Do you think God has chosen your mate?

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1still_waters

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Mark 10:9 What God has joined together, let no man separate..

This verse seems to say God is in the process of 'joining people together'.

On the other hand you have some folks who are so super spiritually unrealistic in this matter, that being single is their own dog gone fault.

Some people believe so much in God just making things magically happen, they could 'almost' be guilty of tempting the Lord! They really don't put forth much effort to find someone, all the while thinking God will just magically make it happen.

To me the answer to this question lays somewhere in that undefined, mysterious tension between God's providence and human responsibility. Yes God is provident and does join together, but dog gone it, you can't be sitting in a chair thinking it's just gonna happen on its own.

The devil tried to tempt Jesus by appealing to God's 'care' and told him to jump off a cliff, after all, God is in control and will catch you! But Jesus knew enough to realize you can't be stupid either and tempt the Lord.

I think the same can be said of God's putting people together. We can become so tempted to just let God 'join together' that we forget our part in it and as a result, we're kind of tempting the Lord.

Just my two cents.
 
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Mark 10:9 What God has joined together, let no man separate..
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yeah..and God must join non-believers together too I think, people who may not even believe in God..
so I think a lot of God's role is letting nature take its course..
 
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MahogonySnail said:
yeah..and God must join non-believers together too I think, people who may not even believe in God..
so I think a lot of God's role is letting nature take its course..
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By letting the nature take it's course u can very well end up married to the wrong person, like an unbeliever for example, i don't believe God will give His blessings on that since we are clearly told "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers."
Then as still_waters said, i don't think we just have to sit around and hope the right one will knock on our door, but as christians God is certainly guiding us when it comes to such an important choice, like marriage.
And by guiding us, i don't mean some miraculous things, but there are circumstances in our lives when we can be sure it's God's hands.
 
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Do you think God has chosen your mate?

Yes :D
 
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erika83 said:
By letting the nature take it's course u can very well end up married to the wrong person, like an unbeliever for example, i don't believe God will give His blessings on that since we are clearly told "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers."
Then as still_waters said, i don't think we just have to sit around and hope the right one will knock on our door, but as christians God is certainly guiding us when it comes to such an important choice, like marriage.
And by guiding us, i don't mean some miraculous things, but there are circumstances in our lives when we can be sure it's God's hands.
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im with you on that erika, not to be unequally yoked. if you knew the people i have spoke to. Christians that hooked up with the wrong mate. let me tell you, it was not good. the stories i have heard from a non beliver and a believer living in the same house. its so hard on the marriage.
So still waters, what do you suggest we do as far as dating goes. because if your not living the old life, than your not bar hopping, and not partying. so where is a good place to meet some one?
what is wrong with devine entervention. God provides brother
 
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never mind still, you dn't need to answere that. because the bottome line is. When its God's time, its His time.
 
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olivetree32 said:
So still waters, what do you suggest we do as far as dating goes. because if your not living the old life, than your not bar hopping, and not partying. so where is a good place to meet some one?
what is wrong with devine entervention. God provides brother
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The same approach you take toward being saved and sanctified. You trust him to save you and give you the power to become sanctified, yet you do your part to avoid spiritually toxic things and to focus on spiritually positive things.

Yes trust God to 'join' you to someone, but do your part too.

Nothing in our walk with God just let's God do his part as we do nothing!

Yet so many think it works this way for finding a mate.

I'd suggest putting yourself out there in good situations. If nothing comes of it, then trust that he's just got things on hold.
 
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Olive and please don't get distracted with my analogy on faith and sanctification. I was using that as an example to show things in our walk with God involve him doing his part and us doing our part. That's the point of me bringing up the issue there. So please don't get distracted and think I'm bringing up a new topic:p
 
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see, i get you on that. that trust that He has a person on hold. i mean as far as a person doing there part, God wants us to be busy about His business right. God said, seek first His Kingdom and righteousness and all these things will be added to you. im matthew 6:33
So i guess just be busy about are Fathers business, and than it will be falling into place Stillwaters. So i don't have to look. Although on a realistic note here, i do wonder how that plan may fall into place, but its for me and anyone eles to let God make it happen.
 
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We come across the right one in the context of service, we're surrendered to God's will, and He brings us that one in our service to Him.
 
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With regards to "Do not equally yoke with unbelievers", why then God ask Hosea to marry Gomer the prostitute?
 
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With regards to "Do not equally yoke with unbelievers", why then God ask Hosea to marry Gomer the prostitute?
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well, as most know Hosea was a prophet, and God had Hosea marry the prostitut as an example to Isreal. As God would have the prophets do things as an action so it seems somtimes as examples.
I can't even really say about the harlot remember who hid the spys in Joshua remember and God saved her whole famimly. The point is do any of us really always know why God does the things He does? I mean He is the Great I AM! But i think God's word is clear on being uneaqually yoked in the new testament, and there is a reason for it. Jesus was saying, what does light have to do with darkness?
Bottom line, we'll marry the person God has for us, and its awesome letting Hiim choose, because are Father knowes best and what we need.
 
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^ Yeah for those circumstances God indeed has purpose. Will it not be that way for any of us, He'll let us marry someone, even non-Christians for a purpose.
 
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do you really believe that in your heart sister? you know, since we are all not God, who is to say what He would do. I know that somtimes we make mistakes, and do things out of the center of God's will,and God cleans up are messes. Can God make a non believer into a on fire Christian? of course He can, just as He has done you and i. But that does not always happen right away. Yes i have spoke to couples who were not saved and married and are sold out to the Lord. i know both sides, i have heard it from other christians, and it was not easy one being saved, the other not. there were many problems. It's up to you and the Lord. His will be done, but His word directes us not to. you know here is what im thinking as im typing this, i mean God knows all hearts, i mean He could choose a mate that woiuld fall in love with Him deeply, but i feel i have been warned about this many times not to do that. Not only not to, it's in the word of God. And we know His word is living and active.i pray God gives you discernment and speaks to you in your heart on this.
 
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do you really believe that in your heart sister? you know, since we are all not God, who is to say what He would do. I know that somtimes we make mistakes, and do things out of the center of God's will,and God cleans up are messes. Can God make a non believer into a on fire Christian? of course He can, just as He has done you and i. But that does not always happen right away
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Strange it may seem, but I do believe.
I know it does not always happen that way but there is a possibility that it will happen. Why would I limit what God can do? If my heart is right with God what's in there to fear to.

His will be done, but His word directes us not to. you know here is what im thinking as im typing this, i mean God knows all hearts, i mean He could choose a mate that woiuld fall in love with Him deeply, but i feel i have been warned about this many times not to do that. Not only not to, it's in the word of God. And we know His word is living and active.i pray God gives you discernment and speaks to you in your heart on this.
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got your point. In my heart I do want to marry a God-fearing man, I guess that's what all Christian women desire, but I'm open to any possibility, not that I am desperate, I just see the story of Gomer and Hosea as something different yet with purpose and in God's will. ^_^
 
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twistedlinen said:
Strange it may seem, but I do believe.
I know it does not always happen that way but there is a possibility that it will happen. Why would I limit what God can do? If my heart is right with God what's in there to fear to.



got your point. In my heart I do want to marry a God-fearing man, I guess that's what all Christian women desire, but I'm open to any possibility, not that I am desperate, I just see the story of Gomer and Hosea as something different yet with purpose and in God's will. ^_^
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sister, trust God's word, and not our own hearts somtimes, are hearts can be deceiveing.
God gave us His word for a reason, and as a God fearing woman as im sure you are, i would be wise to follow God's instruction, rather than your own desires if its not according to His word. You will be blessed, just wait.
 
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^ The story of Hosea and Gomer is biblical too. That's part of God's Word. I just find it so confined with the thought that if you marry an unbeliever, you're not following God's will., Who are we to tell someone who married/will marry an unbeliever and tell them they made the wrong choice, that's exactly generalization to what CHristians try to imply on the "Do not totally yoke with unbelievers.." thing. We can't exactly say that if a Christian marries an unbeliever, s/he already not doing God's will.
 
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well, here is what i like to remember, i didn't write it. so if somone has a question and why God does things the way He does,than we must just take it to the Lord.
 
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If you marry an unbeliever you're sinning against God, plain and simple. II Cor. 6:14-18 is plain and clear. I don't recall God ever telling Hosea to marry a harlot, I know God told him to buy her back, but I don't recall Him telling Hosea that. If that's the case provide scripture for it. 9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? Jer 17:9 (KJV)


Obey God's word, not our wicked hearts on this matter.
 
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