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Hi everyone, I need some advice. My sister just came from another state recently and brought her 2 kids to live with us. They have been here for about 8 months, and I love it because the last time I saw her was 8 years ago, so were all happy that she's here. I love my niece and nephew but I'm a little disappointed with their behavior. My nephew is always nice with me he just argues with his mom, and that's not my issue so I hardly get in between. But I babysit my niece because I stay home with my 2 kids and she's not what my sister thinks, and I feel horrible because she's the apple of my sisters eyes. She's 7 and my daughter is 4 and she likes to watch disney channel movies, where teens kiss and my sister allows it. Personally I don't think they should watch that specially because my daughter is always behind her my daughter looks up to her always trying to mimic her. The worst is that once she stole 500 dollars from my brother (her uncle) and she didn't say anything when she saw us looking for them, the only reason I found out she took it was because my partner my cousin was going towards the restroom and he saw her with money and she hid it quickly and smiled. She lied when we asked them until after a while she said "maybe I saw money somewhere" and she took it out from a different place then where she originally placed it. But the worst was when my mom asked her to get up from a recliner where she was sitting to cover it so the kids won't get it dirty and she got so angry when my mom put down cover on the recliner she threw it and hit my mom with a key chain and threw pillows at her. My mom told her to tell her mom when she comes home but she never did, until recently I told my sister but she didn't tell her anything. Yesterday she told everyone my daughter says lots of bad words, of course she didn't say it in front of us, she said it when we were gone, but my mom told me when we got home and I asked her "does my daughter say bad words to you?" And she said I never said that but my mom was there and she said "you did, you just told your mom and I the other day" and she said "well maybe once" mind I say I've never heard my daughter say any bad words, she said maybe one or two when she was little but we corrected her behavior and haven't heard any since. She's also always yelling at my daughter and she bosses her around. Idk what to do, in front of us and her mom she's the sweetest girl, but behind our backs and when her moms not home she's something else, but even in front of me she acts sweetly but I've heard what she tells my daughter and how she talks to her. She even told her she's going back to her home country and my daughter told her "but you don't have to go you can stay with us" and she "but I want to go" and then she tells everyone my daughter told her to go back to her own home country. Since I babysit I always catch them having these conversations, and my niece doesn't notice me listening. I haven't spoken to my sister, because she probably won't believe me and she will probably also do nothing about it and think I'm out to get them. It's very difficult I know she's a child, but it's hard when her mom doesn't correct her faults. What can I do, so my daughter doesn't get influenced by her? One time it was horrible, I was going downstairs and I heard them coming in from the garage her and my daughter and I heard my niece say "if you tell anyone I won't be your friend anymore" and I told my sister what I heard because I was shocked and it turns out she lied right to my sisters face, my niece said "we were playing dolls in the garage" and when I asked my daughter she said "well we went outside to see the pool" and when I told my niece in front of my sister she confessed to it. And they know they're not supposed go out there and my daughter never went to the backyard alone. One time I suddenly hear my daughter crying and I come running and my niece says "I don't know why she's crying" and I take my daughter to another room and ask her and she says "my cousin kicked me in my butt" and I waited I until my sister came home to ask my niece and once my sister got home I asked and she said " well I thought it didn't hurt her and I wanted to wake her up because she was asleep" and I don't believe that because my daughter stopped taking naps a long time ago. I'm sorry for the super long post. I'm just venting don't know what to do. I love my sister and her kids but it's getting to a point where I'm stressing out. I don't leave them alone at all, this happens so fast. While I use the restroom or feed or change my 10 month old, or when I'm cooking. I'm sorry for my rant, but I'm so saddened about it. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
