After a short period of contemplation, and getting some inspiration from the philosophical wisdom of the book of ecclesiastes, I believe I have discovered the two main causes of relationship difficulties. The first cause is thinking. If you think too much in your relationship you will soon sink into negativity. What if, what about this, why this, why that. These things stem from a root cause of fear or worry which are not godly attributes. Probably 90% of issues that arise in relationships could be solved if you stop thinking about it.
The second one is communication. Most verbal conflicts arise from communication. Over-communication in particular. How many conversations have started well, only to end in a nasty exchange of words? When does this argument normally occur? Towards the end of the conversation! So a solution to conflict is to limit verbal communication, and prevent conversations going too long.
In fact, men instinctively practice these two methods of maintaining relationship - by limiting thinking, and by avoiding communication, such as when preferring to communicate with their partner with grunts, noises or growls and various types of hand signals, rather than cohesive and properly formed sentences. These types of relationships will probably last a long time because of this.
The second one is communication. Most verbal conflicts arise from communication. Over-communication in particular. How many conversations have started well, only to end in a nasty exchange of words? When does this argument normally occur? Towards the end of the conversation! So a solution to conflict is to limit verbal communication, and prevent conversations going too long.
In fact, men instinctively practice these two methods of maintaining relationship - by limiting thinking, and by avoiding communication, such as when preferring to communicate with their partner with grunts, noises or growls and various types of hand signals, rather than cohesive and properly formed sentences. These types of relationships will probably last a long time because of this.
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