Seriously don't know what to do

[Brody]

I don't have to pray to God to tell you what to do to be in His will.
I know it by heart...here I will tell you. You reap what you sow. You are reaping what you have sown.
The only thing that you can do to make everything good...is to start sowing good.

Then you will reap ...good. Until then you are stuck with what you have already sown.

Grown up and be a man of God and do what is right.

No matter what.

Then you will be able to enjoy the fruits of your labor.

Until then you get what you deserve.

That would've been cute.
......what you said.

When people (like yourself) don't know enough about a person or situation but just enough to make them feel entitled to give his /her ignorant opinions, they often compare situations in their own lives or that they've seen and are too blind to give opinions like the one you just gave, but you went into it blind so I don't completely fault you. Being too eager to respond arrogantly is a sure fall.

However.....
You obviously don't know me nor my struggle. I have gone through a life time of struggle; loss; people walking on me since childhood, parents left, and left in the hands of the courts having to figure out ways to still be there to protect my siblings, have gone thru job after job, cars wrecked, repossessed etc. Best friends disconnected from me, God cutting off relationships with women loved, or being abused by church people in particularly things I'd shared with leaders exposed to the public or over even the pulpit through whatever crooked reason there was. Even in my own family I've experienced things I won't divulge over social media however even up until I seem to not be able to shake some things which attacks me. Through it all my friend i manage to keep pushing, and loving on people. I miss sometimes and don't handle things like I should or do what I should but I let God correct and move on. BUT please don't talk to to me about sowing what I reap my friend. And if you feel that I'm reaping pray that God fixes me because I try to stay clear of putting myself in situations which will cause me to "sow bad seeds." I have worked hard to please my father, before I married I took 4 years to work on me and my love level and to make sure I never do anyone ways I've been done. Feel free to comment though, I am not perfect we are each others comments, so this is just me expressing how I feel my friend, no diss toward anyone

 

[Brody]

we are each others "Brothers Keepers" is what I meant to say.

 

[BrightLight]

That would've been cute.
......what you said.

When people (like yourself) don't know enough about a person or situation but just enough to make them feel entitled to give his /her ignorant opinions, they often compare situations in their own lives or that they've seen and are too blind to give opinions like the one you just gave, but you went into it blind so I don't completely fault you. Being too eager to respond arrogantly is a sure fall.

However.....
You obviously don't know me nor my struggle. I have gone through a life time of struggle; loss; people walking on me since childhood, parents left, and left in the hands of the courts having to figure out ways to still be there to protect my siblings, have gone thru job after job, cars wrecked, repossessed etc. Best friends disconnected from me, God cutting off relationships with women loved, or being abused by church people in particularly things I'd shared with leaders exposed to the public or over even the pulpit through whatever crooked reason there was. Even in my own family I've experienced things I won't divulge over social media however even up until I seem to not be able to shake some things which attacks me. Through it all my friend i manage to keep pushing, and loving on people. I miss sometimes and don't handle things like I should or do what I should but I let God correct and move on. BUT please don't talk to to me about sowing what I reap my friend. And if you feel that I'm reaping pray that God fixes me because I try to stay clear of putting myself in situations which will cause me to "sow bad seeds." I have worked hard to please my father, before I married I took 4 years to work on me and my love level and to make sure I never do anyone ways I've been done. Feel free to comment though, I am not perfect we are each others comments, so this is just me expressing how I feel my friend, no diss toward anyone

You don't take to correction to well, do you?

 

[Brody]

You don't take to correction to well, do you?

I think I do. Most people who know me, boss, peers, friends and family will say I do, I'm a rather humble person actually. But if one isn't nearly bringing true genuine correction but going off their own fleshly opinion which comes from their own feelings and not Gods opinions then no I don't take too well to it. Reaping what I sow had absolutely nothing to do with this situation I have presented to you all. But people often equate 'blessings; things' with Gods approval, that to me (having finally learning this in life is so far from the truth of what God is really about. You may disagree and that's absolutely fine....but I get it though people often suffer because of their own faults however me knowing that I've. Given all that I have to my family and not purposely sowing bad seeds or to the flesh confuses me as to why one would make that claim against me.
To answer your I sincerely love being corrected, but despise being humiliated and made out to be a complete fool by people, let alone people that don't know me, I do that enough on my own.

Let me ask you a question now, please......did you ask me that because you genuinely agree with most of what everyone had to say or because you're just getting on board because its 'in' on christian chat. Honest question. Not that it matters I guess, just curious as to what your intent was in asking me. Thanks friend.
God bless.

 

[atwhatcost]

That would've been cute.
......what you said.

When people (like yourself) don't know enough about a person or situation but just enough to make them feel entitled to give his /her ignorant opinions, they often compare situations in their own lives or that they've seen and are too blind to give opinions like the one you just gave, but you went into it blind so I don't completely fault you. Being too eager to respond arrogantly is a sure fall.

However.....
You obviously don't know me nor my struggle. I have gone through a life time of struggle; loss; people walking on me since childhood, parents left, and left in the hands of the courts having to figure out ways to still be there to protect my siblings, have gone thru job after job, cars wrecked, repossessed etc. Best friends disconnected from me, God cutting off relationships with women loved, or being abused by church people in particularly things I'd shared with leaders exposed to the public or over even the pulpit through whatever crooked reason there was. Even in my own family I've experienced things I won't divulge over social media however even up until I seem to not be able to shake some things which attacks me. Through it all my friend i manage to keep pushing, and loving on people. I miss sometimes and don't handle things like I should or do what I should but I let God correct and move on. BUT please don't talk to to me about sowing what I reap my friend. And if you feel that I'm reaping pray that God fixes me because I try to stay clear of putting myself in situations which will cause me to "sow bad seeds." I have worked hard to please my father, before I married I took 4 years to work on me and my love level and to make sure I never do anyone ways I've been done. Feel free to comment though, I am not perfect we are each others comments, so this is just me expressing how I feel my friend, no diss toward anyone

Yes, because telling someone their opinion is ignorant, is not dissing. Do unto others what you hate done unto you?

 

[cinder]

???I have asked my Wife for a separation. I have asked this before and before that and before that however this time I can no longer deal, there is no making up at this point. WE DESPERATELY NEED A SEPARATION! When I got home tonight asked her what her plan was after I made it incredibly clear that we were finished several times this week even in marriage counseling 2 days ago, she tells me she isn't leaving. Now I feel that I am going to have to get the law involved and possibly a restraining order because for her to know we are this unhealthy and won't leave is insane to me. Why won't I just leave you ask, well its not that easy for me. I'm in a lease and its in my name only. I am the only one who works. However shes a little younger than I and can move back in with family, and it was hard to even get THIS place. However I made it clear that I'd help her along the way financially but she is being very irrational man. I don't know what to do. Please pray that God helps me to be in his will with my decisions. THnk u

Bro I hear you but my life is at stake man....my character and everything I've worked so hard for, this (as cliche as it may sound) this woman has a heart to ruin me. I have to get away from her. She says she's been a believer ever since we got married however my marriage has been hell, and if its not my fault she finds a way to throw it on me. I'm not talking about petty stuff man I'm talking real deal stupid stuff. The other day I was lied on....LIED on by my own wife about something that could have easily put me in jail, me being a black guy doesn't help, but why would she do these things is my question, man I'm scared man, I work hard to please my wife and she is so cold, so evil acting, i cant stay in this. But thank you for your input

Specific advice requires specific details, since you haven't provided much of anything concrete about your situation here are some practical things to consider:

1) She refuses to leave though the residence is in your name only. If she has family nearby that she could stay with, it might be worth considering why she is so adamant about staying in the current messed up situation. Seems like your options to achieve any sort of separation are to either 1) leave her alone in the place you rent while you stay somewhere else ( can you trust her not to destroy the place if you do so ?) 2) find some way to both physically and legally (I have no idea what the laws are for a spouse's right to live in your residence) prevent her from living in your home. If she's as irrational as you portray, expect to have to get the cops involved to fully enforce this. Expecting her co-operation at this point seems foolish.

2) Why did you marry this woman, and how long have you been married? When did she first start acting this way? How is your relationship with her family? If you don't know them, what does that say about her relationship with her family?

3) What activities does she have in her life to give her purpose and make her feel useful? If she's not working, what does she do with her time? What are her desires and goals? Does she have a well developed habit of just raising a big stink until she gets her way in everything? How does she participate in and respond to the marriage counseling? What impact has counseling had on the dynamics of your marriage so far?

Well hopefully that's some good questions to help you think through the situation a bit more rationally. I don't expect you to give me the answers or post it publicly, but hopefully it can help you see things more clearly.

 

[Brody]

Yes, because telling someone their opinion is ignorant, is not dissing. Do unto others what you hate done unto you?

I'm really slow at times. Would you explain what you meant because I didn't understand

 

[Jesus4ever]

Brody, I'm in the middle of a separation and let me tell you one thing. The pain and confusion only gets worse! If she is willing to and wanting to work this out, then seek Gods strength to help you hang in there and get past the anger and hurt that you are currently going through. Be glad that there was no infidelity going on, and I do understand how messed up a marriage can get. Its not easy being with someone who is abusive in any way. Just a suggestion: Get away for a few days to clear your mind and pray. Come back, and start showing her a new kind of unconditional love, like Christ shows towards us. Give it some time to take root. Work to save your marriage. Its not always possible but God will bless you for it. I tried for over a year to save mine, but there was too much betrayal, abuse and unfaithfulness. Ultimately, you will be the one to choose. Try to seek Gods will. God bless you and I am praying for you and your wife. xx

Brody..,,listen...,been there.
Stop pancking..thats what satan wants.
You're married , so...run to your pastor. PRAY specifically NOW. Fall to your knees, beg for your marriage. Cast all your care upon him for he careth for you. This is when faith is put to the test.
Im praying wisdom for you, clarity of mind. Take control not by shoving her away but by spiritually suurounding both your lives with the Holy Spirit
Dear Lord, as your child Brody needs your wisdom. Help him not be fearful but couragous as he wants to know the right things to do. We remember your promise of caring of he and his wife and you want yo help their marriage. I pray for Brody's wife. I pray protection around her. I pray you bind Satan from their marriage and home.
All in your name Father,
Amen

This, brother!


I´ll pray for your marriage!

 

[josabadm]

Hey, maybe you guys should be away from each other for three weeks. Tell her to talk to a maybe trained Christian counselor as well as for you, but maybe be away from each other during those counseling times also. Then throughout the weeks think about your marriage and relationship with her, and the counselor should also tell her to do the same. You or her (maybe you) go to a different house or place during the weeks. If an additional week or two is needed then go for it. I'll pray for you!

 

[pwrnJC]

I do recall the old testament prophet Hosea that GOD Himself said "GO...and take back your wife from the slave auction block" (paraphrased) Their marriage had disintegraded and his wife Gomer became the 'talk of the town'. She had bore Hosea 3 children. She gave her body to survive on the streets but GOD..in HIS love and wisdom, used this personal example of HIS redemption salvation to show Israel that, although they had become vulgar and had set their standard lower than sea level, there is still hope. Hosea bought her back for for 15 pieces of silver and 1 homer of barley and 1/2 homer of barley. HE then, in a gesture of forgiveness, told her "DO not be with any other man and I will be with thee! THERE is still a rescue ahead, there is still VICTORY!

 

[kaylagrl]

I think I do. Most people who know me, boss, peers, friends and family will say I do, I'm a rather humble person actually. But if one isn't nearly bringing true genuine correction but going off their own fleshly opinion which comes from their own feelings and not Gods opinions then no I don't take too well to it. Reaping what I sow had absolutely nothing to do with this situation I have presented to you all. But people often equate 'blessings; things' with Gods approval, that to me (having finally learning this in life is so far from the truth of what God is really about. You may disagree and that's absolutely fine....but I get it though people often suffer because of their own faults however me knowing that I've. Given all that I have to my family and not purposely sowing bad seeds or to the flesh confuses me as to why one would make that claim against me.
To answer your I sincerely love being corrected, but despise being humiliated and made out to be a complete fool by people, let alone people that don't know me, I do that enough on my own.

Let me ask you a question now, please......did you ask me that because you genuinely agree with most of what everyone had to say or because you're just getting on board because its 'in' on christian chat. Honest question. Not that it matters I guess, just curious as to what your intent was in asking me. Thanks friend.
God bless.

I was going to post what cinder said...slow down and tell us the details of how you got here. As far as your marriage is concerned when did your wife change.You loved her,you married her,then what? Dont be dramatic like she is evil.That is a very broad description. Tell us exactly what got you here,what changed in your marriage and why divorce is the only way.I see you are quite young.There are married folk here that will give you solid advice if you'll listen.You said you wanted to do what God wants you to do.Well the Bible allows for divorce only in the case of adultery which you said is not the issue.So what are the issues that have you so upset?