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This may be your personal preference, and I don't want to knock it, but I do fear that this is really a game of semantics. When a man calls a woman whom he fancies or is presently courting etc. 'beautiful', while it's possible he may mean it in the strictest sense of the word, more often than not I'd bet that he is using the word at least partly as a synomym for 'sexy'.
Think of it like this: a man can call the whole of creation beatiful (for it is), yet there is something even more to you that is additional to beauty: you are sexy to him. If he doesn't find you sexy then I'd question whether the relationship would be a fruitful one (and I suspect that you would too). This additional element is why your man will ultimately want to marry you and start a family. It is something unique within the relationship between a man and a woman that is not found in the relationship with the rest of creation. Even though we can still rightly call the trees and the birds beautiful, I don't think you'd want your fella copping off with the nearest sheep.
Think of it like this: a man can call the whole of creation beatiful (for it is), yet there is something even more to you that is additional to beauty: you are sexy to him. If he doesn't find you sexy then I'd question whether the relationship would be a fruitful one (and I suspect that you would too). This additional element is why your man will ultimately want to marry you and start a family. It is something unique within the relationship between a man and a woman that is not found in the relationship with the rest of creation. Even though we can still rightly call the trees and the birds beautiful, I don't think you'd want your fella copping off with the nearest sheep.
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I didn't say he was stupid. I suggested (based on my own experience of being his age) that it can be difficult to distinguish the two, as I acknowledged, one can easily lead to the other.
And of course sexual attraction is sexual. We are sexual beings and God created us this way. Lust, as I explained earlier is better described as the disproportionate want for sex that is removed from it's proper and natural setting.
And of course sexual attraction is sexual. We are sexual beings and God created us this way. Lust, as I explained earlier is better described as the disproportionate want for sex that is removed from it's proper and natural setting.
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so, your saying i'm not right because i'm 14? what about all the other ppl on this sight that agrees with me? whats your excuse for them? you will be surprised by how 14 year olds can be right to! gees, what nerve, using a persons age against them. 
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Yes, but men and women don't start fancying each other only after they're married. It starts a long time before that and it is a foundational element behind the whole process of courship, marriage and procreation.
Your husband wouldn't have married you just for the conversation and your charming personality, for if that's all he was after he could have just been freinds with you and left it at that. I propose that your husband fancied you, and yes, thought you were sexy.
I bet he still does. Why don't you ask him?
Your husband wouldn't have married you just for the conversation and your charming personality, for if that's all he was after he could have just been freinds with you and left it at that. I propose that your husband fancied you, and yes, thought you were sexy.
I bet he still does. Why don't you ask him?
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ok, so i'm rong because you say so and because i'm young and everything is a blur? ok, you know what, this situation about the word sexy isnt a blur to me. and your tight, a couple should be attracted to eachother, but that doesnt give the right for ppl at school to call girls sexy when they don't even know them, just that they know they have sexual attractions for them. and actualy, i think a couple should be sexualy attracted to eachother, but mostly attracted through God's love. because what do you think will happen as they get old? sexual attraction will be difficult to see. but the couple lasts not by sexual attraction, but by agape love, the way jesus loved us. that is what should bring couples together. not sexual attraction, but love.