriend,well at night time I can her her on the phone with her boyfriend,I can hear her anywhere in the house,the walls are very thin,and plus her room is right next to mine,well anyway,at nigh time I can her her moaning on the phone while she's on the phone with her boyfriend,and I really don't want to hear her doing that,and I don't want to say anything to her,so I just put my headphones on,what would you do if this happened to you?
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Well Butterfly it's your territory.
You have an opportunity. She's not only moaning over the phone, but she's moving in with her boyfriend. Will they be married within the 3 weeks? If not, you would not be out of bounds to help her and show her what the Bible teaches about marriage.
 
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butterfly712 said:
My cousin has been living with me,she has 3 weeks until she goes and moves in with her boyfriend,well at night time I can her her on the phone with her boyfriend,I can hear her anywhere in the house,the walls are very thin,and plus her room is right next to mine,well anyway,at nigh time I can her her moaning on the phone while she's on the phone with her boyfriend,and I really don't want to hear her doing that,and I don't want to say anything to her,so I just put my headphones on,what would you do if this happened to you?
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If she's moaning while she's talking to her boyfriend, then they're doing 2 things: talking dirty and masturbating. I would tell her the WHOLE HOUSE can hear her. Hopefully it'll embarass her enough to stop doing it. I agree with atwhatcost's answer. Tell her she needs to be out by tomorrow.
 
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Miri

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Take her a glass of water and a couple of pain killers.

If she asks 'what's that for' tell her it's to cure the massive headache she's going to get if she doesn't shut up!
 
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She is family, how does someone bring something like this up?

Right before you are leaving to go somewhere.
That way, you don't have to be around for the awkward part.


If not, wait for the Holidays.
That always seems to be a good time for family to make each other feel uncomfortable.
 
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butterfly712

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Galahad said:
Well Butterfly it's your territory.
You have an opportunity. She's not only moaning over the phone, but she's moving in with her boyfriend. Will they be married within the 3 weeks? If not, you would not be out of bounds to help her and show her what the Bible teaches about marriage.
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She's not going to be getting married to her boyfriend,her boyfriend and her both had bad marriages before,they both agreed that they would never get married again.
 
secularhermit

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butterfly712 said:
She's not going to be getting married to her boyfriend,her boyfriend and her both had bad marriages before,they both agreed that they would never get married again.
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I think I would do the same!

Marriage, sometimes, is a sort of legal bondage no one escapes witout paying the lawyer´s bills.

One of my brothers has married twice and divorced twice, too.

If it was a warranty to "long" endurance, human history would be written differently.
 
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Tintin

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If your cousin's name happens to be Lisa, kindly tell her Mona Lisa belongs in the Louvre Museum in Paris, not in your house.
 
secularhermit

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Hmm!

@ butterfly

Several countries, once a person moves in any apartment or roof, they get legal rights as if they were married, those "free" unions... Does it happen in Fla?
 
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LostSoul01

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butterfly712 said:
I really don't want to hear her doing that
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Understood, nobody would like to be in this situation.


butterfly712 said:
and I don't want to say anything to her
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I think you better not to say anything that may sound like judging (nobody is perfect). beside i don't think it'd help anyways!

butterfly712 said:
so I just put my headphones on,what would you do if this happened to you?
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most likely this is all i'd do too. and I'd just try to keep calm and wait for the 3 weeks to end till she moves without doing/saying anything that may hurt her feelings!
 
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Tintin

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Don't say anything that may hurt her feelings? Has it really come to that? I think the fact that Butterfly has let her cousin stay in her house for this time, is reason enough for her to abide by the rules. Also, I think truth informed by love is more important here than potentially embarrassing her cousin or 'hurting her feelings'.
 
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LostSoul01

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Tintin said:
Don't say anything that may hurt her feelings? Has it really come to that? I think the fact that Butterfly has let her cousin stay in her house for this time, is reason enough for her to abide by the rules.
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What if her cousin has no other place to go if she won't let her stay in or if she makes her feels not welcome anymore?
maybe she is in a weakness moment of her life that will pass!

If someone is weak or a sinner would be able to understand the other's weakness and won't try to judge them
and if the someone is "strong" and not a sinner (if this perfect strong person really exist) then would act by love not just by rules.


Romans 15:1 "We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves."

1 Corinthians 13 "4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."

1 Peter 4:8 "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."



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I think truth informed by love is more important here than potentially embarrassing her cousin or 'hurting her feelings'.
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Yes, if it's about truth informed by love, I think she can talk about it later with her cousin but maybe after the 3 weeks end so it won't sound like she has to follow the rules or leave.

anyways, the question was about "What would you do if this happened to you?" and this is how thought I'd do, but of course i can always be wrong
 
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