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I'll assume that this is a platonic friendship between two people, irrespective of gender, language, religion, nationality, time-zone and media (as in, virtual or real). In this case, it would be -
- Acceptance for each other, as long as those are good virtues
- Care for each other
- Godly support (if it is a Christian friendship)
- Emotional support: a shoulder to lean/cry on, if the going gets tough
True friendship is friendship with boundaries: no financial support, no sacrifices to the point of absolute ruin, no bartering, and no demands. It is logical and can be perfectly understood by a third person.
- Acceptance for each other, as long as those are good virtues
- Care for each other
- Godly support (if it is a Christian friendship)
- Emotional support: a shoulder to lean/cry on, if the going gets tough
True friendship is friendship with boundaries: no financial support, no sacrifices to the point of absolute ruin, no bartering, and no demands. It is logical and can be perfectly understood by a third person.
I'm sorry this is off topic, but I had to say something here.
Recently at work, our boss left us written instructions about what he needed done. Our team, having the sense of humor that it does, wrote smart-aleck comments on his note in reply--in 3 different languages. Ironically... our boss (who has a great sense of humor himself) automatically asked if it was ME who wrote the comments... when all the other people on our team are the ones who speak different languages (which he knows!!) and not me!!!!
I am someone who is from a very diverse, multi-racial and ethnic family, and one of my pet peeves is when a person is made fun of for their accent or the way they may say something (or not be able to say something) in English.
My reply to such a person is always, "If you can't understand their English and are going to make fun of it, please learn to communicate to them in THEIR own language with perfect form and grammar and then translate it back for the rest of us in the same perfect English you are demanding of them."
I have enough trouble with ONE language... I have nothing but admiration and respect for those who try to learn several, and strongly believe their efforts should be encouraged, not slandered or maliciously made fun of.
Recently at work, our boss left us written instructions about what he needed done. Our team, having the sense of humor that it does, wrote smart-aleck comments on his note in reply--in 3 different languages. Ironically... our boss (who has a great sense of humor himself) automatically asked if it was ME who wrote the comments... when all the other people on our team are the ones who speak different languages (which he knows!!) and not me!!!!
I am someone who is from a very diverse, multi-racial and ethnic family, and one of my pet peeves is when a person is made fun of for their accent or the way they may say something (or not be able to say something) in English.
My reply to such a person is always, "If you can't understand their English and are going to make fun of it, please learn to communicate to them in THEIR own language with perfect form and grammar and then translate it back for the rest of us in the same perfect English you are demanding of them."
I have enough trouble with ONE language... I have nothing but admiration and respect for those who try to learn several, and strongly believe their efforts should be encouraged, not slandered or maliciously made fun of.
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Don't get me started on language learning (have I told you guys the tasty remote control story yet?). Or web translators which may well be how Maria is trying to communicate with us. But if I had to take a stab at translating poor English translations into good English, I imagine the topic of this thread is:
What is real friendship like?
Now we can get around to answering the OP.
Maria,
Si tienes mas preguntas, hay unas personas aquí saben español y estaría disponibles traducirlas. Puedes enviar un CCmail o PM a mi o cualquier persona ha escriben español. Bienvenido a CC.
Good grief that was tough. My spanish is really rusty.
What is real friendship like?
Now we can get around to answering the OP.
Maria,
Si tienes mas preguntas, hay unas personas aquí saben español y estaría disponibles traducirlas. Puedes enviar un CCmail o PM a mi o cualquier persona ha escriben español. Bienvenido a CC.
Good grief that was tough. My spanish is really rusty.
Empathy and knowing where someone is, that is true friendship. There is a trust that the other person will not hurt you but care when you hurt, rejoice when you are happy and want to be with you to find out what is going on.
Most people on planet earth are not good at understanding themselves let alone other people. Take the closest relationship of all, a husband and wife. It simply does not work very often, and ends up with hurt people lashing out at each other.
Look at Jesus. 3 years with the deciples and they still did not fully know him. They even fell asleep on his last night.
But Jesus still loved them, and understood their weaknesses, as a good friend does.
The first step is reaching out and seeing who responds to open invitations.
People can only share and give to the level they themselves have got to, and often that may not be very far. I know lots of good individuals who are leaning to be more open with how they feel and express themselves, and reach out. But it takes time.
Most people on planet earth are not good at understanding themselves let alone other people. Take the closest relationship of all, a husband and wife. It simply does not work very often, and ends up with hurt people lashing out at each other.
Look at Jesus. 3 years with the deciples and they still did not fully know him. They even fell asleep on his last night.
But Jesus still loved them, and understood their weaknesses, as a good friend does.
The first step is reaching out and seeing who responds to open invitations.
People can only share and give to the level they themselves have got to, and often that may not be very far. I know lots of good individuals who are leaning to be more open with how they feel and express themselves, and reach out. But it takes time.