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JFSurvivor: Hang in there!! you're strong enough to face this situation!! many times we dont understand why God put us into difficult situation.. but trust Him.. proverb 3:5... in my life i learn to trust and love God with tears 
He sees what we cant see.. i know you feel hurt now but this too will passed.. be patience with the process.. maybe this pain is preventing you for having MORE pain in the future?? who knows?? He sees what we cant see!! just pray and be in His presence.. you'll feel all of your heavy heart and pain gone with the wind.. He already paid all of it in His cross 
seek Him!! He will heal your heart and your circumstance...
He sees what we cant see.. i know you feel hurt now but this too will passed.. be patience with the process.. maybe this pain is preventing you for having MORE pain in the future?? who knows?? He sees what we cant see!! just pray and be in His presence.. you'll feel all of your heavy heart and pain gone with the wind.. He already paid all of it in His cross seek Him!! He will heal your heart and your circumstance...
JFSurvivor: Hang in there!! you're strong enough to face this situation!! many times we dont understand why God put us into difficult situation.. but trust Him.. proverb 3:5... in my life i learn to trust and love God with tears
I feel so lost...I wish I had answers...I think this would be easier if all the creepy stuff didn't happen and if it didn't JUST happen to me...which is really weird...it's like I have a one-way connection to him and he doesn't have the same for me and that's not so much hurtful as it is weird...
That happens to people all the time. Part of having any relationships is the knowledge that two people with their own wills are a part of it, so we may end up hurt (or hurting someone else). But better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all-- chin up!
UPDATE
I think I get it now. I just talked to someone who is similar to Brian in the sense that she doesn't get attached to people. The one thing that I was able to make sense of was that she was rejected and there is a VERY HIGH chance that he was rejected too. I don't know where to go from here but I am one answer closer to where I want to be.
I think I get it now. I just talked to someone who is similar to Brian in the sense that she doesn't get attached to people. The one thing that I was able to make sense of was that she was rejected and there is a VERY HIGH chance that he was rejected too. I don't know where to go from here but I am one answer closer to where I want to be.
UPDATE
I still have his number in my phone and I feel like I am supposed to delete it...but I don't want to...I don't want to let go yet...not completely...especially when he's gonna be coming to my state....I feel like he is intruding on my territory...
I still have his number in my phone and I feel like I am supposed to delete it...but I don't want to...I don't want to let go yet...not completely...especially when he's gonna be coming to my state....I feel like he is intruding on my territory...
Yes, that must be hard to delete his phone number especially you already know him for many years and in the nearly time he'll move near you.... just give him some moment to be "alone" with all of his problem and re-think about your friendship (1 week?? 2 week??).. if he still contact you after he cooling down then its okk.. just pray that God protect your heart so if he is back and suddenly dissapear again you wont feel hurt/dissapointed/betrayed by friend... if he didnt contact you anymore.. hmmm.. let him go.. at least you had tried to ask him what happened and tried to resolve your friendship.. if he is not interested with all of it... hmmm.. well... let him go... i know that he is your friend and after few years you both share story etc etc but if he didnt interested anymore then just forget and forgive him...
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It's really hard to not text him cuz I have his number memorized. I could really use some distracting PM's. Thanks...
It's really hard to not text him cuz I have his number memorized. I could really use some distracting PM's. Thanks...
keep your mind busy so you wont have time to think about text him anymore.. walk around or cooking or something like that.. (i know its still hard and each time your mind still there.. lol.. but at least try and you'll used to this situation soon) just be careful with your heart if one day he start to text/call you again so you wont feel dissapointed again and again..
Feel free to PM me if you like, so we can chit chat (girls talking) lolol... i can tell you about my "online friend" too in PM
hehehe >_<
Feel free to PM me if you like, so we can chit chat (girls talking) lolol... i can tell you about my "online friend" too in PM
hehehe >_<
keep your mind busy so you wont have time to think about text him anymore.. walk around or cooking or something like that.. (i know its still hard and each time your mind still there.. lol.. but at least try and you'll used to this situation soon) just be careful with your heart if one day he start to text/call you again so you wont feel dissapointed again and again..
Feel free to PM me if you like, so we can chit chat (girls talking) lolol... i can tell you about my "online friend" too in PM
I'll take you up on that!
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Ontherange
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I'm sure you met for a reason, in time the reasoning may become clearer. But..... I think giving him some space might be a good idea, friendships are like a beautiful flower, you need to know when and what to do, if you over water a flower it wilts and dies, if you underwater a flower it also wilts. You need to find a happy medium where you keep in contact with him but give him his space, if God wants you to find each other you will.
I've had a "divine" friendship as well. My first love and I found each other just after my mother passed away and her father left her. After a few years We parted ways, but we still have immense love for one another. Somehow we find each other when were both in extreme need of love and support, somehow we always physically meet just after something happens. The last time, she wasextremely depressed and was in serious trouble, she was going to leave campus that day to do something extreme, but it just so happened that was my first day at that campus (I was only there for a few days, something seemed to draw me there) When she saw me she couldn't believe it.Luckily we met up and spent a few days with each other and that helped her get back on track. She is now doing amazing. We always physically meet without planning, it is strange. She has "saved" me a few times before to. We never plan to save each other but somehow we are brought together. No matter where we are. I still miss her everyday but I know I'll see her again. I give her space because I do still love and care for her, even if it's tough.
if it is meant to be God will help guide you.
i pray that this helps you
I've had a "divine" friendship as well. My first love and I found each other just after my mother passed away and her father left her. After a few years We parted ways, but we still have immense love for one another. Somehow we find each other when were both in extreme need of love and support, somehow we always physically meet just after something happens. The last time, she wasextremely depressed and was in serious trouble, she was going to leave campus that day to do something extreme, but it just so happened that was my first day at that campus (I was only there for a few days, something seemed to draw me there) When she saw me she couldn't believe it.Luckily we met up and spent a few days with each other and that helped her get back on track. She is now doing amazing. We always physically meet without planning, it is strange. She has "saved" me a few times before to. We never plan to save each other but somehow we are brought together. No matter where we are. I still miss her everyday but I know I'll see her again. I give her space because I do still love and care for her, even if it's tough.
if it is meant to be God will help guide you.
i pray that this helps you
at this point I just want him gone. I miss him but I want him gone from my mind and life. I want this creepy spiritual stuff to stop. I want nothing to do with him. It's weird because I have a gut feeling that he's going to be back but I do not want to believe it so here's my plan: distract myself at all costs and completely ignore that feeling because it's probably wrong....I don't wanna get my hopes up again cuz then I'll get hurt...
Well sis if u were here I could distract u...I'd take you out and teach you to surf. Its coming into winter and the water is freezing. I promise you, you wont be thinking about anything else lol
hugs tc Sis
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Sirk
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I think if I could impart one thing to you to put into practice now, that will save you a lot of heartache in life is to lower your expectations of others. It took me too long to figure that out but I have much more peace as a result.
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Sirk
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Just lower your expectations of their behavior and don't attach your identity to how others treat you . People will sin against you.
I think I need to clarify something...this guy had such a huge impact on me...well he left when he started college he is now starting graduate school. That is how long I have been missing him for. I don't know why I have missed him for this long. I was thinking about it and I thought, "why can't I let go?" and it just confuses me why I care so much about someone who doesn't care about me. Trust me if I could stop missing him I would...It's gotten better though...sleep helps. Only time will tell though. I'll know I have truly gotten over him when I can go a decade without dreaming about him and/or missing him. So it will be a while.
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Sirk
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